Creating an Inner Peace That Endures

“Peace of mind is not the absence of conflict from life, but the ability to cope with it.” ~Unknown

Like many people, I lived my life for a lot of years failing to understand inner peace is a choice. I am not sure what I thought. Perhaps I didn’t believe anyone could feel a lasting peace inside. I did know that my own feelings of peace were always transitory.

There were many ups and downs in my life, too many claims on my time and too many difficult situations to be dealt with. I think I actually believed inner peace could only be achieved by monks and saints, or anyone living a reclusive life who didn’t have to deal with everyday struggles.

I was stuck in a world of confusion, wondering how peace could be mine when there was always something, some drama going on in my own life or the lives of those I loved.

In fact, it seemed to me that the whole world was filled with stuff, negative stuff mostly, which I read about in the newspaper, saw on the television, or heard from someone I knew.

It was the kind of stuff that pulls at your emotions—the breaking news story of a missing woman being found murdered, the tragedy of a child being killed by a hit and run driver, the numbers of homeless people tripling, and a devastating Tsunami killing thousands and paralyzing a country.

Then there were the stories closer to home—my friend’s husband being diagnosed with cancer and dying three months later, my father suffering from dementia, my best friend’s marriage falling apart—all tearing at my heart and leaving me hurt and grieving.

In my own personal life too, my emotions dipped and peaked along with how much control I felt I had over my own happiness. I literally felt like a puppet on a string, and asked myself over and over again, “How can I feel a constant inner peace in my heart and life when my emotions see-saw up and down according to what is happening in and around me?”

Looking back I know I believed that my emotions were important. After all, wasn’t being emotional an essential part of being alive? Emotions made me feel real and allowed me to extend empathy to everyone else.

But in the deepest part of myself, I did not feel good most of the time. I longed to not be so emotional. I wanted to be released from all the conflict in my life—to not react to other people’s words and anger, to feel serenity in my heart.

It was an almost desperate need to alter or to stop the negative cycle of events which seemed to dominate my relationships and my life.

I believe it was that intention which kept on surfacing in my mind and in my heart that fueled my spiritual search and led me to discover a more peaceful way to live, despite the conflict in my life.

I know that as the months and years went on I became more determined to change the way I was living.

It was a few years ago now—I cannot pinpoint exactly when it happened—when I finally felt a peace inside that did not come and go along with my emotions or the drama in my life. I know it was the culmination of making a lot of changes, including…

Believing I am Loved

Understanding that negative childhood imprinting leads to feeling unloved and having low self-esteem, I looked for and found the truth about myself. It was not what I had been led to believe was true!

Believing we are loved comes with knowing who we are, not judging ourselves or others for mistakes we make, and from daily meditation in which we feel the unconditional love of something greater than ourselves.

Monitoring and Changing My Thoughts

I once believed I had no control over what I was thinking, because I never considered the idea that thoughts can be changed. Then I started focusing on my thoughts and realized much of what I was thinking did not reflect the way I truly felt.

Just by paying attention to them, we see that many thoughts are primarily fear-based and judgmental.

And, because they come and go unchallenged, most of us struggle through life unconsciously accepting that we are our thoughts. We simply do not look at or challenge them as they appear and disappear. By accepting them, we give them permission to shape our beliefs about ourselves and our lives.

Once you start recognizing them, you can go about changing your thoughts. Through observing how your thoughts differ from the way you really feel, you can choose to place a different thought in your mind, which more accurately reflects the way you feel.

Coming from Loving-Kindness and Living from My Higher Self

By noticing and appreciating other people’s kindness, we become aware how much it really matters in daily living. In dealing with difficult telephone calls, perhaps an angry person on the other end of the line, we can choose to be kind.

When a friend asks us to help with something, we can decide on the kindest thing to say or do.

If someone asks for a donation for the umpteenth time, we can deal with the request kindly. Obviously, there are times we cannot give whatever is being asked of us; when we do not have the means or desire to agree to a certain request. In these circumstances, saying no with kindness is the best choice.

Sometimes kindly refusing to provide assistance is important in helping promote personal growth in others and allows them to learn some important life lessons.

If someone is gossiping about someone we know, we can be silently kind, refusing to be drawn into the conversation. By choosing kindness, we allow positive energy to flow from us to others and prevent negative energy from reaching us or infusing situations. In this way, we create and maintain a connection to our higher selves. And, realize just how good it feels to be kind.

Bringing the Practice of Acceptance into Daily Life

Perhaps the key to feeling real peace is being able to accept what is. Acceptance simply means recognizing your ego’s voice and rejecting it. Knowing that the only person we can change is ourselves enables us to do this.

As soon as we start to think there is something not right, not the way it should be, or we become judgmental about a situation or a person—their words or behavior—we know we have moved away from accepting what is, by wanting to control what is outside of us.

There is a lot of negative energy and craziness in this world, but we can all learn to live with inner peace.

If your intention is strong and comes from the deepest part of you, it will happen. Outwardly, nothing changes; peace comes from making changes inside you.

It begins and continues through becoming more aware of who you really are, knowing you are loved, making changes in the way you think, practicing loving-kindness, and accepting what is.

As serenity and unconditional love fill your heart, you will accept that you cannot go back, and will not relinquish what you have now found, that peace that you seem to have been searching for your whole life.

Finally, you will come to this—deep inner peace inside you that endures, regardless of what challenges life brings.

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About Marilyn Briant-Rockmore

Marilyn Briant is an author who promotes positive thinking and self-awareness through her writing. Her children’s book, The Leopard and the Mouse published in 2011, was recently followed by, Arms Out…Kiano Sees the World, published in August 2015. Marilyn is now working on a book which shares her experiences and insight gained thus far, along her amazing spiritual journey.

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  • Hi Marilyn,
    Peace like many other states of being are a choice that we make. It’s easy to get caught up in negativity and that for sure will create our reality unless we choose something else.

  • urooj shahid

    Amazing post Marilyn! 🙂

  • Lv2terp

    Fantastic!!! Thank you for sharing your wisdom, I really appreciated reading this! 🙂

  • Thank you so much for sharing this. I really connected with your thoughts as I continue on the path to find inner peace in the midst of challenges, and I do feel that practicing love, kindness, a shift in attitude – everything you’ve mentioned, inches me closer to it. The challenge I find is to stay there consistently despite all that goes on, especially the negativity of others. Anything you can share on what helped you deal with others negativity? I can see how kindness and love would help, but I’m having a really tough time right now specifically with someone, and feel challenged to move through it. 

    Thank you.

  • Onthepathom

    Marilyn, reading your post, I immediately noticed some of the steps/methods you describe are similar in Buddhist practice of the Eightfold Path and the Noble Truths.

  • Mebr537

    Thank you – I am so glad you liked it and I appreciate your comment. I hope you will visit me at my which I have been writing for weekly, for about 2 years now.

  • Mebr537

    Yes, Justin we are choosing the way we feel and what we have in our lives – there is so much drama going on around us to remind us of our choices. 

  • Mebr537

    You are right. And while I do not follow any particular religion or practice, I would say my beliefs are most closely aligned with Buddhism.

  • Mebr537

    I think what helped me most (and still helps me) in dealing with negativity is to understand that the way someone else feels has nothing to do with me. For a long time I believed I was responsible for another person’s feelings, now I am absolutely sure I am not. I am only responsible for my own.

    Another really good practice is to perceive someone else’s words and behavior differently. Their negativity comes from not knowing who they are and from feeling fearful and unloved. When this thought is foremost in your mind, it often helps stop you reacting to,or being pulled into their negativity.  

  • Mebr537

    I am so glad you enjoyed my writing. In sharing mine I am simply paying it forward – as a way of thanking all those other authors whose words of wisdom have lovingly guided me along my own spiritual path.

  • Thank you for this post! As usual, it’s very appropriate for my life right now and certainly gave me the slap I needed to make changes. Sometimes the challenge/difficulties inherent to this life is a bit hard to swallow, so all of the changes you describe are just right. Thank you!

  • Pravin

    Nicely written, Marilyn . The emotional see-saw is very much my story also. Your phrase ”
    Through observing how your thoughts differ from the way you really feel, you can choose to place a different thought in your mind”  should be in BOLD.  This might be key to escaping the random horror that is (my) mind.

    On an irrelevant & irreverent side-note it continually surprises me to learn that westerners have emotional problems also. As a south-Asian male, I often get the impression that westerners have little emotion. No offense.

  • Mebr537

    You are so welcome. Isn’t it wonderful Beth, that we seem to get exactly what we need when we need it!

  • Mebr537

    Thank you, bold would have provided the correct emphasis… I agree that observing what we are thinking and selecting alternative thoughts has a huge impact on the craziness which comes from allowing our ego’s thoughts a free rein!  


  • Su

    Thank you, Marilyn, for sharing this :-)…

  • Therenzis

    These 4 steps to achieve inner peace are simple yet not easily acquired. I appreciate your bringing this to us. I am on a path toward where you are. Your words have inspired a renewed belief that I can get there. Thank you!

  • Worksofivy

    I found a couple years back and since then, I cannot go a day without catching up on the latest post. Somehow, I just knew I couldn’t miss today’s post. I read just the first paragraph and burst into tears. All day today, I sat and wondered how is it, that no matter how good things may be going, the minute something negative occurred, it entered my mind that I’m just meant to NEVER be happy, and wondered if there was anyone else in the world that felt that way. Negative childhood, low self-esteem, feeling unloved no matter how much it’s said or shown to me, always seem to be the main things I struggle with. I feel like this post was meant ESPECIALLY for me. I smile on the outside, and i’ve been told that I’m just the sweetest person, but somehow, that inner peace continues to elude me, because of the negative thoughts. I know that real change starts with our thoughts, but sometimes it’s just extremely difficult to see through that thick cloud of doubt and fear. And those control issues…. Oh boy, this post DEFINITELY hit home.

    Sorry to run on, but I’m SO VERY GLAD to read this today, and I THANK YOU SO VERY, VERY MUCH for sharing. Will keep putting these changes into effect and hopefully, soon, I will be able to make such a post and inspire others as you have inspired me today.

    God bless you.

  • Nat06001

    This describes exactly what ive been struggeling with. Ive been trying to find peace in the middle of a lot of negative around me. It is not easy, but this was very inspiring and informative. Thank you

  • Marilyn – this was awesome 🙂  When I find myself struggling against what is…where what is rattling around in my thoughts are complaints about “what is” and how I want it to be different, I say this little mantra to myself…”Look at what is there and not at what isn’t”…this helps to me to embrace acceptance.
    Thanks so much for this post.

  • Mebr537

    Yes, I agree simple but perhaps not easy…I believe we get all the help we need to move in the “right” direction.  

  • Mebr537

    I love that you “ran on” and I am glad you understand you are not alone. Please know your strong intention will guide you to true peace…know you are loved.

  • Mebr537

    How wonderful Deborah, your mantra is just perfect…

  • Mebr537

    You are so welcome, Su…

  • sooz

     So how good is it to know that we are all alike under the skin?  I used to think that people from the other side of town from me could not possibly think like I did!  No really! I just love the fact that we are so similar and connected, and your post is just another lovely confirmation that whatever nationality we are,  we are the same.

  • mnsifuentes

    You aren’t the only one that feels that way! I too sat here thinking, “Did she write this for me?” I wanted to let you know that you are not alone, and I wish you the best on finding and keeping your inner peace! 

  • Rosebud

    A very, very beautiful message

  • jason

    In America people are rude and think of others kindness as weakness.

  • sonia

    I had lost my inner peace because of the tensions of finding a good income source just for a few days but this post really helped to get back to my roots and be centered.

    Thank you for sharing.

  • trevor

    I really like this post. I’m new to the inner peace thing but this helps a lot and hope I can find it soon!

  • Josh

    I just found this post and I wanted to say thank you. I am just started out on my spiritual awakening after 44 years in the wilderness, I find i am drifting somewhat lacking direction and I find my ego really does not want to let go, and is causing me fears and depressive thoughts. I understand i have to observe with compassion, but it is hard not to run to the arms of some medications or other. Posts such as this really help me understand i am not alone when it gets hard. I am reading through Marilyn’s blog now which is proving to be a further sourse of inspiration. thank you all you Tiny Buddha’s

  • Nikki

    This was beautiful message. I’m 25 and I’ve been feel that my soul has not been satisfied. Though my job pays well and I can do the work with quality.The money hype ends quickly and there’s still a void I cannot quite grasp. My Purpose feels blank to me. After listening to Wayne Dyer and his talk about our ego and higher self. I searched for inner peace and this article gave me a great direction to follow. I will do my best to love my self more and accept life how it is and flow through it. I know my purpose will come and my soul will soar.

  • Wouter Verhagen

    If anybody has self-esteem issues I would really recommend looking for books that use cognitive behavioral therapy for low self-esteem issues. I can’t explain in detail how it works, but if you feel like you need something – try that (please!). I’d say “Overcoming Low Self-Esteem” by Dr. Melanie Fennell is a good book, but I can’t be certain since I’ve never read it. The reason is I live in the Netherlands and I read a book called Denk je Sterk (Think Yourself Strong), but it probably applies the same principles. The exercises are extremely simple and you can begin to empower yourself again. I had trouble with self-esteem issues myself, having a mental illness that sort of keeps me from being a productive person in society. It will definetly help. The problem with the internet is all the misinformation. I’m not saying this site is misinforming anybody, but most sites are and if people are desperate for help they will try anything because they don’t know where to find the truth.

    I know this post is a bit late but I felt like responding. If anybody reads this later on looking for ways to deal with self-esteem – search for an up-to-date book that uses cognitive behavioral therapy for low self-esteem. It’s the easiest and most succesful method I know.

  • Dancing Violinist

    Nice article, but the many typos were getting in my way of achieving inner peace… (ahem, editors!!!)

  • Don Dressel

    I have had a rough life as my 1st wife left me for another man. My 2nd wife was very controlling and said many hurtful things to me until she got sick and died from cancer but I stood by her and took care of her. My 3rd wife has recently told me that she is unhappy and is not in love with me anymore. The pain I have inside me can sometimes be unbearable! I am very religious and I also have started to read The Wise Heart. Reading it gives me comfort! If anyone reads this please say a prayer for me. I do have my little 2 year old Jack Russell Winston who I love very much!

  • Ronster247

    as someone going through some stuff in my life. this is awesome. i too would like to get peace emotionally and spiritually.

  • christy

    finding inner peace is very hard . i have no friends and don’ t really know how to make them. my family put me down all the time , my husband tells me that I’m crazy and if i try to share my day with him he tells me i talk to much and have to much drama,what do i do and how do i fix me? I want to change my life to be happy for once and find a friend who does want to just listen. I’m tired of having no one who cares about me. and I’m tired of being alone.

  • christy

    I can relate i to have been married three times . my first husband physically abused me , my second husband i found out after we married that he was bipolar and he put a gun to my head,my third husband is not like them but doesnt like me talking about my day he says he considers it whiny , nagging, and to drawn out. he doesnt care and doesnt want to hear about it. he and his friends put me down all the time and if it upsets me he calls me a drama queen and a selfish b****, sooo I’m no stranger to pain.

  • Don Dressel

    Hi Christy! I am sorry for what you have been through! Have you sat down with your husband and tried to talk to him? It sounds like he is emotionally selfish and does not have a lot of empathy! What I did was give my wife space joined a gym and work out at home also! I also joined a church and have met many good people. My wife and I are going to a marriage counseler I know I spelled that wrong but anyway it is hard because I have been very good to her but her comments have been I want an open marriage and we are better friends then husband and wife! She is in touch with younger guys and tells me they are nothing but friends! She is house sitting to get space from me and was in an emotional affair that turned out to be a scam. I have given her space and am backing off from her. You have to think more of yourself! Start doing more for you! If you want I am at take care and I will say a prayer for you! Keep in touch let me know how you are doing!

  • Kirtu

    I am pleased to have found this dependable piece.Yes, the war within is perhaps the biggest challenge. Inner peace has been eluding me for a long time.Low self-esteem resulting from bitter experience of youth are persistently assailing me. I believe,every reader will derive immense benefit from this article. My thanks to Marilyn .

  • Jordan Philip Perris

    You want to know how to make world peace a reality, well, here you go folks 🙂

    Along with food forests, wire/tunnel like structures over sidewalks made of material that will not rust and stuff that have food and other plants growing/wrapping around them making for a beautiful walk and plenty of free food that you can grab along the way, countless things can be done to cities/buildings/etc to green things up, multi storied/layered plant troths/trays/pots, gardens, etc many people around the world can grow enough food in there backyards and cities to more then feed the entire populous, you can have multi layered gardening/growing/food trays, trays placed on walls, growing ops in houses/buildings, on walls and so on with the proper lightings (And yes we can build underground and in other cool areas too for those who wish to do so).

    There is more then enough room for greenery and the lot and we will have several times more then enough green energies/power/etc, as well as water/liquid/food for everyone/thing (With no money there is no worries about processing the salt water and converting it to fresh water through desalination plants and other methods like reusing/recycling your own water, complex/flexible/highly effective and pyramid +Self moving automated solar panels and magnifying glass like effects and complex wind turbines and countless other things with systems/methods and so on that would cost an absolute fortune back in the days of money that people can now actually use and have many do at home methods and there will be more then enough changes made to allow for people to figure out how to make sure that we no longer require pesticides and other harmful things and that rabbits and other creatures do not eat/ruin/destroy everything and get out of control with population, diseases/etc, so that we can all, humans and non humans alike properly benefit and have full lives, not to mention all of the water recycling/reusing methods and all the rest of it that will be put into place for everyone – No more money folks, no more money)

    Plus many more non polluting energy sources/etc to support everyone with a comfortable lifestyle, including the once homeless/etc who will be living in what were once banking/corporate buildings/etc/etc, these buildings and other structures/etc being converted into living spaces and other useful outlets for true/guaranteed sustainable living for all (there will be no more insane waste of space/resources and all the rest of it and just here on Earth alone there is far more then enough materials/etc for everyone and we can clean up our mess and make this planet better then it has ever been) and speaking of space, yes we should pay attention and learn from it, as in having enough professionals/equipment to monitor 100% of the skies for killer rocks and other dangerous cosmic activities and have more at tenting on plans to take care of an otherwise lethal situation, to be healing/monitoring the earth/ourselves/life, we can explore Mars and the rest of it later once we have solved enough of our own troubles.

    You’ve got all kinds of web services that allow you to design your own home, gardens and countless other things, including ideas/inventions and the likes, those along with schooling/teaching websites with different courses, hobbies and so on and so forth can all be easily available to us (obviously not a how to guide on how to build a nuke and such) and managed by the experts in those said fields so that you know all the info you are getting is legit.

    Peace is great yet we should not let down our guard all the same as others may be just biting their time and waiting for the perfect moment to strike with their nukes or what have you, but no worries I am certain that in the not too distant future that we will all be able to manage everything and not have to worry about such things.

    Transportation, not a problem, especially with so many brilliant minds finally being freed up to make it greener/better/etc for us all, plus with so many people being much more community based, in their own towns/homes/cities so to speak we will not be needing to use transport so much, besides how many drive back and forth to jobs that are not even needed or farther away then they need to be (Many jobs out there today should already be obsolete “not the skills of the workers just the jobs” and as for the ones that are truly vital there will always be more then enough people with more then enough skills who love the vital ones/will be more then happy enough to take care of them and us as a whole are naturally a cooperative species and long to share our talents, be with others and just help one another out and even now tons of people volunteer and help others, the community/etc who still have jobs and especially when we are free things will be far better then they are now, which is what will happen when we stop using money and move passed the monetary system) and the rest, we will take care of, handle things/help each other as a community, so it wont even be an issue (We’ll figure everything out together)

    Not to mention the countless materials (Such as all of the plastics, rubbers, glass, metals/etc/etc/etc) that have been tossed (Including many that currently cannot be recycled) wish can be used for countless things and several people with very creative minds in their field will continuously think up awesome ideas/innovations to keep things advancing/going and have continuous, inventions/innovations/creativities that will be so vast and as we truly enter this new resonance era.

    We can have greenhouses and other stuff galore and we don’t have to give up chips, pop, pizza and countless other great things, plus scientists have already created bacon from stem cells and it wont be long before medical science can do the same for all body parts, no scars or nothing, perfect health and immortality if we wish it and vitamins can be automatically added to foods/drinks/etc to best meet our individual needs (3D printers can create the parts needed to self replicate themselves and even print edible food) and we can even have more grocery stores then ever before with all the good stuff while still keeping things tasting great without the chemical and all the cheeping out that so many do to save a buck, soon having humane dairy/meet/etc created in the lab then in the comfort of your own home…so many countless/awesome things can be done for the world today (One of many other things that can be done, well, those beautiful/fancy ice hotels/sculptures/etc, many can be made in areas where they will not melt).

    With so many brilliant minds free to invent/improve things by continuous leaps and bounds without the countless atrocities/sufferings of money/greed, creativity/life/etc will truly keep evolving by never ending leaps and bounds, but like Egypt there are most likely going to be undercover people and others hired to try and make things worse, people rioting, wars started by propaganda and the likes, so we must keep our heads together and our hearts strong, love will win and we must not fall pray to the bullshit of the few (Percentage wise, there are very few people on earth who are committing crimes and far more who are keeping the peace, and given the way things are today, that tells me that we will make it, we are a smart/caring/cooperative/peace loving species), and as for those few who are trying to keep us in the dark they will not want to loose this current system and will fight till the end and cause as much fear and the likes that they can to try and keep it, so no matter what fear, rumours, false footage, reports/etc that they spew out and events that they try to create, we can’t fall pray to hate and revenge, we cant be the fuel that feeds their flame, we can not give those with deadly weapons reasons to use them.

    Also, what they teach in schools you can find on the internet, which in turn can be far better structured to make it easy to find/study what you wish with plenty of online discussion forms/help available as well as your community/etc – Doctors and such you will need hands on training as well, but what I am trying to say is most everything does not require that you have to be present in an actual classroom and this can leave even more areas that can be set up for the gifted inventors, thinkers, futurists and so on to come up with new/improved ideas/inventions/etc for those that prefer not to work from home. We can all have seeds/food/plants that can grow each year, produce seeds of their own/etc, empty lots/etc can be planted/forested (Best to go by natures rules/growth patterns/etc for planting trees and so on as well as repairing areas and reintroducing native plants/species/etc and Masanobu Fukuokas Seed ball method as well as his natural farming techniques are great and so is the homegrown revolution, amongst many others) and places set up where innovators can invent, talk and get what they need, to also work from home if they wish.

    In todays’ world we have more than enough resources and smarts at our disposal to make much more wondrous lives for every human being while being able to give the very best of care for all of the suffering (Even if our population was to suddenly double overnight) while still maintaining a very healthy planet, and yes, it is true, we could still make this world far better then it has ever been for humans and non humans alike even if there were roughly 15 to 20 billion+ people in the world today and we will always be able to continue to keep life awesome for all generations to come.

    So awesome in fact that that we may have to use a new word to describe this beyond awesome state, and/or possibly even this new era, maybe something like this one that I thought up, “Phosomancesss” – pronounced as “Faw-Sohm-An-Sisss/Fawsohmansisss :)” (A cross between “Phoenix, Awesome, Om, Renaissance and the hissing sounds of a species once hated/feared by many, know as Snakes”) Definition: A state/place of continuous transcendent evolution 🙂

    I for one would weep to no end if humanity as a whole were to abandon technologies, science/etc/etc as they are (As far as I am concerned) absolutely vital keys to our quality of life, salvation and continuing ascension, completion, awesome lives for the world over, for true freedom and so much more (Someday, because of them we ourselves can become everything that we need so that we will no longer need many of these things, but for now and for a while to come, I say, let those of us who want tech/etc embrace and continue to benefit from all of these things and in turn make lives as best we can for everyone in every way that they wish while remembering to keep their lifestyles/beliefs/etc in mind, lets go wild with museums, amusement parks, religious/holy structures and countless other life enriching/enhancing things.

    As for posting videos and other stuff, so long as you don’t plastering your name on other peoples photos/etc you should be allowed to post whatever videos you want (Including music, news/etc videos, again, so long as you don’t plaster your name/credit on them) and to also post your own video creations (Even if you use others photos, clips/etc and giving yourself credit for creating the video is fine just so long as you don’t claim that you created those individual pics/clips/etc if they are not of your creation) and if people state that they don’t want you to use/post their material for obvious and legit/non crap and non monetary reasons then their personal/etc materials should be kept to them and just having stuff posted on the net, especially if its for the world too see runs the risk of others finding and using it. Also, like so much other stuff, aside from the obvious stuff most of us shouldn’t have/etc, everyone being able to have the computer programs/software/etc/etc/etc of their choosing including otherwise outrageously expensive ones, the sky is no longer the limit, remember, money is no longer an issue)

    When things are truly changing, people will truly be able to heal/bleed out the emotional bullshit and free themselves/there minds, life will be very fulfilling and far from boring for you guys without money, to start there will be countless activities/tasks/things to keep you preoccupied whenever you want to do something, not to mention the joys of working together knowing that your helping to clean up the planet and doing countless feel good stuff, help other people/creatures/plants/etc and with people having far more freedoms to invent, create and improve life/etc things will only continue to get better for us as we will in many respects connect like we have connected before and be like one gigantic native american indian global type of community, we will at last know/feel true/real freedom the world over.

  • Hardey Leone

    Why do you say we see this or we see that when you are talking about your own experiences?

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  • Jacqueline

    thank u, 🙂 Your article truly made my month. I have been a cycle of negative energy since being involved with a spouse that ignores me and has been treating me not the best.( Never cuddles and picks at my flaws )( i met him when i just recovered from my second time with Cervical Cancer when my self esteem was low). I have been trying to get it up since and yours words were the key, thank u soo much

  • Guest

    something i’ve always wanted to ask. i find people talking a lot about acceptance here. were the african american slaves supposed to practice acceptance? or were they right in finding any way they could to escape or change their situation?

  • felicer

    something i’ve always wanted to ask. were the african-american slaves supposed to bring acceptance into slavery? or was it better for them to do anything they could to escape so they could have a better life?

  • kathleen suneja

    Awesome! We all need to learn how to be conscious about one’s autonomy to attain inner peace. Hopefully you guys can also check out my site at iamthechangeiseek . org

  • datdamndude

    This is really deep. I spend waaaayyyy to much time trying to control what other people think of me , and what other people do. Nice to know that there are people who dig deeper into themselves. Thank you. My journey starts now.

  • Jplanet

    Christy, please seek professional help…a therapist who will give you homework to help you tackle these issues one by one. You can do this.

  • ramya

    It is a good post. I am glad I read it. Thanks. It was soothing to my painful heart.

  • Toy

    Jason, I definitely agree with you.

  • Shashank Prasad

    Like all others, I too feel this was written for ME!! (This is my first article TinyBuddha and I al already loviing it).
    Maybe because after all, we all are humans and these feelings (positive and negative), thoughts, ups and downs of life, fears, doubts are all common to humanity.
    Thats why wise men have said that we are united by the bond of humanity first. Then comes your nation,sex,religion,caste,creed.
    Lord buddha realized this common pain of the humanity and helped us all by his teachings. He was definitely one of the noblest souls to have walked on earth.

  • Heather Landry

    Thank you Ms. Marilyn.

  • Nice article. There are many ways to inner peace & this was your journey & I honor it & I’m glad you shared. I walked out of movie about 2 years ago & experienced inner peace for about 3 days. I work & play to get back to that space with out efforting.

    Yet like piano, or any skill,– practice makes better & eventually less effort & finally it’s there, no effort just beingness.