Hi BlueHue,

Perhaps contact Al-Anon, which is a group for family and friends of alcoholics. Everyone there will GET the dysfunction. One of the first guidelines is Tough Love. DON’T take the calls. DON’T bail them out of jail. DON’T visit them. It is when they hit Rock Bottom that they finally begin to think about getting better. That may take Decades. It may take tomorrow.

The threatening to tell your BF about you cheating… What the heck??? If they can do that to you, then that is a sign that they are MORE than willing to throw you under the bus. Especially when the stakes are higher. Will they tell your Future Husband (whether he is your current BF or not) about what you did? What I would do… is, rightly or wrongly, deny, deny, deny if it comes to that. And, God forbid, she or he ever get it in their strange heads to ever blackmail you, call their local police who will make a very uncomfortable visit. Blackmailing is a crime. Now, that hasn’t happened, but my hair stands on end by them trying to mess with you.

And a word of warning… Even when the alcoholic is in recovery, they can still be a Dry Drunk. Meaning, her behavior will improve, but she may still try to pull the same crap of old.

Take care of yourself,

Inky