Posts by Andrew Cain

Andrew Cain helps people who are “too nice for their own good” become better friends to themselves by teaching them how to stop rescuing and people pleasing, get on their own side, and stand up for themselves without feeling selfish.  You can get his free Love Yourself guided meditation and Get On Your Own Side course here.

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How to Stop Rescuing Other People to Feel Good About Yourself

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” ~Jack Kornfield

It seemed like the natural thing to do.

A middle-aged man had dropped his keys near me. I jumped up, hopped over, picked the keys up, and gave them back to him.

Not so unusual, except I had a badly twisted ankle after slipping on a walking holiday and needed to rest it while the pain and swelling went down. I struggled back to my seat, wincing.

It was a small incident but symbolic of my rescuing, codependent instinctive habits at the time. If something needed doing, I …