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December 8, 2015 at 4:45 am #89220
AnonymousInactiveDecember 8, 2015 at 8:09 am #89232AnonymousGuestDear ElleTinker:
I like this quote from the article: “So when people ask, How do I know if I’m in love? I redirect them to what I consider to be an infinitely more beneficial question: Is my partner someone with whom I can learn about love? I then encourage them to recognize that their attachment to the feeling of love is a misdirection of a longing for their own aliveness.”
Excellent point, right there!
anita
December 8, 2015 at 5:41 pm #89271AnonymousInactiveThat’s great. Doesn’t apply to me though since I don’t look for lovers/or relationships. It always finds me.
December 9, 2015 at 7:39 am #89297AnonymousGuestDear ElleTInker700:
I was wondering, and hoping it may be beneficial for you to examine:
Why do you need a proof that you truly loved your ex girlfriend (topic of thread)? What is the doubt about? Who is doing the doubting?
Why does the quote I gave above NOT apply to you? Why is asking yourself: is my partner someone with whom I can learn about love, why does that not apply to you (your last post)?
Did you ever look for lovers/relationships? (last post)? When did you stop looking? How does “it” always find you? Does it find you unwilling and then draws you in?
anita
December 10, 2015 at 5:38 am #89387AnonymousInactiveIt’s not that I need proof but the reading the blog/post nailed it on the head that I had an authentic relationship with my ex as far as truly loving her. Nobody ever doubted my love for her except for my ex at times but I proved her wrong by actions by showing her I loved her very much. That her being born was a precious gift to my existence in this life and maybe even a past life ( I don’t even doubt.) Well, I’m not saying that learning about love from ex doesn’t apply to me because that part does. I learned a lot about myself and how much of loving person I actually am because of her. When I was 19,20 and 21 years old – I can say that I was definitely looking for love because I didn’t know what it really meant at the time and wanted to know what it felt like to be in a relationship, thanks to television/movies brainwashing me all my life that it was suppose to be perfect and a fairytale. I learned very quickly at 21 y/o – 25 years old what love truly was and what it actually meant. The 5 1/2 years I spent loving & grieving over my ex, proved to me that I actually knew and felt what it was like to truly love someone un-conditionally. I never thought I would find love in the place that I met her. It just sneaked up on me and surprised me. It was just meant to be. True love found me and I never seeked it. It just happened. The rest is history. At this point in my life, the universe has guided me to where I need to be and what is meant to be for me at this point in time. I’m taking each day at the time. I will say this – I have no time for fake people in my life nor unnecessary drama surrounding me. I drift away from people like that. If people judge me, the. They have no time to love me. I’m all about living life being positive and believing in the greater good of things.
– Namaste
December 10, 2015 at 7:43 am #89390AnonymousGuestDear ElleTinker700:
You are a very interesting person to me, from the posts I read so far. You are not easy for me to understand, mysterious… lots is unknown. Not exact words, but these come to my mind.
You wrote that you didn’t know what love was before you met your ex gf, I suppose you mean romantic love…or otherwise, I don’t know. I know you met your ex in a club and working together was where most of the physical relationship took place. Most of the time since you loved her was spent physically away from her. I also know you believe in past lives, in past lives still living in you, and that you believe that your dreams predict the future.
Of course, with past lives and old souls (is that the term, I forgot at the moment) and the psychic ability to tell the future, you are a very interesting person. A mystery, really.
Thank you for your answers and looking forward to more posts by you.
anitaDecember 10, 2015 at 8:59 am #89398AnonymousGuestDear ElleTinker700:
It is okay with me if you don’t answer my following questions. I don’t expect that, not from you and not from anyone. It is your right of course, to not answer and my privilege (not my right) to get an answer from you. In the context of this forum I am interested in having a better understanding of you. If you are willing, please answer; if not- do not. I will not ask you any more questions after the following if you do not answer and/ or if you state you are not interested in these or any more questions from me.
Having stated all this, my questions are regarding what you wrote above: “I have no time for fake people in my life nor unnecessary drama surrounding me.”
My questions:
What does it mean to you, “fake people”? Who was the first fake person in your life?
What is “unnecessary drama”? What was the first unnecessary drama you experienced in your life?
anita
December 11, 2015 at 2:46 pm #89468AnonymousInactiveHi Anita,
Yes, I know what it is to truly love someone in a romantic way. Most important un-conditionally. When I also mentioned fake people and drama, that goes for anyone and everyone. I work with a lot of people on a daily basis and so I’m always observing behaviors. So I always find it unique and refreshing when a person stands out personality wise. To put it in the simplest terms, I like to surround myself with good, loving, understanding and genuine people. I have built many great relationships with those kinds of attributes. Building long lasting relationships whether it’s a friendship or romantic relationship, it takes putting in the time, self worth, Communication and of course the simple effort. It’s an eb & flo.
It’s worth it though. Looking back at things now, it appears that I wasn’t worth the time or of any value to my ex for us to work on keeping the door of communication open that was easy and predictable. Now days and now that I’m much older, if someone’s communication isn’t up to par with mine, I’ll just remove myself/disconnect from that person.
I’m all about be easy going and things just flowing easily between friendships. Romantic relationships take work and time to build and some people don’t see any value in that and that is fine with me but I do not allow myself to be involved with people like that. I’d rather be on the same page, than not.
Have a good evening and namaste.
December 11, 2015 at 4:54 pm #89479AnonymousGuestDear EllleTinker700:
Thank you for the post above. Namaste to you too!
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