Dear Anita,

When he expressed his concern about me texting other guys, I avoided talking to them already. He hit me because he thought I didn’t have a clear cut with them. So I blocked them after the fight. After that, he didn’t trust me still and when we had arguments, he would be quite angry sometimes to throw things on the floor. He broke my phone and camera one time. I’m not sure if it’s also part of the violent behaviour.

And I believe if I can truly forgive what he did and cope with his temper properly, I would not do such a selfish act of cheating. I have issues of forgiving and trusting people after the hitting I guess. And this is what I wanna heal from. Any good way to let go of the past?

I learn from this break up that I have to be faithful and honest to my partner no matter how bad the situation is. But I still feel very low self esteemed every day I wake up. I feel worthless and I don’t deserve a happy relationship anymore. It’s hard to see that I would have a bright future. How to think more positively?

• This reply was modified 9 years ago by ameliau.