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10 Ways to Practice Self-Compassion to Minimize Your Shame and Suffering

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“This is a moment of suffering. Suffering is part of life. May I be kind to myself in this moment. May I give myself the compassion I need.” ~Kristin Neff

I consider myself to be a very compassionate person, but I’ve struggled a great deal with self-compassion. Though I’ve now been sober for over six years, back when I was drinking I made a lot of mistakes, and it’s taken me a long time to have empathy and understanding for myself.

While drinking, I did and said a lot of things that made me feel ashamed and unhappy. When I drank, one of my go-to moves was giving into a sudden, intense desire to leave (or attempt to leave) a bar or party.

This feeling, as I vaguely remember it, hit me unexpectedly and aggressively. It was as if, at random, a little voice in the back of my head would start whispering, You have to leave. Right now. It doesn’t matter how you get home or how far from how you are, but you have to get back to there. NOW.

I realize now that this voice piped up because, deep down, I am intensely introverted. Alcohol was the fuel I used to tolerate social situations that I just didn’t really enjoy. At some point in the evening, the “real me” would speak up and insist she’d had enough socializing and must leave. And I almost always listened.

Sometimes this was a mere inconvenience—I left friends behind as I hopped into a cab solo or dragged them with me, convincing them the night was no longer fun and we should leave—but oftentimes it was downright dangerous.

I hazily remember a night I simply left the bar and, realizing I couldn’t make it home in my inebriated state, decided to lie down in the middle of a city sidewalk. (This sounds comical, but it was not at all funny to those who found me or to the loved ones who had to negotiate with me to get me off the ground.)

In another faded memory, I insisted I had to return home when I was staying the night at my aunt’s house—over an hour away from where I lived. Keys in hand, I stumbled to my car before I being stopped by not one but three family members who were forced to stand in the freezing cold, bargaining and pleading with me until I eventually relinquished my keys.

Similar situations played out many times over the course of all the years I was drinking, and friends and family were not always successful in their negotiations.

After these must-leave-immediately outbursts, I would excuse my crazy behavior with a wave of the hand and a laugh, insisting I’d just had too much to drink and it wouldn’t happen again. Deep down, I was deeply ashamed of my behavior, and even more ashamed when it inevitably did happen again.

And, to compound the shame, these strange, disruptive, and often dangerous outbursts were only one negative side effect of my drinking problem. For over a decade, I was trapped in a vicious cycle of drink -> do/say something stupid (like trying to leave when it was inappropriate or dangerous) -> feel bad about it -> drink to relieve the shame and pain, and then back to the start again.

It was frustrating, disheartening, and agonizing. It wasn’t until I began having compassion for myself—truly experiencing concern over my suffering, rather than merely pointing a finger at myself in the mirror—that I was able to deal with my underlying pain and finally get (and stay) sober.

While sobriety isn’t for everyone, the notion of using compassion to make more positive life choices applies to all of us. We all do and say things we feel ashamed of. And, because of that, we all need to compassionately care for ourselves in order to fully heal from our mistakes. Here are some of the best ways I’ve found to cultivate self-compassion:

1. Transform your mindset.

Sadly, it's often challenging to lift yourself up (particularly if you’re feeling really low or ashamed), but if you want to create compassion for yourself, you have to change your mindset.

For me, self-compassion started with changing my thoughts. I started focusing on the fact that my behavior was bad, not me. Once I started labeling behavior (instead of myself as whole), I was able to be kinder to myself and open up my mind to the possibility that I could make changes.

2. Speak (and think!) kindly about yourself.

Hand in hand with the first step is speaking and thinking kindly about yourself. Your words are incredibly powerful, and if you continuously tell yourself you’re unworthy, a mess, or unforgiveable, you’ll soon start to believe it.

I did this for a long time, calling myself things like “crazy” or “out of control,” but once I started changing my words, stopping myself every time I wanted to laugh off my behavior with a negative label, I began having more compassion for myself.

I was a person making bad choices, not a bad person. If you struggle with this step, imagine talking about yourself as you would talk about your best friend.

3. Forgive yourself for your mistakes.

Forgiveness is vital for self-compassion. We all make mistakes, but not all of us forgive ourselves for them. Depending on the mistake, this can be a very daunting task, but keep in mind that you cannot go back (no matter how badly you might want to), so the best thing to do is to choose forgiveness and forward motion.

Whenever I did something inappropriate, instead of shrugging it off or excusing my behavior, I started apologizing for it, both to others and to myself. Again, I focused on the fact that I wasn’t bad; it was my behavior that was.

4. Spend time doing things you truly enjoy.

If you’re struggling with shame, enjoying pleasurable activities can be seen as something you don’t deserve. But each and every one of us deserves to engage in joyful, uplifting, and exciting experiences.

Allowing yourself to experience true happiness—to take time from your life to do something you love—is an act of compassion.

When I found myself feeling ashamed for a mistake I’d made, I began making a conscious effort to understand what situation provoked that act and I strove to make choices that put me in more positive situations.

5. Strive to avoid judgments and assumptions.

Though assumptions and judgments are often based on experience or knowledge of some sort, it's very hard to predict what will happen in life. When you judge yourself or make an assumption about what you will do in the future, you don’t give yourself an opportunity to choose a different path. Instead of limiting yourself, be open to all possibilities.

In my situation, I started assuming that I shouldn’t go to an event because I would inevitably cause a scene and have to leave. Little did I know that I’d eventually learn, with the help of therapy and self-compassion, to socialize sober. I had assumed that I would always be “wild,” but I’ve learned that you cannot know the future. Assumptions will only inhibit you.

6. Find common ground with others.

While self-compassion is about the way you care for yourself, one of the best ways to cultivate it is to create connections with others. When you open yourself up to sharing who you are with others, you’ll soon see that you’re not alone.

We all struggle to treat ourselves with kindness, and recognizing this can make the struggle more manageable.

At some point, I began admitting to friends and family that I had a problem. It was difficult to open up emotionally, but the more I did, the more I discovered that I wasn’t alone. Creating these stronger emotional ties made it so much easier to deal with my personal shame and to work toward more self-compassion.

7. Take care of your mind and your body.

One of the most compassionate things you can do for yourself is take care of your mind and body. Spend as much time as possible absorbing new information, and be sure to fill your mind and body with positive things (healthy food, good conversations, wisdom, etc.). Being mindful of what you consume and what you do with your energy is an important part of self-compassion.

Once I began doing this, I was able to recognize what did and didn’t make me feel good about myself. Admittedly, I didn’t always continue to seek out positive things (and still struggle to do so at times), but the awareness of what would and wouldn’t impact my mind and body positively gave me the opportunity to make more conscious, compassionate choices for myself.

8. Pay attention to where your passion lies.

Most of us are passionate about something. We have things that really matter to us ¾ a career, a hobby, our loved ones. Whatever it is that gets you excited, allow yourself to focus on that, and do what you can to spend more time enjoying it. Self-compassion means allowing yourself to be passionate, without shame or fear.

Around the time I started trying to get sober, I realized that my issues with alcohol were a reflection of deeper issues within my heart and mind. I started thinking more about my mindset and, as I explored this, I decided to start a blog to share what I found. It was at that time that my passion for self-discovery and my passion for writing merged, and Positively Present was born!

9. Realize it’s not all about you.

Rather than focusing on how we see ourselves, we often direct our attention to how we think others see us. It’s important not to do this for two reasons: (1) we don’t ever really know what others think and (2) more often than not, others aren’t thinking about you.

Letting go of external validation is a very compassionate choice.

It took me a long time to overcome this, particularly when it came to giving up drinking. For a long while, it felt like everyone was judging me, either because they thought I had a problem or, worse still, they themselves had a drinking problem and couldn’t understand why I was quitting.

As time passed, I discovered that most people didn't care whether or not I drank—they just wanted me to be happy—and realizing this made it so much easier to do what was best for me.

10. Cultivate acceptance (even for your flaws).

Just because you accept something doesn’t mean that you like it. We all have attributes we don’t love, but the more you focus on accepting the things you cannot change, the more content you become with who you are.

One of the great challenges that came with my sobriety was realizing that I didn’t, in fact, like partying and barhopping as much as I’d claimed to. I’d made these things such a big part of my identity, and recognizing and accepting that they weren’t “me” was difficult (particularly because I had to overcome the notion that “introverted” was a negative characteristic).

I still struggle at times with being introverted—I often wish I could be social butterfly—but accepting my limitations and my true nature has been the greatest act of self-compassion. Doing so has allowed me to direct my energy and attention to the things I love about my life: my creativity, my writing, and the people who love me just as I am.

Embracing these ten tips has helped me to cultivate more compassion for myself, and I’ve found that the more compassionate I am with myself—particularly when I’ve made a mistake or feel ashamed—the more compassionate I am with others as well.

The way you treat, think about, and talk to yourself isn’t just about you. It has a ripple effect that impacts all of your relationships and all of your choices, which is why it’s so important to choose self-compassion whenever possible. It changes your life and, in a greater sense, the world as well.

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About Dani DiPirro

Dani DiPirro, founder of PositivelyPresent.com, is the author of Stay Positive, The Positively Present Guide to Life, the Effortless Inspiration series, and a variety of e-books. She is also the founder of Twenty3, a design studio focused on promoting positive, modern graphic design and illustration. Check out her new books on Gratitude and Living in the Moment!

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    What a perfect article! Thank you.

  • Anne Haynes Sommer

    Thank you for this post! I have been in that cycle of drink, socially unacceptable behavior, unbearable shame, more drink, repeat. Shame is what kills us! I am on a mission to change the conversation around addiction. For me, I must realize it is a disease of the brain that affects us the pleasure center and the prefrontal cortex. When I drink, my brain literally recalibrates itself to NEEDING that dopamine spike again for my SURVIVAL. Then, my reasoning is altered and I make decisions that are socially unacceptable. I appreciate your suggestions on lessening the shame! Addiction: the only disease that tries to convince me I don’t have it and is still stigmatized by society creating more shame than I already heap on myself! Thank you!

  • misstiff823 .

    This is just what I needed to see today. I struggle with this everyday. I could benefit from cutting myself more slack and being as understanding and compassionate with myself as I am with others.

  • Donna

    Dear Dani,
    I read your post with great interest! I too just recently read a book and discovered that I was an introvert! Finding that out was like coming home! I finally felt understood. Thank you for sharing yourself with others!

  • Jennifer Martin

    Thank you for this!!! After a particularly nasty fight with my boyfriend (fueled by my wine consumption) I can really relate. And I need to hear this today. Thank you.

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    Your words and insights are especially appreciated for my journey today. Thank you for sharing them.

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    Absolutely loved the message, something that is very simple and self-explanatory, yet so important to practice and remind yourself about constantly. Thank you!

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  • Cynthia_M_V

    I needed to read this today, right now, this minute – and it appeared in my inbox. Thank you universe! Coming off an emotionally difficult experience this weekend where I need to counter my feelings of judgement, punishment and shame with self compassion. This will help. Greatly appreciated.

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  • Coralee Kulman

    I lived my most of my life running from shame. Your article really explores many of the ways that finally led me out of the hole I was in. Thank you.

  • Danielle Vandenberg

    Thank you for sharing your experience. I know it must be hard, but it can also be freeing. I have had to face these truths also. I know I’ve always been an introvert, but I like to go out and have a few drinks once in a while. There is a line that is crossed sometimes, and I would feel very ashamed too. I’ve had to forgive myself, learn from my “bad behaviors” as you put it, and move on! Remember, nobody has a guide on how to live, we’re all just winging it.

  • Lisa lanzalotto

    I have been sober for over two decades and I respect your sobriety… The solution to letting go of Shame doesn’t have to be so long-winded and complicated. the steps of Alcoholics Anonymous are designed to help us let go of our ego and have compassion for ourselves and others… it’s that simple not easy but simple God bless you

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    This really resonated with me. Very important lesson to learn and carry out throughout life. Would love to read the books!

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    Thank you!

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    Count me in 🙂 I have shared your article with my clients at our residential treatment center and it really resonated with them. Thank you for sharing your journey with us- we admire your vulnerability.

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    thank you for sharing your story – very powerful stuff

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    Love this. Sharing with my daughter as she is in recovery from spousal abuse.

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    I would love to win! Compassion is such a great thing to give to others. Forgiveness is good too but doesn’t always come easy. I always like reading things to better myself and learn from others and their process of going about it.

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    Thank you for your insightful words. 🙂

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    so powerful- we must accept ourselves as we are ( not as an imperfect copy of some one else ) before we can ever hope to reach our true potential.

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    I needed this…thank you

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    Thanks for the chance. 🙂

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    Good food for thought

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    Great advice!

  • Jk

    Thanks Dani, learning to be at cause and not effect in life is the biggest lesson I learnt this year

  • Brenda Torres-Dominicy

    We all need to learn to be kind and tolerant with ourselves, why do we treat ourselves in a way we’d be ashamed to treat others?

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    I’d love to win those books to help my clients.

  • Michael Maher

    Wonderful points, and you addressed several items I’ve tried to deal with. Thank you.

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    Patience, tolerance and understanding is another part of the personal healing. These words are easy to roll off one’s tongue, but to seriously apply these things daily can be hard unless we surrender all the old stuff.

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    Great advice. Self-compassion is something I have worked hard on developing this year. Still a ways to go, but it’s so worth it so far.

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    Good advice

  • akarosco

    Alcoholic introvert, two years sober here.
    So many of your words resonated with me.
    Self compassion, or lack of it has presented additional layers to deal with in my transition to complete abstinence. As with you, I’m worthy of happiness & compassion. Just as we all are on this journey to who knows where.
    Thanks for sharing this with us all. You’ve managed to keep at least me a little more focused.

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  • Katie

    great article and food for thought. i can relate to much it and really appreciate your honesty and vulnerability

  • Deborah Robertson

    How wonderful you have found your way back to you….we are all students of life. Thanks for the post..very helpful.

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    Please count me in! <3

  • Jen

    Thank you very much. I had a friend who would “flee” from our social outings very often. I feel better knowing that this may have been what her issue was. We tended to label her a “flake”, but we always tried to include her.

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  • Tracy Carpenter

    Great post, and just what I needed to read tonight. Thanks, Tracy C.

  • Monica Elrod

    I’ve been reading Kristin Neff’s book on self-compassion so the quote caught my eye! Making mistakes and feeling ashamed are two big ones for me. Thanks for your article!

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  • Amanda Langs

    I suffered with depression which I realized after awhile was just side problems of ADHD and since medicated myself with concerta. I get so much more done now and I just force myself to talk to people and not make it about myself. I don’t need to drink to change my state, after my dad commuted suicide I started to drink but then realized it didn’t put me in a good state and the night he did it he had pills and alcohol. I took myself off my anti depressants cold turkey and started to realize I needed to face the bottom of the mountain and climb to the top to see different behaviours happen and create new neural path ways. I would really appreciate your books to go along with the four agreement books I have!

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  • Haydee Richards

    I loved reading this and is a great reminder to have compassion for myself and believe in myself thank you.

  • Laurie

    Dani this is truly a gift to read and take in – I’m going to spend several days on each of the ten points to really learn how to cultivate self-compassion. A homework assignment, if you will – I want to begin the new year as my best self.

  • theerachele

    Thank you for a great read!

  • Sailor

    Thanks for this great article, I will be a better friend for myself.

  • Loved this. Thank you. 🙂

  • Heather

    Great article, and something I think we can all always work on <3

  • Rebecca Lynn Kietlinski

    Great article!

  • Ruth Barrett

    You are so right – all our lives we have been taught “self-criticism,” not “self-compassion.” I am just learning this in a deeper way after going through several truly traumatic experiences where we either learn to grow or stay stuck. Thankfully, “self-compassion” came into my life, perhaps by accident, but I think not. It is opening new ways of seeing things – healing ways, and making me less critical of those around me in the process.

  • Kelsey

    Great article, count me in!

  • JeffM

    Thank you. This really was helpful for where I am currently struggling.

  • Chi Sherman

    Great read! Very timely. 🙂

  • Ally

    This is a beautiful post that perfectly summarises a lot of wonderful advice, and so strangely timely as I’ve recently been struggling with self-compassion. I’ve just started a new job but have been finding it difficult to settle in, as I’ve been fighting all those pesky automatic negative thoughts about myself: ‘You’re so awkward’, ‘You’re so boring’, ‘No one likes you’, and so on. But I must follow the advice of this post – stop judging myself so harshly, stop constantly trying to calculate what others are thinking about me, be gentle on myself and do more things that make me happy! 🙂 Thank you for this uplifting post!

  • Marcel

    Really enjoyed your article thanks!

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    Count me in:)

  • WTraveler

    Dani, thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I can identify with much of what you have written about and your insights and advice are very valuable to me. I appreciate all that you do in sharing your wisdom and experience with others. All the best to you!
    ~ Ray

  • Fabulous Post, Thanks for Sharing

  • Thank you! 🙂

  • Thanks so much, Ray! I’m so happy you found this so valuable.

  • I’m so happy you found this to be useful, Ally! Best of luck at your new job!!

  • Thank you!

  • You’re welcome, Jeff. I’m so glad it was helpful for you.

  • Thanks, Marcel!

  • I’m so happy to hear that you found self-compassion (though I’m sorry to hear that it came through traumatic experiences). It’s such an important part of living a positive life.

  • Thank you!

  • Thanks, Angel. 🙂

  • Thanks, Heather!

  • So happy you enjoyed reading it!

  • What a wonderful idea! Such a great way to start off the new year on a positive, self-loving note.

  • You’re welcome! 🙂

  • That’s so impressive that you were able to initiate such positive change in your life, Amanda. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. I imagine that must have been so incredibly difficult for you, and you should be so proud of yourself for choosing to make such positive changes despite such difficulty.

  • You’re welcome, Monica! I’ll have to check out Kristin Neff’s book!

  • You’re welcome, Tracy!

  • That’s wonderful that you always tried to include her, Jen. Whatever her reason for leaving, it’s always good to have compassion!

  • So happy you found it helpful, Deborah!

  • Thank you, Katie! It was a tough one to write because it can be so hard to be vulnerable, but I’m so glad you appreciated it.

  • Congrats on being two years sober! That’s a major accomplishment and you should be really proud!!

  • It’s always worth the effort! I, too, am a work in progress, but self-compassion is very much worth the time and energy!

  • So, so true!

  • Thanks, Michael!

  • That’s a great lesson to have learned!!

  • Thank you!

  • You’re welcome, Lori!

  • Yes, we really must. Acceptance is essential.

  • You’re welcome, Vanessa!

  • Thanks, Liz! I hope your daughter finds it useful.

  • You’re welcome, Mallee!

  • Thank you so much for sharing the article, Sharon. It’s tough to be vulnerable sometimes, but knowing it might help someone else makes it so worth it.

  • Thanks, Tyler!

  • I’m so glad you enjoyed the article, Anna. You’d definitely enjoy the books, too! 🙂

  • I’m glad it resonated with you, Lisbeth. You’re deserving of self-compassion and self-love!

  • Two decades is so impressive!! I personally struggled with finding solutions in AA, but I’m so happy to hear that it worked well for you.

  • Such a great point about how we’re all just winging it! Hopefully when we open up and share with others we can help them in some way — even if it’s just helping them feeling less alone — which is what I hope this article did for some readers. Thank you for reading!

  • You’re welcome. I’m so happy to hear that you’ve found ways to cope with shame.

  • Thank you, Julie!

  • I’m so glad this arrived in your inbox at the exact right time. It really is amazing how that happens, isn’t it?!

  • Thank you, Kirsten! 🙂

  • Thank you!!

  • You’re welcome, Pinky! I’m glad you enjoyed reading my words.

  • You’re welcome, Jennifer!!

  • You’re welcome, Donna! I’m so glad you found this interesting!

  • Yes! You deserve as much love and care as you give to others. Always.

  • Haha, sorry for the creepiness, Caralyn! 😉 But so glad that this article came at the right time for you!!

  • Thanks, Robin!

  • Addiction really is so problematic, Anne, and we all need to work on how we handle it and address it as a society. It’s very challenging because, as you said, it’s a disease that tries to convinces you that you don’t have it, which can make it even more difficult to identify and treat. Thanks for reading this post!

  • Peggy Smith

    Count me in please – I am my own worst enemy….I have so much to learn!

  • Lauren

    What a great reminder. Thank you!

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    Count me in.

  • Barnini

    i’m im.

  • Rick

    Count me in. Great article!

  • Tamar Lagin

    This was really impactful for me.

  • Kalen

    Great article!

  • Elizabeth O.

    Thanks for this post; I hope to be more self-compassionate <3

  • Bernd Neubauer

    Thank you Dani. The timing of your article in terms of my own recent mistakes is very serendipitous. Lots of learnings…thank you 🙂

  • kathyplourde

    Wonderful essay… I’d love to win…

  • Jo

    I will be practicing these tips… Thank you

  • Lenna

    Your article came at the perfect time. It’s a stressful time of year and compassion for myself seems to fly out the window. I felt calmer after reading this. Thanks for your honesty. It helps the rest of us connect.

  • Elena

    I very much appreciated this article. I struggle with shame and a lack of self-compassion every day of my life. There were some ideas that I’d like to try and implement. But I also would love to share this with my two perfectionist daughters.

  • Shirley Liu

    Thanks for your post:) There are times when I battle against myself thinking I’m not good enough. I will spend time doing things I enjoy and also changing my mindset. It can be hard sometimes b/c there is an inner voice that seems to put me down. But since that inner voice tells me my flaws, I will learn and work on embracing them and not letting the inner bully bring me down.

  • Ivory Dream

    Yes, I’m in. Good article.

  • Lesley Rubery

    Great article!

  • Derek Smith

    Thank you for your story.
    I have been like this since my early 20’s(25 years+), but to complicate issues, I have become severely sensitive towards the welfare of animals, to the point of becoming emotional. At the same time, I have noticed less compassion for people, in general. Another very noticeable change is that in the mornings, this can be very intense to the point of weeping. I feel very ashamed that I am like this and I can not control how I feel. I really wish I could pin-point the issue. But, I will take your advise and try stay busy and to visit with my friends and family more.

  • Nanci Wechsler

    Enjoyed article and would love to read more. I also love to proofread. Count me in

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    Please count me in!

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    please count me in

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    Please count me in!, Thanks

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    Yes please, I’m in !!

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    Count me in please!

  • Alyson Breidbart

    Dani- This poignant article spoke to me at a perfect time. Coming from a place of compassion I wrote a list just TODAY of “who am I” and when I looked at it I realized the sum of my parts is pretty dang awesome. Thanks for the helpful perspective

  • Jeevan/Mirthu/Gupt

    Thank you for sharing your story & the HELPFUL TIPS! 🙂