Dear Wisdom:

About what is real: what is here and now is not all there is, I am sure, but what is here and now keeps me occupied: there is so much to learn about what is here and now. I would recommend learning more about what you CAN see.

About choosing: babies don’t choose; young children only begin to choose and lots of people, adults, choose automatically much of the time, without thinking.

As to relationships and the guy you are interested in: as a young woman I can understand your interest in a loving relationship with a young man. This is one of the exciting things in your future. I understand that you are afraid to be rejected by this guy and that is why it takes courage to approach him, fearing he may not remember you or that you may not be his type.. This is a tough situation, to do something you are afraid of doing! To risk rejection…

Very tough, because the possibility of you feeling hurt as a result of approaching him is a real possibility. It may happen. Therefore, somehow, if you choose to talk to him, to approach him, you must be prepared to a possible rejection. In reality it cannot harm you: you are not having a relationship with him now, and if he rejects you, nothing in reality changes: you didn’t have a relationship with him before you approach him… or after. No difference. But you may feel hurt and you must be prepared.

Do you think you can summon the courage… and be prepared somewhat for a possible rejection?

anita