Dear Anita,

Thank you and I have slowly learnt that people who go out there way to hurt others are either jealous or in pain theirselves.
My mother for some reason dislikes me and I have stopped trying and caring to understand why as that is her pain that she has to deal with and how now she no longer has a relationship with her daughter for over 12 years now. She never liked that I was independent and never needed her like my siblings and she is that type of mother that needs to be needed – sad really!
What saddens me is that my dad always use to defend me and the day I fell out with my mum I caught him on a bad day and he defended her and said awful things to me and told me to decide if they were good enough parents for me and if they wasn’t then don’t contact them again and I chose not to as I decided that they and my family caused me more pain in my life than support and I have been much happier without their spiteful words, judgement and negativity in my life.