Posts by Jan Bates

Jan Bates is a retired educator who worked in university residence halls and in the public school system as a teacher. She participates in a variety of volunteer roles and sees them as opportunities for building interpersonal skills. She remains deeply appreciative of the radical influence of a skilled AEDP therapist in her life.

How I Stopped Dismissing Praise and Started Believing Compliments

“I’ve met people who are embattled and dismissive, but when you get to know them, you find that they’re vulnerable—that hauteur or standoffishness is because they’re pedaling furiously underneath.” ~Matthew Macfadyen

It was impossible to miss the dismissive hand gesture …