6 Mistakes We Make When Depressed or Having a Panic Attack

“You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.” ~James Allen

When I was eighteen I went through a very stressful period, which led to the onset of panic attacks. I often remember how in bed one night I was suddenly overwhelmed by a feeling of terror. I’d never experienced such fear before. Sure, I was scared of lots of things, but this new feeling was unique.

The most accurate way I can describe it is a kind of animal-like horror. It seemed to have come from the deepest, darkest recesses of my subconscious mind, caused by primeval, bestial mechanisms.

The feeling was so deep and all encompassing that it was as if nothing else existed, just this fear coursing through my body as I writhed about, sweaty and tense.

The most unfamiliar and therefore terrifying aspect of the fear was that it didn’t have an object: it wasn’t clear what I was actually afraid of. From the very start, it was simply fear—unconnected to any tangible thing.

That night marked the beginning of my period of panic attacks. Over time, depression, anxiety, sleep problems, and general health issues augmented these.

At the age of twenty-four, I started to fight back; with the help of meditation I managed to get over my depression and panic, and now they no longer torment me.

During my struggle I came to realize that I was hindering myself with mistakes I was making, and it was only when I overcame these that I started to make real progress.

I often talk with people who have been or are going through the same kinds of problems, and I notice just how many of them also come up against these mistakes. So what are they?

1. Resisting.

When we feel a bad mood, depression, or panic coming on, our first wish is to get rid of it as quickly as possible, to change the “bad” mood into a “good” one. This is natural; it’s how we’re made. But all too often our attempts just make everything worse.

Resistance forces us to think constantly about our condition, to focus all of our attention on it, to feel bad because it won’t go away, to wait tensely for relief.

The simple truth is that you can’t control everything. Attempting to get your condition “under control” often leads to extra stress and unwanted bad feelings. It’s sometimes best just to let go and cease resistance.

If we relax and let our depression or panic come without trying to control anything, accepting that they’re only temporary feelings which will pass in due course, things become much easier.

2. Feeling bad about feeling bad.

We start to have thoughts such as “I’m going to die or go crazy,” “This’ll never end,” and “I hate that I can’t enjoy life like other people; I feel utterly miserable.”

Our mind starts to add new fears and negative emotions to the depression we already have. And, as I saw for myself, these fears and feelings end up constituting the main part of our condition.

It’s actually your mind, not the depression and panic themselves, which makes each episode so unbearable.

If you don’t believe me, try this experiment: The next time you’re overwhelmed by an attack, try to simply observe it without getting caught up in or assessing it in any way. Just watch it in its pure form, without any thoughts. Try to notice which parts of your body you feel it in and how it comes and goes.

In this way, you’ll remove your mind from the formula of your distress. You’ll notice how much weaker the attacks become when they’re no longer supported by your thought processes. Give it a try, making notes of the results if you like. Would it be true to say that it’s not all as terrifying and dreadful as it seemed at first?

When you stop feeding your depression with fears and thoughts it becomes much easier to shake off.

3. Comparing.

“Everything was so good when I wasn’t depressed! What an amazing time it was, and how awful it is now. Why can’t I go back?!” These are the kinds of things many people think, me included, but such thoughts bring nothing but harm.

If you want to beat depression or panic, you have to stop comparing. Forget that there’s a past and future. What’s happened has happened. Don’t dwell on it, and instead live in the here and now.

Start with what you have, and don’t think about how it all was before. Learning how to live in the present moment will make your depression or panic much more bearable.

4. Asking pointless questions.

Many people spend hours asking themselves all kinds of questions: “When will this end?” “Why me?” and “What have I done to deserve this?”

To make use of a well-known Buddhist parable, these questions are as much use as trying to figure out the source of the arrow which blinded you: it’s just not that important. What you need to know is how to pull the arrow out.

Questions of the “Why me?” ilk just make your condition worse, forcing you as they do to complain and be upset about something that’s already happened. Focus on what will help you get past your depression and don’t bother with questions which don’t serve this purpose.

5. Believing your fears.

We think that because we experience such fear at the idea of going outside, meeting people, or going on the underground, it means that something bad is going to happen. There’s nothing surprising in this, because nature has made fear in order to warn us of danger. We’re made in such a way that we instinctively believe this fear and respond to it.

But our fear hardly ever arises due to a real threat. For example, the fear of losing your mind or suffocating during a panic attack is simply fallacious. Stop believing this fear. Whatever it is you’re afraid of at these times isn’t going to happen.

Fear is nothing more than a feeling, a chemical reaction in your head. If you’re overcome with terror when you go down into the underground, it doesn’t mean that something horrific is laying in wait there. It’s like a malfunctioning fire alarm—just because it’s going off doesn’t mean there’s actually a fire.

So stop listening to your “inner alarm” every time it goes off. Don’t pay it any heed: go out, meet your friends, get on a plane, and let the alarm keep ringing. Nor should you try to “switch it off,” as this doesn’t always work. Just ignore it. In other words, stop taking your fear as something real.

6. Seeking reasons for your depression in the outside world.

This is another mistake I made myself. I thought that my malaise was linked solely to the way my life and work were going. I believed that if I could just change that, I’d be happy.

But then, with meditation, I realized that everything I needed to be happy was inside me, and likewise what was causing me to suffer!

I was so edgy, anxious, feeble, caught up in bad habits, undisciplined, and irresponsible that even if I’d succeeded in changing the external circumstances of my life, the traits that had given rise to my depression would still be there.

In order to get rid of my depression, I had to get rid of the internal reasons that had caused it.

So don’t keep telling yourself, “If I get a new job, everything’ll be smooth sailing,” or “If I get rid of everything I’m scared of, there won’t be anything to be afraid of any more.” Your depression and fears reside inside you, so wherever you are, they will be too, projected onto the outside world.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t strive to improve your life. First of all, though, you need to direct your efforts inwards.

Conclusion: Acting Against What Feels Like Common Sense

Now, when I look at these mistakes and remember making them myself, I can see the one thing that unites them.

The reason we make them is that when depression or panic pounces on us, we start to think and act in the way our instincts and gut feelings tell to us. “Be afraid, run away, resist, danger awaits you everywhere, you’re trapped,” they whisper.

Tuning in to this during a bout of depression aggravates our situation. This is because our mind, emotions, and instincts are strongly conditioned by depression, so listening to them is like listening to the voice of a malicious, invisible demon intent on leading you to ruin.

To free yourself from depression once and for all you have to drop all your notions of common sense; abandoning your sense of reason, you must act against them.

Don’t resist your depression, accept your fears and allow them to simply pass; don’t get caught up in them and don’t believe them; don’t compare your current situation to how it was before—all things that feel illogical when you’re in a state of terror or intense depression.

What I’m advising may seem to be the polar opposite of what your gut encourages you to do. But it’s precisely because people continue to give credence to and obey these feelings that depression is such a widespread complaint. You need to act somewhat paradoxically to get rid of it.

My own experience has convinced me of this. The understanding I reached allowed me to come through my difficult situation and continues to help me cope with challenges I encounter on my journey.

About Nikolay Perov

Nikolay Perov formerly suffered from depression, panic attacks, addictions, laziness and communication problems. He coped with the help of meditation. His blog (also available in English) became popular in Russia, his native country. It has helped a lot of people get rid of depression, nervousness and alcohol problems and discover the new meaning of life. Read him on!

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  • Hi Nikolay
    Thank you for sharing your story and insights. I related to a lot of what you said. While I never had full-blown panic attacks, I did grapple with anxiety for a long time, and I did experience periods of feeling depressed. Fortunately, these episodes were not debilitating but they certainly cast a cloud over my life for a long time.

    In recent times, this has improved greatly, and while I still grapple with these issues from time to time like any human, they are not as intense.

    Your first tip about not resisting is so important. That resistance is the cause of our suffering and it just adds that extra layer of feeling badly. We get mad at ourselves, and judge harshly. Accepting reduces intensity and it allows us a greater opportunity to tune into what is happening and distilling the wisdom these states can offer .

    Great stuff here!

  • Kim

    This sounds so familiar.I as well suffered from panic attacks around that age (and older). My big mistake was fearing the fear: I would stress out in advance for situations where I might actually panic, thus creating a downward spiral for myself (and everybody around me). Mindfullness helped me deal with this.

  • Thank you for your honesty. I have struggled with anxiety and the resistance was what caused the most pain for me. The fact that I was always so anxious and worried felt like some sort of personal failure – I thought it was something I should be able to control and I felt so bad about myself all the time. The best thing that ever happened to me was one night I was overcome with anxiety and I felt light-headed and my chest felt tight and I had this moment where I thought, “I just can’t stop worrying. I can’t control this.” The next day I found a therapist who helped me learn many of the things you just talked about.

  • Tra

    This was a fantastic read and perfect timing. My daughter came to me and told me she is having sleep issues, anxiety and feels depressed. I will print this out for her to reflect and possibly take up meditation with her in conjunction with her speaking to someone. Thank you so much. This was beautiful – thanks for your honesty. xo

  • Guest

    Thank you!!

  • Talya Price

    I suffer from panic attacks from time to time, and depression. And all six of those mistake I have made when a panic attack occurs. My main problem is drinking when I am depressed. And I am working on overcoming this problem. Sometimes it is good to talk with a counselor. I also found that meditation, daily meditation is very helpful for panic attacks and taking long walks in nature where it is nice and quiet.

    Thank you for this article.

  • Guest

    Thank you for your comments!

    “Your first tip about not resisting is so important. That resistance is the cause of our suffering and it just adds that extra layer of feeling badly. We get mad at ourselves, and judge harshly. Accepting reduces intensity and it allows us a greater opportunity to tune into what is happening and distilling the wisdom these states can offer .

  • Guest

    Thank you for your comments!

    “Your first tip about not resisting is so important. That resistance is the cause of our suffering and it just adds that extra layer of feeling badly. We get mad at ourselves, and judge harshly. Accepting reduces intensity and it allows us a greater opportunity to tune into what is happening and distilling the wisdom these states can offer .”

    That’s a good tip!

    And one more mistake I would like to mention:

    Mistake 7 – Believing that you can’t change

    Sometimes people feel trapped it their panic or anxiety. They think that there will be always thing that annoy them, causing anxiety. They think that there always will be fears that scary them and there is no way to stop this only except removing themselves from scary situations. But the truth is, that your perception of the things can change, your reaction to your fears can also change if you devote some time working with your mind. There is a way out of prison, and that way is inside you!

  • Nikolay Perov

    Thank you for your comments!

    “Your first tip about not resisting is so important. That resistance is the cause of our suffering and it just adds that extra layer of feeling badly. We get mad at ourselves, and judge harshly. Accepting reduces intensity and it allows us a greater opportunity to tune into what is happening and distilling the wisdom these states can offer .”

    That’s a good tip!

    And one more mistake I would like to mention:

    Mistake 7 – Believing that you can’t change

    Sometimes people feel trapped it their panic or anxiety. They think that there will be always thing that annoy them, causing anxiety. They think that there always will be fears that scary them and there is no way to stop this only except removing themselves from scary situations. But the truth is, that your perception of the things can change, your reaction to your fears can also change if you devote some time working with your mind. There is a way out of prison, and that way is inside you, not anywhere else!

  • satpal

    accept everything as a gift , no problem if it is bad or horrible..just watch it embrace it observe it and depression and fear is nothing but resistance what is happening now.

  • Nutmeg

    Man, so true. I get SOOOO caught up in trying to figure the cause if my depression that I ruminate on it and make it so much worse.

  • Beth Maxwell Boyle

    I found this helpful and even comforting.

  • fred

    Excellent information, and right on

  • magne

    i have the same realizations now. sometimes you need to just understand your circumstance. try to talk more to people and stay with those who are willing to listen and just listen and give you a hug if you needed one.

  • Ian Del Duca

    There is so much well intentioned click-bait on this website and others like it about how to be happy and how to overcome these conditions. This is practical advice, explained in a logical and methodical way that carries actual meaning and Relief. A wonderful resource and read.

  • joe

    I currently suffer from depression and anxiety, although some days are better than others. I noticed resently that pot is a bad idea. I was going through a bad day I tried smoking pot(a large amount) to calm me down, like it did before…but this time not a chance. In fact it made it worse.I made all six mistakes but times 3. The trip was so bad it lead me to believe I was in HELL itself. I couldnt run away from my thots (demons). I try’d so hard to compose myself It literally scared the hell out of me. So for those of you who make the mistake of trying to battle you’re condition with a substance…it’s not a good idea.

  • me

    I always make the mistake of thinking that it will last forever. Even when I tell myself that it won’t, I still feel that way.

  • mitzymoon

    While there are some simple truths here, much of what he says smacks of unfamiliarity with the subject. A true depressive episode (not just common sadness or disappointment) is a medical emergency that can quickly spiral into suicidal ideation; in fact, it is often the first confirmation of true depression. Timely intercession by medical doctors is crucial: DO NOT rely on clergy, counsellors, meditation, or other non-medical intermediaries. A psychologist is not a medical doctor. You need to see a psychiatrist ASAP. Only a psychiatrist can prescribe short term and long term medicines or admit you to a hospital or design a course of treatment.

  • dancesexmusichiphop

    Thank you so much, I needed to read this today. For the last few days I’ve been waking up in a panic and I have been obsessed with my fears so much that I think that I am about to lose my mind so I start to doubt every decision that I make and I even try to analyze all my previous behaviors and self diagnose. I know now that I really should continue with my meditation and my anxiety workbook because my fears are so irrational but it is just a feeling that will pass.

  • Tomasz

    What source did you base this from? Sounds pretty generalized.
    I believe depression is a strategized term that keeps people feeling that way because of the label and ideology behind it. Its a pretty disgusting word if you think about it and im sure makes people that are “diagnosed” with it feel even worse.
    Theres no issue with being upset or disappointed or stressed over life challenges, but if you don’t do anything about it and you start feeling worse is it fair to call it depression? Don’t blame the “disease” the person lacks self insight on how to approach their troubles and the will to carry through. In nature they would die as its survival of the fittest but nowadays can sit at home and point fingers at “depression.” Just fuckin do something about it !!!!!!

  • David

    Thank you for this. A great reminder to not believe our stories.

  • LiveLevity

    How to get over panic? I just do something i enjoy. Like video games or watching comedy. Seems to work pretty well.

  • MsMaeDae

    thank you! you are wonderful! <3

  • Great ideas. Feeling bad about feeling bad is a huge one. To pick up on the comment from Talya Price, meditation is huge for help in this area. So is overall relaxation. Learning to relax using “corpse pose” basically solved my panic and anxiety. I also studied Systema, which is a Russian Martial Art that focuses almost exclusively on relaxation in (anxiety-inducing) situations of confrontation. The skills I learned there also helped elimination panic and anxiety because they can be applied to all the nerve-wracking situations that caused so much suffering before.

  • Feeling bad about feeling bad? Even worse, Anthony, is to feel bad about feeling good. Whenever I’m happy I get worried: how long will this joy last? So I feel bad again. And that, of course, is why the next frisson of joy feels good. Do you think Nature has a sense of humor?

  • Madani

    When I am in a state of panic, I often think of the happiest things that happened in my life not in the goal of comparison but in an attempt to reach the degree of happiness I tasted then. In addition to that I recite pieces of poetry and prose in my mother tongue (I am not English nor Amercican). Sometimes I try to transfer the feelings of panic to the characters of my novels (I write in French).

  • ron

    I quit drinking several years ago so I deal with depression with a 12 step program. I have been using over the counter nasal spray for 15 years. Now it no longer works so late at night I can breath through my nose. I stay up hours at night in a panic I can’t sleep.

  • barbara

    I have like a weird fear of many things but my most recent fear is about going crazy ,if what I see is true ,basically doubting of my mind ,and this fear started with a movie I watched (I know a movie) and one night I just freaked out , since almost 3 months that i’m like this and I just can’t stand it anymore ,i’m desesperated it’s like I can’t even do the things I used to do ,I feel like it’s only getting worse and that makes me more afraid. I just need some type of help or advice , I really don’t know what to do.

  • Embrace

    Thank you for sharing this Nikolay. I can totally relate to the points you have made. I used to feel trapped and felt like it hindered my progress in life. I felt my life will just slip by and this will never end. My inner critic used to fight it mentally thinking I will not allow it to rule my life but at the same time feeling totally helpless.

    Overtime while dealing with anxiety episodes I realized the best way is to let it be. Embrace it and let it wash over you. To not obsess over everything that I was loosing because of it. To tell myself that it will pass in due time. I just had to take my time. One step at a time. This has been difficult but also very helpful. Just by accepting it made it a lot better to deal with it.

  • Callie mccormack

    thank you.

  • Hey Nikolay,

    What an honest post, and how you went about overcoming your fear and anxiety are great stepping stones. We are often think that feeling bad is a problem, yet it is very much a part of our cycles. You are so right we cannot put extra stress on ourselves and attempt to change a mood.

    I don’t suffer but I used always try and change my moods, what a mess I would get myself in and how disappointed I used to be when I pretended I was in a fine mood and something little ticked me off and chaos followed. I now accept my moods, meditate and realise that tomorrow will be different. Basically what I am saying is the method you used to work through fear and anxiety are the steps I take when I am not feeling on top of it. I really enjoyed your post thank you.


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  • On Garn

    So beautifully and articulately written. This article is narrated with such nuance, I feel like it took me by the hand and help me revisit and understand my feelings and thought processes. Thank you.

  • Spencer

    Hey, I made an account just to respond to you. I literally had the SAME exact experience and circumstances. This happened to me nearly 8 months ago. I was in deep depression, and anxiety. Not so much as social anxiety, but religious and existential anxiety. Anyways, the weekend before my high school senior graduation, I had eaten some of my friend’s marijuana cookies. I had 3 or 4! So mine was a large amount as well. I thought it would help me relax, at first it felt normal…this was the SECOND time in my life I have been high. I was with a group of friends, I can’t imagine what it would be like to experience that alone! I’m so sorry! But, I interpreted my friends as being a PART of my hell. Why? Because they were talking to me about different parts of my life, like my aspirations, and they were telling me “it was all going to be okay.” I interpreted that in a negative way, I thought they were lying. I tried desperately to get outside (I was lying on my friend’s bed, with my friends around me and holding me). The reason I wanted to go outside was because I wanted to see if I could, in order to check reality, and if it existed beyond my friend’s room. They, however, kept me in one place. They did their best, and I am in no way upset at them. I think if they let me walk outside to see if I was still alive I may have calmed down? Or not. I also ended up punching a hole in my friend’s wall out of anguish during the panic attack. I had NO control over my body, and my body was also really sensitive as well. This lasted a good couple of hours…I bet if it lasted like 4 or 5 hours, I would have ended up just embracing my friends and accepting this as my eternal state of existence. I remember trying to think to myself, oh this isn’t that bad….then I would get really angry and panic…then I would get quiet and sorrowful, it would go in this cycle over and over for hours. I tensed my whole body for minutes at a time. I also said things out loud I could not control. I spoke in different accents as well. One accent was a cold monotone voice, a detached voice I should say. The other was very emotional and throaty. I could not for the life of control myself. I also ended up choking at one point, gasping for air, although I don’t know why, I was just gasping and they almost called 911, but I managed with all my strength to try and motion or whisper a word or two to tell them not to. Luckily they did not, I’m glad that it happened with friends. I really would not have wanted it to involve the police, or anyone else. A year before this happened my teachers had forced me to see the school psychologist many times, I have grown up Christian, but always felt anguish for those that would have to suffer in hell. This is where most of the conflict came from, though other sources existed as well.

    Anyways, just wanted to reach out to someone that had an extremely similar experience to mine. I’m doing a lot better now.

    How are you doing? I haven’t touched any kind of substance since then. I have never been drunk either. Never looked like a good idea.

    Hope I can hear from you!

  • Mindfulness practice can be immensely effective for overcoming anxiety and panic attacks and depression when we learn how to use it properly. It is very important to learn how to meditate on the emotions directly. Some meditators believe that meditation means following the breath as a way of distracting ourselves from out thoughts and emotions. This is wrong mindfulness practice.
    The whole point of meditation is to focus non-reactive conscious awareness (mindfulness) on the emotion which is in pain. It cannot heal by itself if ignored. But, likewise it will not heal if we become lost in the emotion. Instead we cultivate sitting with our emotions, being completely present with them. Mindfulness is training in being present – and that means specifically being present with your negative thoughts and emotions; they ARE part of your present moment!

    Another extremely important part of mindfulness meditation (vipassana) is to watch for the hindrances, the secondary reactions such as aversion and avoidance or loss of faith and confidence, which arise in reaction to our emotions or thoughts. If we inadvertantly identify with them, then we will be dragged back into the mire of samsara and dukkha again.

    So, my advice, as a meditation teacher and online mindfulness therapist is to start meditating on your emotions and make friends with them!

    Peter Strong, PhD

    Boulder Center for Online Mindfulness Therapy and author of ‘The Path of Mindfulness Meditation.’ Inquiries welcome.

  • ralphylad

    Acting against common sense is a major one, I convinced myself that a house I bought was going to finish me off due to its issue when in fact they were so midiocre they were not even worth worrying about. The result I moved and ended up totally realising how much of a silly mistake it was after the event and I had treatment, not even my family could persuade me. Listen to others if the majority are saying things will be ok ignore that gut feeling and stick with rational peoples opinions and not panic rausingits ugly head

  • Tiffany

    Thank you for this article I have been struggling for a long time and reading this helped. I am finally realizing that I have to be careful about who I surround myself with that certain people , situations can trigger it , I have to stay hopeful and positive and fill my mind with information like this

  • J

    Hi Nikolay, what meditation did you do? What is it called? I have been suffering from anxiety, depression and sleep issues for over 10 years now The quality of my life had seriously deteriorated. I am terrified of taking meds as they have side effects. And I do feel as you stated…..everyone seems to have a wonderful life but me and that I am going to die alone and miserable. The feeling g is too strong.

  • Veronica Horton

    Written by a psychiatrist who needs you to believe in them in order for them to believe in themselves.

  • mitzymoon

    I think you have to experience an unilateral depression–God forbid–to understand why medical and pharmalogical intervention is absolutely necessary. It is a medical emergency as critical as a seriously injured car crash victim being resuscitated by ER doctors and nurses. No one would think it appropriate to tell that victim “heal yourself” or “you don’t need doctors or medicine.”

  • What really starts the process of recovery from panic attacks and anxiety in general is when we learn how to embrace our anxiety and fear with mindfulness. I have found this to be the most effective approach. It is the fear of the fear that feeds anxiety and prevents it from healing.

    The Boulder Center for Online Mindfulness Therapy

  • Jo Balayo

    Hi Peter,
    I am sufferred nervous breakdown and seeing a psychiatrist for 1 1/2 a year. Though anti anxiety medication and being busy at work recovered me. Then after 3 months from medicne free, again anxiety attacks just this january. I feel depression also. Sometimws i felt lost, unconfidence on my own self… Trying to be stong everyday and fight for it… I have developed this fear of being mental and or may hurt someone physically. Also having sleep issues and taking sleeping pills. I read the discussion but can you tell me more about this mindufllness? Im kinda confused and not exactly understand how should do it. Im from philippines

  • You might want to go to my website (in Profile) to learn more about mindfulness therapy.

  • Veronica Horton

    Firstly, you do not know my mental health experiences.
    Secondly, it’s entirely short-sighted to think that only a psychiatrist can help someone with depression.
    Thirdly, there are NUMEROUS medical causes for depression that should be ruled out before going to a psychiatrist who will only prescribe extremely limited medications that, (if you read the literature don’t have a great track record, and personally have not helped me), for someone that might in fact need B12 injections, or who should have an MRI, or has celiac disease, etc.
    I didn’t say it was appropriate for someone to heal themselves or that we don’t need doctors or medicine, granted I guess the comment before me did.
    I have only had ultimately negative (not longterm solutions, or are solutions that make things worse, or don’t do anything) experiences with psychiatrists and the drugs I have been prescribed.
    Suicidal ideation has become so common for me at times that to deem it a medical emergency is kinda laughable, especially when the only benefits I’ve received from psyc ward stays have been from the therapy aspect, not the pharmacological one.

  • Great post. Really. Thanks so much!

  • Michelle Thurman

    Thank you Nikolay for the great content. I think anxiety, depression, and panic attacks are more common than they need to be. I witness a lot of people who experience these things but act or believe like there is nothing that they can do about it. Addressing it is the first step to helping others realize change is possible. Thanks again.
    -Michelle Thurman

  • Michelle Thurman

    Ian Del Duca, I have to second this. Easy to read and understand. It didn’t make me feel dumb or bad.

  • Michelle Thurman

    Heyyy, mistake #7 is exactly what I thought of when I read the article. Thanks Nikolay!

  • Claudia Grimaldi

    Is it normal to fear sleep? I’m scared sleeping because my mind wanders and it causes deep thoughts about my emotions. I’m scared of my thoughts. I’m scared of letting anxiety come and go my brain has just created so much fear. I’m so depressed and the thoughts of hoplessness or pointlessness scare me to the core. Do I just let go and feel it? I’m scared I’ll become worse if I do this.

  • Xura Axira

    you know i cry while reading this,,

    i suffering anxiety for 5 years, everyday i would encountered one till i afraid of my calm day, why dont i feel afraid why dont i feel anxiety, will it comes again at the time i dont expected, come like an ocean drawing me in the sea.
    there is no one beside me who have a anxiety and depression, sometimes i want to cry but there is no tears on my eyes, i want to tell others but i dont know to who, sometimes i have to wait for a long weeks which i promise my self, this will go away as time goes by, like always,
    like all you state above i have all of those, when i read it, i cant contain myself, i cry, resisting, that is what i have done all this time, feeling bad , compairing, blaming myself of afraid of every single thought,