Hi Anita,

In terms of what distresses him I can think of a few things, he has some issues that he has never dealt with from previous relationships namely trust issues. I have been aware of this since the start of our relationship and I haven’t let it get me down knowing where it comes from. When we first met he said that what he liked the most about me was my ability to just calm him down as soon as he saw me, but now this same calmness became too much and he didn’t like it anymore. He didn’t mention any of this to me while we were still in a relationship, only when it ended. He did say once or twice towards the end of the relationship that he wasn’t feeling himself but I didn’t understand what he meant and told him that he needs to find things that he enjoys doing for himself. I do agree that communication must have been an issue because I didn’t know these things until it was too late. I also don’t know what has been bothering him, why he has been distressed in our relationship, I haven’t ever given him any reason to not trust me or doubt my loyalty to him.
While we were together we talked about the future and had already started buying furniture together for our home one day, this was only a few months ago and I feel that if he made a decision to leave me then it must have been towards the end. I still have these items and his other belongings but he said that he doesn’t want to take it now. I’m so scared that he will not give us another chance, I truly love him and I am prepared to fix what I can from my side but I don’t think he feels the same. He has dated many girls in his life but has only had one other serious relationship before me where he considered marriage. I feel that we have come so far that we shouldn’t just give up now.