Well, I don’t know how bad your anxiety is, but myself, whenever I feel very anxious or sense a panic attack coming I go somewhere quiet, close my eyes and take ten slow deep breaths. If you can’t find a quiet place [I know that’s not always plausible] just stop and take some slow deep breaths.

Meditation, journaling, and mindfulness has also helped my anxiety. Specifically you should try meditation and journaling. Meditation can help calm yourself after a busy day, journaling can bring insight. My first journal I would carry with me and whenever I wanted to remember something I would write it down. After some time, go back and read though the journal. You will find some things that might help you. My one journal I have had for almost 3 years [I started August 2013 and I’m down to my last couple pages] I would go over it on new year’s because enough time passed I could observe my thoughts better. 2013 i was very bitter, still mad at my ex, even though I have an amazing boyfriend and the breakup was 3 years prior. I felt I moved on, 2013 i started journaling to find what I want to do with my life, and reviewing I realized a lot of my goals at the time were fueled by a ‘I’ll show my ex’ attitude. 2015 ended and I’m finally over the ex hurdle, but I noticed other ‘problems’ I wasn’t aware of. Point is, you might be able to pinpoint where to ‘start’ through journaling.

When I started my journey of self discovery [hate that term but I guess it works] I made a list at the beginning of what I wanted and why. [And reading it years later I can’t help but shake my head at what a fool I was] a list might help you find your first big ‘complaint’ with yourself. After I found mine I read a lot of articles on the subject which usually branched into similar fields, and I would slowly shift my effort from one problem to the next. So, I feel you shouldn’t focus but flow. One day your energy might be all about weightloss, the next day you might want to finish a book you started 6 months ago. While you are still eating right and exercising more, it will eventually become second nature, so juggling goals will help you.

Granted, that’s just stuff that helped me and I simply stumbled into it lol ^_^; if you feel you can’t do it alone, talking to friends, family, or perhaps a councillor might help more. Good luck to you.