Dear Wisdom:

I really am curious and hoping for others’ answers. As to my own, here is my reply to every part of your post here:

“…do you think or know if we get the love we ask for?” I don’t think you GET the love you ask for, you MAKE it happen. When you use the verb GET, it means to me that you are placing yourself in the passive position of asking and hoping to receive, when reality is that to have a loving relationship, you need to be an active and assertive part in it!

“…does god give you that?” I don’t believe there is a god. But even if there was, obviously, he doesn’t GIVE people loving relationships with others: you still have to be an active part in it! You have to get it, to look for it, to make it happen and maintain it. This is so for people who believe in god AND for people who don’t.

“say you have a person in mind – would god give them to you?” No. It may happen, but like winning the lottery, you have to do SOMETHING to have any chance of having what you want.

“or would you say that this is selfish?” I don’t think it is selfish to have a person in mind. It is not selfish to feel anything and wanting someone or something is a feeling. A desire is a feeling and none of your feelings is selfish.

“…does god defy want we want? does god want us to hang on a string of confusion?” god, if he or she or it existed, his/her/its job is … obviously not to give us our wishes. It may be Santa Claus’s job and that is only on Christmas day. it is not god’s job, so you are looking for your wishes to come true, but you are looking for the wrong … person to give your wishes to you. Making your wishes come true, Wisdom, is not god’s job.

“…i guess i just want to hear what i want to hear.” And so, you will hear only what you want to hear…

“do our beliefs outshine our fears?”- your beliefs so far, Wisdom, did not outshine your fears, this is why you are still afraid. Your beliefs haven’t worked for you so far.

anita