Tami I can TOTALLY relate to this (which is funny coming from the other side of things as the person who is usually the flirt).

I think its awesome that you recognized where the jealousy comes from. The question is- what causes the lack of trust and the low self esteem? Is it something from your past that you can work on, or is it something your partner has done to make you feel this way?

I have had partners in the past that have made me feel more insecure, and I became a more jealous person because of it. I have also unfairly become jealous based on expectations I have carried over from previous cheating boyfriends. At the end of the day, I was able to overcome these things through conversation with my boyfriend at the time, and through introspection.

Hell, I still struggle with this from time to time. My current boyfriend has friendships with some of his exs (which I am actually okay with – I do as well. i think its a good sign that his exs still wanted a friendship), but on occasion I get jealous and try to understand why so I can work on it 🙂 My partner is very loyal– so I know this time it is not coming from him, but instead coming from my past experiences and insecurities. It’s an ongoing journey!

If what you would like it accomplish here is to work on self-esteem, I would recommend starting from the origins. It seems to be working for me 🙂