Dear Jonnym:

I often say, the place where we live, our home, is in those few inches in between our ears: this is where all those thoughts and feelings are happening. So as you were preparing a lovely home for you all, you neglected to inquire about her in-between-the-ears-home, aka her “complicated head”. Yes, that was a mistake. Of course, it is easier to reconstruct a house than to reconstruct one’s brain (and it is impossible to reconstruct another brain), but at the least, I suppose, you should have inquired.

But the fact that following her childhood, she had a terrible marriage herself and the men in her life letting her down, that is not a reason for optimism about your relationship with her either.

Learn about that home in between the ears of the next woman then?

anita