Dear Ravi:

If directly asked if you being independent and self sufficient is a good thing, she would say Yes. But if you practice being independent and self sufficient she will express her disapproval of you.

So she is indeed, unreasonable, as in not reasonable, logically inconsistent… cognitively untrustworthy, and so forth.

And like you wrote in the most recent post, no relationships without conflicts, therefore being assertive is a must- have skill.

Jerry sure means the world to you!

A festival? Hope you enjoy it and I hope your message to her will be short and light and that she will respond in kind.

Good night (for me), take good care of yourself!

anita