Dear Gabrielle:

When did you tell him about the cheating or did he otherwise found out? From your story I don’t know how long he has known (and how long therefore it is that you owned up to it and apologized). I imagine TIME is a very important factor in him processing the cheating, and frequent apologies, to family and church, are not going to compensate for the need for time.

Waiting for your reply to my question and any information you would like to add: what is the nature of your interactions with him now? What does he say to you? How does he behave toward you?

Out of curiosity: how did his family react to you asking forgiveness from them? Are they strong Christians and reacted in the Christian kind of forgiveness way?

anita