Dear Aislynn:

As I read your post about the grocery store experience I was thinking what a good writer you are. You have the ability to describe a situation in such detail that I can see it, step by step. I think you have a real skill and talent, so much so that the idea of you writing for a living seems possible to me and it is exciting!

As to how are you supposed to meet an introvert if you are one? Well he doesn’t have to be an extreme introvert, and neither are you supposed to be at the extreme end of the introvert- extrovert continuum. This is an All-or-Nothing thinking, isn’t it?

About you being happy about your ex boyfriend not having had a good year, what it tells me is that he hurt you, that you came out of that relationship hurt. So naturally you want to hurt him back, you want him to hurt for the hurt he caused you. It is natural. It does not indicate you are a bad person, only that you were hurt.

His prediction that you will not do well without him hurt you a lot, and this is why you want to …correct that hurt by proving to him you are doing well and better than he does. Only what he thinks doesn’t really matter (hard to believe, isn’t it?)-

One day you will realize that what he thinks doesn’t matter.

anita