Dear H1978:

I read some of our correspondence late last year. You were going to leave and spend some time in the U.S., start divorce proceedings and selling of the house. And he just started going to counseling then. On this thread you wrote that your marriage is back on track. Does this mean he made progress in counseling….? Is he no longer taking out his anger on you?

How is your marriage back on track, I wonder. However it is on track, you still don’t feel it is good enough to bring a child into it- and I very much respect you for that!!!- I don’t know the nature of your marriage- if you withdrew from your decision to get a divorce because he changed his behavior through counseling and better communication with you- or you just got scared and stayed in a marriage that is still unhealthy.

I am lost at this point- oh, the title of your thread… I am lost in understanding your struggle, whether it is you being afraid to leave your job and marriage (and dog) … OR has he really changed?

anita