Hi Nicole,

I can relate to your friend S. When I was in my early 20’s and new to my city, I made a best friend (K).. We’d been good friends for a few years when I met another girl (M)… M was super bubbly and I liked her right away but little did I realize that although she was older than me, she was kind of immature… I wasn’t sure I would end up staying friends with her but none the less brought her to meet K. The two became friends and I felt awkward and a little left out at times… So I experienced some jealous feelings with K. Today, 20 yrs later, we’re all good friends.

From my experience, the reaction that S had is more about S than you and E. She has stuff going on in her life and head that is making her act out this way. Namely, i’d say she’s insecure with herself and with the relationship the two of you have. Have you tried sitting her down and asking her what’s prompting all of this?

Maybe a little compassion and friendly support is all she needs? In any case, I am not saying her behaviour is excusable and right, I just think that good friends are hard to come by and if she is a good friend, then she deserves some compassion and support and a second chance.

Have the talk, see what may really be going on and then see if things change or not and whether the relationship can continue.

Best of luck.