Dear starfish2111:

I read your original post again and although the craiglist issue is a valid concern, it seems to me that you are emotionally over reacting to it, meaning your worry about the craiglist tool a life of its own and has escalated without a worsening of his behavior and in spite of his efforts to solve the problem (support group and therapist).

This may be a tendency on your part that will make almost any relationship with a man impossible or very difficult, that is if you take one issue and run with it to nowhere.

What if you and him attend therapy, separately or together- how about together, that may be a good idea???

So you work on the dual problem here: his craiglist occupation and your need to tolerate the fact that indeed no relationship is guaranteed and none will be without problems.

anita