Dear yoda428:

You wrote: “My intellectualization of this has covered all the bases… I know. I know. I know.”

In these matters there is only one kind of knowing and that is emotional knowing. When there is no emotion behind your intellectual knowing, your knowing is useless. Unless we are talking about mathematics and physics. But the nature of love- it is not for intellectual understanding- will never due. The knowing that counts is in your emotions. It is a shame your therapist or therapists did not try or did not succeed to make your emotions accessible to you so that you can really know.

TIny Buddha’s article http://tinybuddha.com/blog/your-feelings-have-messages-for-you-so-stop-ignoring-them/

is pretty good indeed.
anita