Dear Anita and H1978,

Thank you so much for your responses.

After that talk, he has withdrawn a lot from me, and we haven’t spoken for about a week now. He refuses to pick up my calls.

One thing that he told me repeatedly was “Criticism is how I show people that I care. I wouldn’t criticize you if I didn’t care deeply and believe so much in the fact that you have room for improvement”. He believes that he uplifts people by pointing out their flaws and by rejecting this trait of his, I am more or less saying that I have a big problem with who he is.

Personally, I think there is more to any person than the ability to point out other people’s flaws, and I do feel that he is limiting himself by defining his worth with something so narrow. But right now, he feels rejected and I am afraid he might leave me to turn to others who are “in need of him”

Any thoughts on what I should do? It hurts to stand between a rock and hard place.

thanks in advance,

Wendy