Dear L:

Dear L:

You see him in pain and you hurt for him. You value his well being and are distressed that he is in pain. I would like you to notice that you are also in pain and that your well being is no less important than his. And more: that it is your job and responsibility first and foremost to attend to your own well being. In this dynamic of pain that you are in, don’t get lost in his pain. Return to yourself and put yourself first, again again.

As you see him hurt, you feel “his” hurt but not really. All along you always felt your pain. You can never be in his head or in his heart and feel what he feels.

Focus again and again on you. If there is a chance of love again between you and him it can only be if you focus on yourself now.

Please post again.. and again.

anita