Dear Max:

I understand your discomfort about turning away from the positions (against the relationship) stated by those who supported you, family, friends and people here on tiny buddha. And I believe that Above All (the supporters included), To Thine Own Self Be True.

I believe you owe your loyalty to the truth as you see it more and more, above all.

It is okay, I believe, to turn against the opinions of all who supported you if you believe you are doing the right thing. Those who support you truly, will continue to support you whatever you choose to do in this relationship.

It “sounds” like indeed she is sincere and at times vulnerable, like an innocent child and that is endearing. She has the potential there, in that innocence, in her loving and lovable deep nature, to truly love and be loved by you.

There is that potential. That kind of potential exists in all people though and most will not be the right people for you to be in a relationship with.

This is something to keep in mind…. How far is she from that potential, may be the question. What is in the way? Blatant things, like her inability to let go of an ex is a clear indication that she is not THERE yet and … may never be in your lifetime… or in the next ten years.

anita