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10 Ways We Hide from the World & Why We Need to Be Seen

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“Don’t hide yourself. Stand up, keep your head high, and show them what you got!” ~Joe Mari Fadrigalan

Sometime in high school I started to disappear. If I think back to the source of my disappearance, it was probably in sixth grade, the year all of my girlfriends ostracized me from sleepovers, parties, and general friendliness.

I was resilient, made some new friends, and forgave the old, but I kind of stopped trusting people. And when you don’t trust people, you can’t be yourself around them. So I decided to disappear.

I remember becoming ghost-like. I remember it being a choice. A conscious choice.

I decided to slouch in my desk and cover my eyes. I decided to silence my voice when an opinion was provoked. I decided to avoid eye contact. I decided to skip parties, stop making efforts with people who made no efforts with me, and hold my breath until graduation day.

And this is what I learned: people let you disappear.

I don’t think I expected to be saved, but no one crawled into my hole, grabbed my hand, and pulled me out.

If you want to disappear, you will. You’ll meet someone five or six times and they will never seem to remember meeting you. You’ll walk down streets and people will bump right into you. You’ll be looked through and talked over.

The world does not carve out a space for the voiceless. They do not roll out a red carpet and invite the invisible to parade through.

This is the great lesson of life: you get what you ask for. If you want to disappear, you got it. If you want to be seen and heard, you can have that too.

Disappearing is much easier, I have to say. It doesn’t take much energy to shut up and fade away. What’s much more challenging is acknowledging to yourself that you’re worthy of being here and facing the pain that’s required of being seen.

Here are some of the ways we hide:

1. We don’t give our opinion because it’s different from what other people are saying.

2. We avoid eye contact or look away once initial eye contact is made.

3. We speak very softly and timidly.

4. We slouch and hunch over in an effort to shrink ourselves down.

5. We wait for other people to initiate.

6. In conversation we don’t offer up anything about our lives, our feelings, our interests, our thoughts.

7. We decline invitations to parties, to dinners, to coffee, to anything new.

8. We tell ourselves stories about people so we don’t have to like them and, inevitably, let them in.

9. We don’t tell the truth to others.

10. We don’t tell the truth to ourselves.

I was waiting to live. Waiting to feel okay in my skin. Waiting to find people I could trust and open up. Waiting to live the life I wanted for myself.

This was a dangerous lesson in my life. It taught me that it was okay to hide, that it was okay to shrink myself down to a barely audible whisper. Hiding became a habitual coping mechanism.

When I moved to LA in my late twenties, I realized that no one knew me. I had some amazing people in my life who lived all over the country, but this was my new home—and no one knew me.

Around this time I began to heal myself through mentorship and breathwork.

I learned to value myself, to recognize my inherent worth, and I became more open. I took risks: I maintained eye contact with strangers, I smiled, I gave out information about myself without it being requested of me, I asked people out for coffee, I had presence, I was vibrating at a higher frequency.

And guess what started to happen? People were seeing me. At cafes people looked me in the eye, and we made small talk, sometimes real talk. Neighbors learned my name. People remembered me.

We all need to be seen. It’s part of what makes us human. When we don’t allow ourselves to be seen, we diminish our importance in this world. We undervalue ourselves. We hold ourselves back from greatness. We stifle our contributions. And it just plain doesn’t feel good.

A life of joy is one in which we feel comfortable showing who we really are to the world. It means accepting the fact that we’re going to stumble over our words sometimes, be misunderstood sometimes, and even be disliked sometimes.

But even in those moments we will still love ourselves first. We will allow the pain of others to be their pain and not our own. We will do our best to continue to give love to those who need it most, even when the remnants of their rejections sting.

When we shrink ourselves down we diminish our light. We literally become invisible. People look right through us, walk around us, and forget our existence because we have allowed ourselves to disappear.

There is light that vibrates through each of us. When we love ourselves we are illuminated, and we can’t help but be seen. People flock to light. 

Hiding in a dark shell of a body is not a life. It’s a holding room. It’s the place where you’re choosing to find safe harbor until the storm passes. But the more you hide, the more difficult it is to come out. Everything feels like a violent storm.

We avoid our own lives and, in doing so, relinquish our right to living a truly happy one.

There are some really uncomfortable things we have to encounter in this life. We are all wounded. The only way to get to the other side of any pain is to walk through it.

Sometimes you have to walk really slowly, and sometimes you have to sit in the pain and feel it deeply.

Sometimes you have to let yourself be humiliated, heartbroken, and defeated in order to walk through the other side resilient, lighter, and wiser.

The only way to shed the burden of our pain is to face into it and feel the love buried deep beneath. And we need you to walk through the fire. Because the truth is that we need to see you as much as you need to be seen.

If you’re hiding right now, please come out. We’re all here, waiting to meet you.

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About Michelle D'Avella

Michelle D’Avella is a Breathwork teacher and mentor, giving people lifelong tools to free themselves of limitations and create lives with more peace and purpose. Download her FREE guide to heal your heart and follow her on Instagram for daily doses of inspiration.

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  • hannah

    thank you so much for this article. It really spoke to me. In my case, I have lived for more than 10 years in a country with a different culture and language from that where I was born. Although I’ve come to speak the language well, I find that I consistently hide myself and fail to open up in my second language.this is something I’m slowly trying to work on, hard to overcome the fear that I will be judged. But I want to operate on a higher frequency not only in my native language, but all the time.this something I’m slowly

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  • Sometimes I still struggle staying in my own little world, and whether it’s selfish or simply needed, I shut the world out.

    The outside world is much much better than our own (little one), because you’re right, there is a light within us. I also believe it’s part of being human–to be seen by others, and that should be at the least. We may interact more deeply with other people, and that’s absolutely wonderful, but at least we should be seen, consciously.

    Thanks for the inspiration.

  • Susan Mary Malone

    “Waiting to live.” That just said it to me! Thank you, Michelle!

  • Missn

    Sometimes I think that hiding, for some of us can also be about control…sometimes we control out of fear, sometimes it is for other reasons…but control is not love so I believe we have to work through that. Love means, or the state of love means, allowing ourselves to be vulnerable.

  • I agree. There are many reasons we hide, but at the root of all of them is fear.

  • My pleasure, Susan!

  • Hi Ethan! We all need detox time to recharge. However, that’s not the same thing as hiding. You’re right that part of being human is being seen. Community is essential, and to have that authentically means we have to allow ourselves to be vulnerable, seen, and supported.

  • Hi Hannah! I really appreciate the challenge faced by those who live in cultures different from the one they were raised in. It’s a challenging enough thing to allow ourselves to be seen in our country of origin. I have a very close friend in a similar situation as your own, and I will say I am constantly impressed by her. Give people a chance to surprise you. I bet the people you open up to will very forgiving of any language glitches and open to connecting to you more deeply. When someone opens up in front of most of us can’t help but open up ourselves. The energy is contagious. 🙂

  • Kathryn Jones

    Hannah your comment really struck me; that could be me speaking! This article really spoke to me too. I’ve lived abroad for about 15 years now and although, like you, I speak the language well, my fear holds me back. I often speak very quietly or not at all, for example. I wish you all the best working on it.

  • Wishing you the best, too, Kathryn! My comment to Hanna below applies to you as well. xo

  • Gotham Buddha

    Isn’t it sad though? How people are so immersed in their own lives to barely notice that someone is suffering and all it might take to pull them out of the dark hole they’re in is just a friendly gesture on their part? Well I guess the other person can say the same, that we are too busy to care about what’s going on with them.

    I have a question: Why is it wrong to live like this? I am LITERALLY living the life of a ghost, I lived through my college like this and I came out with naught a single person to call a friend. So what? It takes so little energy to go through stuff, no meaningless social interactions on a daily basis and you can have all the time in the world for what you really want to do.

    What do you REALLY get by being noticed? A single, fleeting moment of pleasure that the other person knows/recognizes you? After all, there is the possibility that they can turn out to be the same right, I mean end up hurting/ignoring you? Chances are, someday they will. Everyone will. Then why not just kill the need to connect and seek external validation? Become a one man island, if you will.

  • It’s not about it being right or wrong, and it’s certainly not about external validation. It’s about living a deeply fulfilling human life. Human beings are wired for social interaction. When I’m talking about being seen here I’m speaking about a deeply personal experience of being comfortable being who you are in the world. When you vibrate at a higher frequency people see you for who you are, you have beautiful interactions with other human beings, and life is brighter. There is no more fear of being hurt, being ignored, or being noticed. What I’m speaking about is a different orientation to life.

    And yes, it’s sad that people don’t always reach out, but the type of hiding I’m speaking about is not something other people can solve for us. This is a really about self love and acceptance.

  • Great post. I love that you broke out examples of how we hide. I find myself doing some of these. Thanks for sharing.
    -Tara

  • Thanks, Tara! Glad it helped.

  • wendy brennan

    Lovely and true for me

  • Thank you, Wendy!

  • Nikunj Verma

    During my childhood i lived like this. Though I was quite unaware of the life i was living, I knew..my presence was never noticed. I never had a view of my own. I always allowed others to initiate for me. This situation continued for long..nearly till some past years. I was a housewife then. Then I initiated to work out. I searched and found a job for myself. It was a turning point in my life. From a poor housewife to a reputed school teacher. I had to work longer than expected since I had no training to work out of the four walls of my in-law’s house. Because I had decided..so I did it. Being simply honest to my work and my assignments..today I have an experience of teaching..a good name at my work place..an identity and image in the society and reverence among my students. I don’t fear in talking to others and sharing my thoughts with them.

    The most important lesson of my life I learnt during my years as a teacher. Yeah! I learnt..I can do..only if I want to. I have to gather all my courage to stand on my own..and..now I find others value my potential. I receive appreciation for my performances. I learnt to be positive and fight against..and find solutions.. instead of crying over my sufferings.

    I regularly read The Tiny Buddha articles, and really feel more positive and energetic in this world of many colors..every second person of a different and perhaps difficult to deal with nature.

    As always this article has been of a great help to me. Once again I freshen up my thought of making efforts to get what I wish to. I know..I need to be seen..and I will have to do such things that I am seen and valued. I must have the courage to initiate and be accepted. And it will be possible only through my own wish and repeated trials to make the things.

    Love..

    nikunj..

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  • Thank you for sharing your story, Nikunj. I’m glad my article resonated.

  • contronymble

    this post really spoke to me. as a child, i was deeply introverted and never spoke in class unless answering a question that i knew. i was so quiet that halfway through the marking period one year, one of my teachers asked if i was new to the class. college helped change that and when i moved away from home for grad school, i felt really able to be in the world in the way you describe. but now, i’m back living near where i grew up and feel like i’m regressing. i’m not sure if it’s job stress or the effect of helping to be the caretaker of my aging parents, but i find myself not wanting to go to social engagements, not speaking my mind, and, especially, not offering up any information about myself to others.

    and while i recognized myself in this piece, i wish there was more advice on how to change these behaviors. sometimes it’s not as easy as willing it to be different, though recognizing the problem is a start. would love to hear how other people who have dealt with this have done so..

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  • Melilot

    Thank you for this article. I spent many years being invisible and being great at it… Then I finally decided to let people in and formed some great friendships… Or so I thought. After a trip that ended badly, my best friend couldn’t speak to me and the group continued on closer than ever.. This hurt me in ways I never imagined possible and I became invisible again. I’m really not sure I can ever trust like that again. I now realize that their actions were the result of their pain and I have forgiven but I don’t think I could go through anything like that again.

  • Hi Melilot! Thanks for sharing your experience. So great that you are able to see their actions are caused by their own pain. I do hope you choose to trust again because you are punishing yourself in not doing so. Life is full of risks. We love, we lose, we hurt. Then we do it again. The love is always worthy of the pain. To hide in fear is to limit the depth of our love. Wish you all the best.

  • LA is a great city! I really love living here and have definitely grown immensely from the experiences and people I have encountered. However, I definitely do not grant Southern California as the source of my life transformation. The profound experience of discovering who you really are is spiritual- not locational.

  • Thanks so much for sharing this. Wow, that must have been traumatic to hear your childhood teacher as if you were knew. It reminds me of times when I’ve met people repeatedly, and then they walk over and introduce themselves as if for the first time. It stings.

    It’s really awesome that you’re conscious of where you’re at. My personal transformation occurred with the help of a mentor and through the practice of Breathwork. Breathwork is a very powerful active meditation that can help you release stuck energy and limiting beliefs and feel an immense source of love. Mentorship also helped me see the areas I was stuck and helped me let go of false ideas about myself that were holding me back. I really recommend you find support and a spiritual practice to help you get reconnected to who you are so you feel comfortable sharing yourself with the world.

  • bigdo

    Even though im 100% sure the migrants fleeing starvation and war there would immensely disagree…. Maybe your 1st world existential crisis was somehow… Spiritual….

    Those in the lap of luxury get trampled on as well…. Surely….

  • Hi Michelle.

    Great Job. I am sure a lot of people struggling with self image and self doubt would really appreciate this work. Your light is pretty bright. 🙂

    I have one curiosity though.

    As you look back to the past, what do you think really helped you to make the shift?

    Was it the LA, mentorship or breathwork?

    I mean I understand all three played roles but what made you really get going in the direction of light, away from darkness?

    Or maybe it was just the time factor that caused you to feel that you have hidden enough and it is time to shine.

    Good post once again. 🙂

  • Hi Gotham.

    Good question.

    I think you’re confusing “quality interactions with small number of people” with being invisible.

    It is better to have only a few quality relations than being part of a big group that feels meaningless to interact with. You’re not looking to seek external validation. In my opinion, this is not being invisible.

    Invisible is when we are not comfortable with the kind of person we are from inside. So we are not sure of how to “be” around others. And this darkness is something we all want to diminish.

    For example, currently I am in college. I love to read and write about topics discussed on blogs like this one. But none of my friends do.

    I have few quality friends but I am not a part of any major group. But I don’t feel invisible. And I find lots of time to read/write about what I love. 🙂

    So I think being invisible is different than solitude. Darkness needs to be diminished. Solitude helps in self expression 🙂

    To quote Michelle, “being comfortable being who you are in the world.” That is what all of this comes down to.

    🙂

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  • raeganc

    How easy it is in our formative years to either stand out in the crowd or slink off into the back ground, I was the later growing up. I was quite the chameleon, always bending and twisting to fit in, not really formulating my own thoughts, feelings and opinions, cause it was easier to take on others. This followed through into my twenties, I was always employed and had friends, but there was always an incredible emptiness inside of me. It wasn’t until i was in my mid thirties that I started to really get in touch with who i was, I started to feel the hurts that i’d been burying down so deep, making connection with my body. This was quite transformational. When we begin to feel who we really are and start to live that in full, no holding back, incredible things can begin to constellate.

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  • Grg

    Exactly how i’m feeling right now. I know these stuff happens to most of us but when i feel too low & down, it feels like i’m the only person feeling this way. Being mostly socially awkward person, i’ve always found hard making & especially maintaining relationships with everyone in my life. Self- love & mediatation, positive affirmations have helped a lot but i realise i’m actually just hiding away frim the world- just like a turtle hiding its head inside it’s shell! I do want to be seen because having less to zero people around me makes me feel empty & lonely of course. Anyways, thankyou for the article, will read it once, twice & more! & hopefully i will come out the shell, radiate with beautiful light & totally own it & rock the world! hehe 🙂

  • jrpieces

    This article was great. Everything you said spoke to me. That is exactly how I was in High School and right now in my Life as well. I had good period between 21-25 that I was living myself as a Human Being but now I am just exsisting and its hard to get back to being that person again

  • jrpieces

    i am exactly like you

  • Hi jrpieces.

    Any specific event that triggered you to go back to old unhelpful patterns?

  • Paul Arthur Pabian

    I don’t know how I’m supposed to value my life and it’s possible range of experiences of the negativity has swallowed me whole. If I’m going to be poor and homeless guy the rest of my life why would I value my life? If I have no chance why would I try to make it better? Isn’t it greedy to want to be seen and acknowledged “as I am” isn’t that a ego separation? Aren’t we all the same? Yeah I wanna have nice times and it sounds nice to actually be who my relatives reject but if I’m poor and homeless surrounded by criminals and tweekers on the streets why even fight for that? Why not just let all the greedy assholes take over, it already happened to me…

  • jrpieces

    Had a Breakup and Ended a friendship

  • Hi jrpieces.

    It surely must be very challenging. I’ll give you that.

    I’ll share what has worked for me in this similar situation.

    When I lost my loved one, I was in great emotional pain. I had been serious, attentive. gave her her own space, respected her views etc…

    But one day she tells me that she no longer felt like she used to. And that was it. I was in quite a shock. Especially because I always felt everything was perfect between us.

    Now I felt emotionally damaged and vulnerable. But there was one thing that held me together. That one thing really made me gather myself up and look ahead.

    It was a simple knowing that THERE ARE OTHER IMPORTANT THINGS TO LOOK FORWARD TO.

    Emotionally I wasn’t stable at all. But just having the awareness that there were other things to work on such as career, developing a certain habit, working on my blog etc, made sure I didn’t break down.

    I wasn’t emotionally at a place to do all that. But I UNDERSTOOD that eventually I may be able to get myself to the point when I can to do all that. Because all that is also important to me as it was to have a partner in life.

    And this knowing helped me be okay and process that pain.

    Hope this helps dear.

    Keep shining. 🙂

  • Hi Paul Arthur. I’m not totally clear on what your life circumstances are, but I’m going to speak to the deepest point you’re making. Your life IS valuable, and you always have an opportunity to have a better life. I’m hearing a lot of talk about other people and the way the world is. Self love and acceptance (and that is really what I’m speaking about in this article) is about your relationship to yourself. This is the relationship that is foundational and primary. If you really loved yourself it would have gotten you somewhere. You would not have allowed yourself to fall through any cracks. You would have been putting yourself first. I hear a lot of pain, and I’m so sorry for it. I hope you choose life and allow yourself to deeply feel the depth of love that is possible through your own relationship to self. It’s not the ideal of love through the ego, it’s the all-encompassing love that comes from the deepest part of ourselves, the part of ourselves that is separate from nothing. Sending you love.

  • This is not a political dialogue. Of course there is a dramatic shift in happiness when life circumstances shift, but that is not what I’m speaking about. What I’m speaking about is a deeper relationship to life, something that many people struggling to survive sadly don’t typically have the luxury to contemplate. But, that is another conversation entirely. Yes, my deeper spiritual realization happened in the context of the first world. That doesn’t mean it wasn’t spiritual, valid, or profound.

  • Hi Ankit! Thanks for your comments on here. Your light is pretty bright as well. 🙂

    The most obvious source of the shift were from my breathwork practice and mentorship. Spiritual practice over time is liberating. But, it was actually more complex than that. We are all on a spiritual path and mine reached a climax around this time. So many serendipitous circumstances led me to the time and place where I able to transform so profoundly.

    My path was slow moving, but in my early twenties (right after college) I began to read a lot of spiritual and personal development books. The Power of Now had a big impact on my life among many others. I focused on consciously continuing to better myself. Slowly my life got better and better. The deep recognition of self love and self acceptance has been the greatest transformation of my life, but wouldn’t have been possible without all of the groundwork I had done prior.

    Does that resonate? Do you have your own practice?

  • Beautiful. Everything you said spoke to me. I’m glad you brought up making a connection with your body. The pain we hide from lives in the body, and when we learn to connect with it, feel it, and liberate ourselves from it we are learning how to heal ourselves. That’s why breathwork has been so transformational for me.

    So glad to hear you were able to make this connection for yourself. Was there a particular bodywork that helped you let go of the pain?

  • Yes! I hope you own it and rock the world! 🙂 The more you become comfortable with yourself the more you’re able to be with others without feeling awkward. I would also suggest letting go of the ideas you have that you even are awkward. When we label ourselves in this way we can limit our potential to be anything different.

    Hope to hear from you on your progress!

  • I also went through a breakup and ended a very close friendship at the same time. It was immensely difficult, but also liberating because I was making choices that were in alignment with my deeper self instead of constantly giving other people what they wanted.

    Just because things feel difficult doesn’t meant they are actually difficult. When we know ourselves we know what we need to do to live according to our own truth. Then the choice is simple. It may hurt, and it may feel difficult but the choice to do what is best for yourself doesn’t have to be tough. 🙂

  • Beautiful, Ankit! It’s all about relationship to self. We place too much focus on external validation, and that’s not what it means to be seen. It’s about loving yourself enough to be witnessed by the world as you are.

  • bigdo

    I disagree. EVERYTHING is a political dialogue.

    As far as your assertions about the “deeper relationship to life”, I find it odd that most often it is the people that are at the very top of said 1st world that always seem to have to question these things… The world never seems to be enough…

    I suppose if I was you, I’d attempt to rationalize everything the way you have as well… Must be nice…. and then, maybe not so nice.

  • Hi Michelle.

    So you’re saying that breathwork practises and spirituality played important roles, and you reached a tipping point which became a source of profound change for you.

    I love to focus on the conscious aspect of growth. For me, it is all about improving our understanding (growing conscious) of reality.

    The Power of Now is a great book. When I first read it, I remember identifying the burden of my own mind and I felt a lightness that I’d never felt before (perhaps you have felt it too). But it requires regular reminding of its ideas to keep away from mental patterns that create pain and stress.

    Growth for me began with a book that taught me the benefit of living proactively. Since then I’ve been an avid student of personal growth and spirituality.

    The more I learn about these topics, the more I have come to realize that the default models of life are pretty limiting.

    At one point in my final year of school, I actually told my parents that I wanted to quit school so that I don’t have to do the default model of school-college-job in life. Hehe.. That’s one interesting story.

    So I constantly try to gain a better understanding of life around me.

    As a result here I am spending my time reading works from interesting people like you and not doing the usual college stuff my classmates would be doing. Haha !!

  • Exactly Michelle 🙂

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  • kathleen smith

    (How i got my husband back with the prayers of Dr Akim )I remember lying in my room when I was in high school and writing in a journal to my future husband. I’d write all sorts of notes and questions and things I’d wonder or ask this man when I eventually met him. I would wonder where he was and what he was doing and if he was thinking about me too. It has always been such a strong desire in my heart to find a wonderful man to marry, someone who would love me and cherish me and appreciate me for tfhe person I am. I always thought I would get married right out of college, just like my parents, so when that plan didn’t work out, I started to get discouraged. A school mate snatched my future husband away from my arms just because she had spiritual powers, all hope was lost to me before i came across the help doctor (prayerstosaverelationship@yahoo.com) who i confided in, i told him my long story and he helped me regain back my lover with his prayers which is now my husband today. if you have any problem email the help doctor (prayerstosaverelationship@yahoo.com).

  • kathleen smith

    (How i got my husband back with the prayers of Dr Akim )I remember lying in my room when I was in high school and writing in a journal to my future husband. I’d write all sorts of notes and questions and things I’d wonder or ask this man when I eventually met him. I would wonder where he was and what he was doing and if he was thinking about me too. It has always been such a strong desire in my heart to find a wonderful man to marry, someone who would love me and cherish me and appreciate me for the person I am. I always thought I would get married right out of college, just like my parents, so when that plan didn’t work out, I started to get discouraged. A school mate snatched my future husband away from my arms just because she had spiritual powers, all hope was lost to me before i came across the help doctor (prayerstosaverelationship@yahoo.com) whof i confided in, i told him my long story and he helped me regain back my lover with his prayers which is now my husband today. if you have any problem email the help doctor (prayerstosaverelationship@yahoo.com).

  • kathleen smith

    (How i got my husband back with the prayers of Dr Akim )I remember lying in my room when I was in highf school and writing in a journal to my future husband. I’d write all sorts of notes and questions and things I’d wonder or ask this man when I eventually met him. I would wonder where he was and what he was doing and if he was thinking about me too. It has always been such a strong desire in my heart to find a wonderful man to marry, someone who would love me and cherish me and appreciate me for the person I am. I always thought I would get married right out of college, just like my parents, so when that plan didn’t work out, I started to get discouraged. A school mate snatched my future husband away from my arms just because she had spiritual powers, all hope was lost to me before i came across the help doctor (prayerstosaverelationship@yahoo.com) who i confided in, i told him my long story and he helped me regain back my lover with his prayers which is now my husband today. if you have any problem email the help doctor (prayerstosaverelationship@yahoo.com).

  • jrpieces

    That is very well said..Ty very helpful..It’s been 3 years or so it’s been a long time since it all happened.. I feel like I have gotten better but not to my full potiental

  • jrpieces

    That was just an amazing and thoughtful response. I wanted to thank you for taking your time to write all that.. Thank You soo much, Very helpful

  • No problem.

    Love to help. Take care 🙂

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  • So great, Ankit! You’re spot on, from my experience. I think a committed spiritual practice is imperative for the reasons you described above. It is very easy to slip into conditioned ways of thinking when the world we live in is to detached from spirit (at leas in the US, not sure where you live).

    I think conscious self development are a necessary part of life for anyone who seeks to live a constantly evolving life. But the awakening to self love isn’t something to do with the mind. You can be aware of the occurrence through the mind, but it’s a deeper awakening of the heart, soul, and body. That is why breathwork is a powerful tool for it.

  • Yeah these kinds of experiences are traumatic, and traumas get stuck in the body. There is only so much psychoanalyzing to be done which is why I’m an advocate of breathwork. It’s a healing practice that moves stuck energy from traumas like these from the body. Once you feel lighter there is some processing that can be helpful for moving on from this kind of pain as well.

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    Hi, I and my ex boyfriend broke up about 7 weeks now. We’ve been together for 4 years. We had so many issues during in our relationship. We got engaged and eventually he changed his mind not to get married soon and told me he doesn’t want kids. It broke my heart. He also told me that culture differences is another problem between us. fWhen we broke up I beg many times. He told he doesn’t want to go back in to our relationship and he wants us to move on. I stayed another 2 weeks with him while I am looking for a new place. we had sex a couple times. He told me he just want us stay as friends.

    When I moved out, he didn’t txt or call but when we each other we are fine talking like a friend. Is there anyway that i can win him back? that was the question i asked my sister and she told me he have had an encouter with the famous love doctor and i contacted him and he prayed for my relationship and my boyfriend came back to me and my relationship was restored and now we will be getting married soon. Please get to know him and ask for his help on (prayerstosaverelationship@yahoo.com). The love doctor is the best and will help you 🙂

  • juan carlorsa

    Hi, I and my ex boyfriend broke up about 7 weeks now. We’ve been together for 4 years. We had so many issues during in our relationship. We got engaged and eventually he changed hcis mind not to get married soon and told me he doesn’t want kids. It broke my heart. He also told me that culture differences is another problem between us. When we broke up I beg many times. He told he doesn’t want to go back in to our relationship and he wants us to move on. I stayed another 2 weeks with him while I am looking for a new place. we had sex a couple times. He told me he just want us stay as friends.

    When I moved out, he didn’t txt or call but when we each other we are fine talking like a friend. Is there anyway that i can win him back? that was the question i asked my sister and she told me he have had an encouter with the famous love doctor and i contacted him and he prayed for my relationship and my boyfriend came back to me and my relationship was restored and now we will be getting married soon. Please get to know him and ask for his help on (prayerstosaverelationship@yahoo.com). The love doctor is the best and will help you 🙂

  • Gee Michelle :p

    I live in India.

    And it’s pretty much the same anywhere in the world, I think.

    If we don’t define who we’re going to be, there will always be some social pattern, cultural belief, predefined default choice that is going to take its place.

    And yes, the “awakening to self” happens by itself and not by the mind. I think mine is yet to come. 🙂

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    Hi Michelle, I attribute my transformation and re-connection to myself through the amazing universal medicine modalities, there is so much to these modalities, one that has been instrumental in my healing has been chakra puncture, they use fine japanese needles (‘not’ based on traditional chinese medicine) so completely different. Here is a link to read more about it http://www.chakra-puncture.com. Also here is Esoteric Healing, again here is a link to read up, so much easier to read up on http://www.unimedliving.com/esoteric-healing/sacred-esoteric-healing/what-is-esoteric-healing.html. Let me know if you want to know anything more, would be very happy to discuss further as these modalities are amazing!!

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    I’ve become a recluse, I no longer trust anybody, I feel isolated I feel different from everyone, I’m 43 now and over the last few years this has really escalated, I’ve always been a tad shy, but was never not social, I know this is not me, the way I’m feeling and my total alienation from people and situations, I’m scared this is going to get worse, as I feel I can’t get out of it, I guess what I’m trying to say is HELP

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    I couldn’t dream of a nightmare worse than life. Everything is upside down in society. Everything that people think is bad is actually good, and vice versa. In fact if I were to speak the truth on this site [as I’ve done before] it would be deleted.

    It’s everywhere, like an altruistic plague that people believe to be beneficial but it is [actually] killing us by the day. It’s a downward spiral who’s seductive comfort sucks us into oblivion. if I had to give it one name it would be Collectivism, or mass indoctrination of, for and by the State (Statism, for State profit and control).