Dear Wisdom:

I just finished reading all your posts since you became a member here, four days ago or so.

This is what I am thinking following reading all your words here: I am thinking you never or hardly ever got the attention that you needed, as a child and on as the young adult that you are. Maybe your parents were nice to you as a child but they didn’t pay you anywhere close to the attention that you needed, not anywhere remotely close to how much attention any child in your place would need. So you grew up alone, lonely. And you felt attention was given to your younger brother. Maybe you felt he had something that you didn’t have, that he was worthy of the attention he got. You figured, did you not, that the reason you didn’t get the attention you needed was because you were not worthy of it, that you were a nobody (your word).

Being alone for so long, being a child alone for so long is a very powerful experience in creating this feeling of almost not existing. We need to feel connected to others so to feel that we even exist and that we matter..

If you agree with me so far, if you feel this is the case with you, the long term solution, the path of healing for you is in finding connections with other people, getting the positive attention you always needed. Here is one place where I personally can pay you attention, and intend to be as helpful as I can be in seeing who you are, letting you know I see you, that you exist and that you matter. The more you share here, and the more I respond, I hope, the more … of a someone you will feel.

As well as connecting with other people, not with the people who for so many years did not attend to you, family memebers but new people in your day to day life.

What do you think so far?

anita