Andy,

Reading your post touched my heart and makes me sad for you.

Forgive me as i’m still learning to reply correctly on these forums, It seems that I don’t do well at getting back to everyone on here but I try and do the best I can. Maybe this is not for me, since I can’t seem to get to everybody as the forum gets jumbled and flooded really quickly by the time I sign on.

Anyway, Even if you were trying to win her over or get a reaction, there’s nothing wrong with that since you genuinely love her a lot and have spent years knowing her and being with her. That is your authentic self and if anybody judges you otherwise, they are wrong. You have every right to reach out to the woman you love. I get the photography part since, I get somewhat afraid to post a picture with me and another female friend because I don’t want to give my future wife the wrong idea that I’m cheating, flaunting/showing off. That’s not and has never been my motive. I only do it to celebrate my healthy friendships with people. I feel that’s it is really messed up that she started dating someone else a week later. I hope she is mature enough to sit down and talk to you about all this. It’s only fair, since you are hurting so much. Which is completely normal and understandable when you love someone so much, like you do her.

I will say that if she can’t even consider your feelings by sitting down with you somewhere, where the two of you can talk, then that just goes to show how immature and heartless she is and you don’t deserve that. Nobody does. A good woman communicates (whether it’s over in her mind or not) the healthy thing to do is sit down and at least talk. I obviously don’t know her but I hope you can get in touch with her. Let us know how you are doing. Anita will be of great assistance to you, like she has been. She’s better at keeping up with everyone on here, than I am.

Sending you a bunch of love, positivity and light your way.

M.