Dear Libby

You know who your mother is, experienced her rejection, her lack of love for you, her “hot and cold’ behavior and yet you insist on putting your children in her presence. They are already experiencing what you did: her rejection, un-reliability and yet, you pursue her to be in their lives. Why? Why do you insist passing on the misery to your own children?

The love you think you see your mother giving the other grandchildren is not love. It may look like love, going to the zoo, etc. but it is not love. The woman doesn’t have it in her. Why do you pursue a mirage?

Mercy on your own children, let go of your mother, insist that she does NOT spend time with your children. Explain to your children the truth (not the whole truth, but enough of it) and see to it that your mother is not in your life or theirs.

anita