Dear Judy:

The choice to attend this university was a group-choice, the group is your mother, your father and you. Three people that I know about. your parents moved so to get in state tuition. They invested in this group choice and you invested moving with them as well as attending it as long as you have. This choice is not working out well. You are paying with much distress. The group choice should be re-visited by the group who made this choice. You should sit with your parents and discuss it the best you can, like three adults. Each person invested in it. You are greatly suffering. You should not suffer alone. Some solution should be worked on to relieve your suffering. If you stop attending the university their investment will be lost and so will your investment. But so is life, lots of what we invest in does not bring the reward intended. We have to be flexible enough to re-evaluate choices made for success or failure and make new choices the best we can. There can be growth out of this, your growth, a growth of your relationship with your parents.

You may choose to attend your bf’s college? And you may have to do it without an additional investment on your parents’ part.

anita