Dear takeflight:

Yes, people often enough give us conflicting messages that leave us confused about what are they really saying. When this friend tells you she is supportive of the union between you and the guy on one hand, and then tells you the timing of this union is bad, she is giving you a conflicting message. So when that happens, as it did, ask her what she means by “bad timing” and see if she can give you a CLEAR message.

Some people will continuously give you conflicting messages and will refuse, once you ask for clarification, to give you anything but double and triple messages. This is their nature… became their nature. I can’t stand interacting with such people because I hate being confused unnecessarily. So I stop interacting with such (I … take flight from such people).

anita