Dear Amy:

I like it that you are asking this particular question, not that I have the answer, but I like it that you are asking this question at this point. And of course, I would love to explore possibilities with you on how to achieve this.

I think that thinking about him has become a habit. The thinking about him in the physical reality of your brain means there are well worn neurological pathways that have his name on them. There are connections between nerve cells in your brain, well established, strengthened through practice, so you are inclined to think about him simply because you have been thinking about him for so long.

So, like any habit, this destructive to you habit needs to be broken. It is not going to be easy because habits are hard to break and this is a mental habit.

I have ideas but first, do you agree this is a mental habit, something that you do automatically at this point, inclined to do anytime whether you want to or not, often not? And if so, do you have ideas about how to break this mental habit?

anita