Posts by Lianna G. Ruben

Lianna G. Ruben is a writer, earth steward, and former middle school teacher. She is passionate about wild growth for people and plants. Her writing focuses on social and emotional learning for all ages. Learn more about her at liannagruben.com/ or @LiannaErica.

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Are You Really Listening? 4 Ways to Understand and Connect with People

“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.” ~Ralph G. Nichols

My partner and I were in our first few months of a long-distance relationship. This was a new stage for us and it meant altering our communication practices. Instead of sharing meals and museum exhibits, we had weekly emails and Skype chats.

Every week, I would pour my heart into long, detailed emails to him. I would describe everything that I had done and thought over the past few days.

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