Posts by Thomas Westenholz

Thomas is the Founder of Zensensa.com the leading institute for relationship intimacy. He is the author of two books and the host of the Zensensa podcast.  A dating coach, relationship coach, and confidence coach.Provides premarital counseling, couples therapy, online marriage counseling, relationship counseling & marriage therapy. Marriage counseling near you. Trained in Somatic relationships therapy. Created the 3-step love model and end people pleaser syndrome.

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Strong and Vulnerable: How I Learned to Let People In

“Vulnerability is hard. And it’s scary, and it feels dangerous. But it’s not as hard, scary, or dangerous as getting to the end of our lives and having to ask ourselves, ’What if I would have shown up?’” ~Brené Brown

January – 2012

I remember sitting in a small, dark room waiting for the surgeon to arrive.

My son had just had major surgery to treat a complex condition that had cost him his small bowel, and it had taken much longer than expected.

My stomach felt tense as the surgeon sat in the chair opposite us.

He looked at …