Dear Alicia1211:

It is necessary that you told your parents: for as long as you are in contact with them, they will soon find out and will probably be involved in the baby’s life. It is a bad idea to have your parents directly interact with the to-be-father, is my point. Your parents having a direct relationship with him means there is nothing much between you and him and nothing much that will be. Maybe this is his wish, I don’t know, but that is what will happen: the more they interact, the more of an outsider you will be in your own life.

I figure you are heart broken at the thought that he doesn’t want to be with you. Again, you need to hear it from him, not to hear it from your parents.

When will you see him face to face, at best if you are both as calm as possible, just you and him? The meeting must be non threatening for him. I think he is overwhelmed, as you are and maybe his parents are siding with him while your parents are siding with you and both sides are ready for war?

Better prevent the war. Meet with him in peace and hope you and him will choose peace over war, keeping both sets of parents away to mind their own business. I am sure they have their own issues to work on.

anita