Posts by Tara Alexander

Tara Alexander, Ph.D., ACC, is a licensed mental health therapist and certified life coach. As a speaker and trainer, she helps groups become assertive and tackle conflict. You can get free hands-on tools through her blog and vlog at ConquerConflict.com.

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5 Things to Know When an Abusive Parent Dies

“Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache.” ~Iyanla Vanzant

My brother called me at work on a random Tuesday to say that my mother had suddenly died. Powerful emotions of shock and relief ran through my body, like someone rang a gong right next to me. The war was over.

Like most people with an abusive parent, I had previously wondered how I would feel when my mother died. I was not surprised at the relief, nor that I wasn’t sad.

I did not think about what …