Hi jack,

I kind of know what you mean. Who would take care of you if something bad happens, what would that look like and can they afford it?

But what if you’re alone? Freaks me the heck out!

This year, for whatever reason, friends, family, and acquaintances have been dying off. At least one a month if you average it out. (Usually three a month and then nothing ~ clusters). Older people look at me and say, “Well, you’re getting to that age…” It drives me nuts.

So off course now I’m thinking quite a bit on our own mortality.

Sometimes I lay awake at night in a panic. What if my DH dies before me? And what if he dies NOW? I’d be screwed. He’s the type of person who micro manages everything into HIS screwy system! Like he has 100 passwords on one crumpled sheet of paper written in smudged pencil. But then he has gorgeous spread sheets on the household budget. But then he has to dig around 1000 business cards to find the name of the new guy who handles our taxes. And yet has memorized the number of the snow plow guy. And that’s just the household stuff. What about the business??

If you take active steps to prepare for the inevitable, probable and possible, that’s all you can do.

Getting back to disabilities, now I know why people say, “S/he died in his/her sleep, it’s a blessing.” Not even being disabled, but being very old.

I want to be a spry 90 year old who will die in her sleep!! Living in a cottage with my DH! With a personal secretary/house manager to make sure we’re OK if one of us dies first!!

I don’t know if I answered your question/thought, but it did activate an anxiety in me!

Inky

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