Posts by Shalagh Hogan

Shalagh Hogan, pronounced Shay-La, dwells in Maryland with her husband, teen boy, nine-year-old girl, and three cats. Her lifestyle and self-discovery blog at Shalavee.com just turned eleven. Her hope and joy as a writer and an artist is that, by sharing her journey of self-discovery and creative soul-searching, others will gain inspiration and permission for their own journeys. She spends much of her online time with her community on Instagram.

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The Major Aha Moment That Helped Me Stop Fixating on Fixing Myself

“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.” ~Maya Angelou

My newest friend ended our three-month-long friendship on a July day when I’d just returned from a dreadful summer vacation. Her Dear Jane email read, “It’s not you, it’s me.” The lever had been pulled, I was dumped, and I thought, “Ha!” I’d spent the last three months trying to help her fix her problems. I knew she had more problems than me.

But then an anxious, obsessive thought loop began. What did it really mean? How could it not be about me?

This wasn’t the first