Hi Jackie,

Thank for your reply but he isn;t doing it every night.
He went through a bad period where he was drinking heavily to numb his feelings and then as we were rebuilding on the marriage we put boundaries in place and he broke them a number of times.
Boundaries were put in place to rebuild trust in the marriage and when he broke them I was so upset! And this was more than a handful of times.
It got to the point that if he didn’t want to change then I would end the marriage
His drinking got better but then when he got angry he would do it again and then I get the remorse he would change and then he would slip up again.
I can’t take much more as now even though his drinking has calmed down he is now saying that I treat him like a child with alcohol. Well if you didn’t act like a child then your wouldn’t be treated like one!
He is now pushing this 3am drinking thing and I refuse to accept this and his excuse is that it is “normal” and he just wants to enjoy his life!
My patience is running out as I am so over this argument in my life and it has been a constant struggle for 3 years now and I can’t do anymore.
He has started counselling the other day to deal with his resentment and anger to me but after the first session he came home and let it all out on me again and not sure I can be patience and support him through this whilst being the target of his anger and resentment with his put downs and vicious words.