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Giveaway and Author Interview: The Misleading Mind

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The Winners:

Have you ever felt like your mind was controlling you, dragging you along for a persistently bumpy ride?

Research shows the majority of us feel this way, but the good news is that we can do something about—and Karuna Cayton’s book The Misleading Mind teaches us how.

A psychotherapist and practicing Buddhist, Karuna has written an easily digestible book that offers solutions to the mental anguish we often perpetuate through misguided thinking.

Its full title is The Misleading Mind: How We Create Our Own Problems and How Buddhist Psychology Can Help Us Solve Them, and it delivers on that promise.

I’m thrilled to share this long but illuminating interview and offer two free copies as a giveaway!

The Giveaway

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The Interview

1. What made you choose the title The Misleading Mind? In what way is the mind misleading?

The source of all problems and the source of all solutions is the mind. I believe that. Of course, people always bring up extreme examples like, “How is the tsunami in Japan a fault of the mind?” Ultimately, I believe it is, but just on a relative basis.

The suffering that arises as a result of a tsunami is mental suffering. Yes, one’s body may be injured, but that falls mostly in the realm of pain. Suffering, or problems, as I am referring to them, refers to anguish, misery, unhappiness.

These painful states of mind arise as a result of the afflictive emotions in our mind. And, these arise from a misunderstanding of reality, of how things are.

This misperception is a mental activity, a mind activity, and we are misled by these constant misapprehensions. Thus…the misleading mind. I should also point out that is also the mind that leads us out of our problems, if we know how to use it properly.

2. Your book offers solutions to three major problems, which you’ve called the Three Conditions (known as the Three Sufferings in Buddhism). What are these?

Traditionally, they are called The Suffering of Suffering, The Suffering of Change, and Pervasive Suffering. I’m not a big fan of the word “suffering” because of the usual, common use of the word. From a definitional use, suffering is an accurate term.

The Suffering of Suffering refers to a condition that all living beings experience. It simply means that we have pain and, as a result, we suffer mentally. Our joints ache, we bruise when we fall, our teeth are sensitive to cold, a tiny little piece of glass can cause great distress when it finds the bottom of our foot (or, anywhere else on our body!)

Just by virtue of the fact that if you took a pin and touched it to any part of our body we would feel pain indicates that we are pretty vulnerable. We go in and out of pain constantly.

The Suffering of Change is more subtle. Just about everything is in a state of change and, yet, we have a kind of ignorance that prevents us from actually perceiving this constant change. We really only notice gross change, like day and night, the changing of the seasons, our kids changing over months and years.

But there is subtle, constant change happening at the atomic level all the time. And, also, our minds are changing every instant.

So, because we have a tendency to want to freeze everything, and nothing is frozen or static, we suffer when we lose the thing we want or enjoy.

A warm day tanning ourselves at the beach inevitably turns cold and uncomfortable. Too much ice cream turns into a stomachache. Some people say, “If I could just stay in bed all day, I’d be happy.” But, what happens if you try to stay in bed all day? Eventually, we are driven out of bed. This is due to the Suffering of Change. Also, one can add to this the difficulty of aging, getting sick, losing one’s job, and so on.

The final category is Pervasive Suffering. This is not so easy to understand right off the bat but it refers to the fact that we constantly live in ignorance.

The ignorance we live in is the ignorance of reality: the way things exist and the way I, my self, exists.

This is a constant state of bewilderment and thus it is a very “primitive” way of existing. “Primitive” in comparison to what our inner potential could provide were we able to actualize our wisdom, compassion, and other positive mental traits that we possess, which are typically in a very dormant state.

3. You’ve written that some people internalize the idea that we create suffering in our minds to mean, “Everything exists inside of me. Therefore, it is all my fault.” How can we embrace the role we play in creating our own problems while also being kind to ourselves?

This is a very, very important and tricky point. We are responsible, at “fault,” because mind creates just about everything. At the very least, the mind creates our experience of the world. However, we have to explore and develop an understanding of who, or what, we mean by “me.”

Really, it is ignorance and the accompanying disturbing emotions that create the problems. But it is only our wisdom and understanding, the positive emotions within us that can subdue the negative ones. It’s in our hands, unfortunately I guess.

But the bright side is this: Swe create our own world, we can create any world we want. It’s just that up until now we haven’t really created a very great world for ourselves and, we are ultimately responsible for that. No reason to feel guilty because we didn’t know better. And, anyway, guilt is a useless, self-indulgent emotion anyway. Regret is good because with regret we learn.

4. In Chapter Four, you wrote that self-awareness the most effective therapy of all. Can you expand on this?

We can say that our usual mode of existence is a lack of awareness of what’s really going on inside of us. Further, by being aware of our own inner experience we then extend this awareness to the effects we are having on the world around us.

In fact, “self-awareness” is one of the competencies measured in Emotional Intelligence. To really deepen and accurately be self-aware we need to educate ourselves on what we are directing our awareness toward.

In the context of Buddhist psychology we are concerned, at the very least, with the arising of the various emotions and “mental” stuff such as thoughts, feelings, judgments, assumptions, concepts and so on.  Then, with a deeper level of self-awareness we view the foundation from which these emotions arise, particularly the sensations that stimulated the thoughts and emotions.

Finally, we also direct our gaze at the person, identity or “I” that is in reaction to those emotions and, in many ways, is responsible for their perpetuation.

5. You’ve written that we live our lives chasing “trivial pursuits,” one of which is abundance. Our culture certainly reinforces this drive, particularly in literature related to the law of attraction. How can we find a balance between our instinct to grow and expand, and our need to recognize and appreciate enough?

We have to make a conscious decision, based on a wise analysis of what we really want in life and what the causes are that will produce what we want. Fundamentally, every living being and every action living beings take is to be happy.

Typically, happiness and pleasure are seen as synonyms. And, extending that concept the more pleasure we have then the happier we will become. Here’s where abundance comes in. If one is seeking abundance as a means to extend or to increase pleasure then this is not only a faulty idea but creates more problems, more unhappiness, than the original state of “lack.”

Studies have been done of lottery winners and the overwhelming experience of these people is that their level of happiness is actually lower two years after their winning. That’s pretty strange. So, whether or not one has abundance is not the actual problem.

What creates the problem is the motivation and mindset behind the pursuing and accumulation of abundance.

Certainly, seeking abundance for the benefit of others is not going to lead to further unhappiness in yourself. Probably the contrary will happen—the more you work for the happiness of others, the happier you become.

6. What is one simple but powerful technique we can start using today to retrain our minds?

Become aware of what’s happening to you. Start being aware of how your mind controls you, and that you are not in control of your mind. That alone is huge. To do this we have to interrupt the habitual patterns of the mind.

We have to notice that we are constantly in reaction rather than “pro-action.”  So the first step is to calm the mind, focus it, and then notice what’s going on. A good way to start is with the ABCD method.  You can do this while you’re waiting in traffic, in a waiting room, or during a commercial.

A stands for anatomy. Check in with your body and see that it is relaxed and you’ve let go of any tension. Make sure the spine, from your tail bone to the top of your head, is straight but not rigid. If you can, gently close your eyes or leave them slightly open. (Of course, if you’re driving, forget this last part!)

B stands for breath. Connect with your breath by just watching either the sensations going in and out of the nose or your belly rising and falling. Do not manipulate or control the breath. Watch it like you’d watch a river.

C stands for counting. As you inhale and then exhale, count “1”, then “2” for the next round until you get to ten. Then go in reverse to one.  If you can do three rounds, great. If you don’t have much time then just count to three and back, three times.

D stands for distraction. When the mind wanders from the breath, bring it back. This takes the added action of noticing distractions. When you notice a distraction you gently say, “distracted,” and then refocus on the breath. That’s all. This simple exercise is a total contradiction to our normal brain activity and even though it is simple it can effective assist in rewiring those neuropathways and mental habits.

7. What is the main message you hope readers take away from your book?

Everybody wants to be happy. Happiness is an inside job. The only thing that keeps us from being happy is that we are mentally out of balance. This is due to having an untrained mind. We are not in control of the mind, the mind is in control of us, and thus we are not in control of our happiness.

Anyone can engage at some level in taking control of our happiness. The ideas in Buddhist psychology are non-sectarian, that can be viewed as secular and they are deep and extensively tested for over 2600 years.

Read more about The Misleading Mind on Amazon.


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About Lori Deschene

Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha and Recreate Your Life Story, an online course that helps you let go of the past and live a life you love. Her latest bookTiny Buddha's Gratitude Journal, which includes 15 coloring pages, is now available for purchase. For daily wisdom, follow Tiny Buddha on Twitter, Facebook & Instagram..

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  • Rich Horton

    Somebody said to me recently, when I was presenting a model for learning in a course, ‘Well that’s just common sense!’. I replied ‘Of course it is, all models and approaches that align with the deep truths of the universe are just codified common sense’. This book sounds similar to me. Yes of course it’s common sense, but so often as human beings we don’t do common sense. These are deep truths that are universal and crop in all sort of places, literature etc etc. I just need to remember to put them into practice. Thanks for the reminder I will now go and put this common sense into action. 

  • I have overcome depression by using mindfullnes and reading a lot about Buddism. I also started taking Ki-Aikido classes. It has worked wonders for me. Living with myself is much better now. I still have to practice each day but this takes no effort. Because what I get back from it is huge….

  • Todd45387

    Sounds like a great book! Would love to read it!

  • Uttaragarg

    am on my journey of retraining my mind and be in control of it . not easy though. it takes a lot of inner work and practice but it can also be fun to jus watch your mind play games with u.
    would love to read your book as that would definitley accelerate the process of concious living!

  • Pamela

    Nice interview Lori. *thumbs up*

  • This post was so timely, this is a topic I’ve been trying to master in my own life. I will definitely pick up this book, thank you.

  • Rachel

    Great interview – the book sounds super helpful!

  • Katharinefrances

    This book sounds amazing!

  • Simonson Cindi

    Stumbled upon your blog and am finding it’s just what I needed today as I work through reinventing myself. Thank you.

  • Yvette

    Sounds like great summer reading.

  • Jennifer M Wright

    What a great book suggestion to help tame the “monkey mind.”  It makes me so happy to see the same tried and true methods for happiness expressed – meditation, self awareness, etc.  As a young kid these are the things my parents taught me but sometimes it takes a little while to really understand and agree.

  • aps

    this is very timely, working to train my mind to be a lot more positive and appreciate the gift of Life. would love to read this book, thank yoU!

  • Ladyeumbrous

    this sounds like a great read!

  • Sarah Quincey

    This sounds like something I really need to read. I’m in a funk. I’m 27-years-old, my little brother recently got married. A friend just got engaged and another friend is in a relationship that will turn into marriage. With all of these happening, it has made me feel like I’m on a neverending cycle of bitterness and a lifetime of lonliness. I need to find my happiness and figure out where I want to go with my life and I just don’t know how to get there.

  • Jeffc1

    This one is right up my alley!  hope you’re well, Lori!!

  • Linda H.

    At this point in m life, I think I could really benefit from reading this book.  Thanks!

  • JamesSimon

    I find the most difficult thing is the people around me… like being tossed around it the waves at times.

  • Jeffc1

    The interview, alone, teaches so much about how to be at your best!  Nice job.

  • Cassies

    You always have such great giveaways! They also always seem so timely for me. I have been reading more and more about Buddhism and this sounds like a great book to compliment that!

  • Anna

    Entering to win! 

  • I’ve been reading Thich Nhat Hanh for a few years now and I am really looking forward to reading more Buddhism.

  • Mary

    Great book and powerful message

  • Dale

    Entering the contest

  • Hallman Leslie

    love the thoughts on self-awareness, would like to get this book!

  • Melissa

    I so want to learn more about Buddhism.. it speaks to me – this book seems like a great place to start… 

  • Carol Moulton

    I’ve enjoyed reading your posts on Tiny Buddha, and have always skimmed the sections on book giveaways/author interviews. However today, I’m reading your interview. I’ve become very interested in the way the mind works and tricks us to think a certain way. I want to change my thought process and be in control. If anything, thank you for sharing this book and it’s topic with us. 

  • Pafunk

    Have been digging myself out of a hole for about 2 months now.  Have a bone that died in my wrist.  Had surgery and was supposed to be off for only a week but ended up 2 months and while on medical leave had my hours at work cut by 11 hours a week due to budget shortfalls.  It’s been a long way bringing myself back and I think this book would certainly help.

  • Kat

    I would love to read this book!  I think the ability to see and examine the mind and your thoughts as incredibly powerful!! 

  • I am going into social work and want to use mindfulness in my practice. I have been searching different mindfulness therapies (such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy). This book sounds like a wonderful, down to earth guide for incorporating mindfulness into one’s daily life. I love the ABCD. It is easy tools like this that help those who are having a hard time in their lives simplify a new practice. Thanks for sharing this book!

  • Mary D.

    Lately I’ve been thinking how many of us exclude the mind from our paradigm of what needs tending to. Like our physical counterparts, the mind needs to be fueled and if necessary, repaired when it’s hurting. It takes acknowledgement and prioritizing in order to cultivate awarenesses about resources at our disposal that can help. The book “The Misleading Mind” seems an excellent choice to get us on our respective paths toward improved mental health. I look forward to devouring it!

  • moniv

    I am at a point in my life that transition/change is happening at a very fast pace.  I’m looking at 50, my children are tweens, I’ve stayed home to raise them and can’t go back to my old career in Administration, I’m a yoga instructor – but can’t get any classes since the market is flooded right now, so I’m not sure how to re-create myself and my 14 year marriage has fallen apart.  I read what you wrote and it gave me some hope.  I, too, have believed that if it is all “inside” me, then I must be the reason why things have not worked out as I’d hoped . . and I’ve suffered.  Change is inevitable in this life of constant evolution.  A quote comes to mind from the movie “Finding Nemo” when they’re heading towards Australia and they meet up with the turtles and one of them says “Go with the flow, Dude” ~~ Yes, go with the flow : )

  • Er2900

    I want to read ‘The Misleading Mind.’ Too often, we allow ourselves to be governed by our thoughts and I want to read more on the Buddhist thought and how to combat this negativity with a gentle spirit. Not only for my benefit, but so I can share this information with others in need. I am obtaining my master’s in social work and am making plans to encompass mind, body and spiritual well-being into my practice. This book would benefit me in many ways. 

  • Napudint

    Life is best lived by the curious and the brave. I ‘m ready to do this!

  • Je

    I’d 
    love to be able to give this to a friend of mine who finds herself stuck in the same pattern.  I’ve talked with her re:  meditation& thought processes but this book would explain it better and help her more that I can.

  • Boy, do I need this book! Would love to win!

  • Kim

    I so need something like this. My life is so crazy. I need direction.

  • Aravinda Sahan

    This book sounds very interesting! hope to read it! 

  • Angela

    I just finished “Going to Pieces Without Falling Apart” – this would be a great next book to read!

  • Diva308905

    I would so enjoy reading this book.  Thanks for the contest, TB.

  • I think it is always important to be mindful. This book sounds like a very useful read.

  • Help keeping my mind in “focus” … YES I would love to win this book. 🙂

  • Ash

    Would love to win a book full of light

  • I was struggling to articulate the problems with the literature on the law of attraction. Reading this interview helped. Thanks.

  • Lindsey Bronner

    I would LOVE to read this book! The whole idea of there not being stress in the world, and that we create it with our minds has been popping up a lot for me lately. It’s such a simple yet profound idea. I would love to understand and learn more about the buddhist perspective on such topics.

    Namaste,
    Lindsey B.

  • Dee

    Looks wonderful definitely could use this to get life back on track! would love to win! 🙂

  • I would love to read it too! I am too much in my head and this sounds so helpful. 

  • GalFromAway

    This would be a great resource for me for sure. Combining what I’m getting from counselling and combining it with Buddhism would be fantastic.

  • Monkey Mind is my middle name and I could use some direction. Would love to own a copy!

  • I would love to win a copy!
    I’m learning a lot about Buddhism these days, I think this book is a must-have for my personal library. 🙂

  • Wow sounds like an amazing book. I am posting and tweeting 😀 … nice blog post as well BTW. Of course I love all of ’em 😀

  • The Suffering of Change.  I find that a very interesting concept and a huge one in finding personal contentment as well as sharing contentment ways with others.
    I find myself referring to things I’ve done in the past.  My husband does as well.  He summitted Mt. Everest with only one arm.  But that was in the past.

    Things change.  We must move forward.  We must continue to fulfill what is now, which certainly looks different than 10 years ago, or even yesterday.

    Would love to read this book in it’s entirety.

  • Shan Rees

    Absolutely so. We create everything that is. I welcome any angle and any input on this, so that I may continue my journey on trying to be my best, most clear and communicative self; and so that I add to the tools I have to help others to be so too. Thanks for what you have written, Lori.
    Shan

  • Oh I’m sure this will be a fitting read. 

  • Milestoneturn

    When in doubt, listen. 
    When listening, clear your mind of doubt, and gain perspective.
    Namaste.

  • Steven Thompson

    I so need this book…

  • Brittany

    This book looks so insightful!

  • Gina Kat

    Thank you for doing what you do. 

  • Boy, it would be nice to win. The feeling of recognition and accomplishment in winning this book would be pretty sweet. Although the feeling I would experience of Mudita if someone else won would be just as sweet. And really, the practice of equanimity keeps me balanced if no ones wins. I’m set, no matter what. 🙂

  • I would love to read this book! 

  • Thanks! You’re always so insightful.

  • Thanks for this, Lori. I have been preparing for my next molt, so to speak. Buddhism has been beckoning for several years, and what it offers appears to be just what I want…perhaps need.

    As I grow and climb what I would call a “ladder of faiths, or disciplines,” I find that the search begins for something external, accepting what others offer as the eternal, or all-knowing. As I move through these, the questions grow in size. Until there comes a turning point where the queries return to what lies within. Would that we, in the Western cultures, were encouraged to do this from the beginning. Of course, I attribute that to the learning process. Without experience, there is no lesson. Without sinners, we have no saints. Without pain, there is no suffering.

    ~ Mark

  • Amelia

    This sounds like just what I need at this moment. I’ve been dealing with looping anxieties recently to the point where I yell at myself to stop, to no avail. 

  • Stuffoflife

    Can’t wait to get my hands on a copy of this book!! I am in training to become a psychologist and love ACT therapy because it incorporates Buddhist thought… this book seems to be right in line with what I hope to teach clients!!

  • Elizabethsadhu

    Perfect title because our minds often try to fool us! Listening to our hearts is the way. 

  • Marsha

    Just now exploring Buddhist thought as a means of growing while going through a divorce.  So mush of Buddhist thought has immeasurably helped, with previous mindsets now left behind for hralthier thought.  I wold love to add theis book to my healing!

  • Aletajoy29

    I’ve been working on this for a few years now and I think this book will help me in my journey.  Would love to win – thanks TB!

  • Allen Casillas

    Hmmm… potential answers to questions in my head. I’m with it.

  • Kathryn A

    This book sounds great for me, thanks for the chance!

  • Jackie_oxendine

    I think this would be something that I could benefit from. Thanks for the chance.

  • Wow! Well, you hear it time and time again – where the mind goes, the body follows. This is just another prime example about how much success or failure our own thoughts can generate and how we are in control of our future.

    I’d love the opportunity to read The Misleading Mind in its entirety if you so choose me. 🙂

  • Denyse Demel

    I am excited about this book! Thanks for the opportunity to win!

  • Donovan

    looks like a great book can’t wait to read it

  • Melinda

    I have a very misleading mind and would greatly benefit from reading this book! Thanks for the post.

  • Chris

    This interview opened the next door of self discovery. I had hit a wall, much as Ranjan, with my studies. I’m excited to have new ideas to explore!

  • anne copeland

    mindfulness…being present in the moment with its variety of stimulii is a real challenge to a person whose mind squirrels run rampant. (me)

  • Great interview and wise words. Thanks!
    msred5@gmail.com

  • Jedidad

    This looks like a very exciting book, especially for someone like myself that has only began practicing Buddhism this year.

  • Chell

    I am a firm believer that we are introduced to ideas and people at right time for us to hear what is being shared.  This would be a great book to help me gain a better grip on the mind and happiness

  • Somisgrl

    Being a psychology graduate and following Buddhism, the combination is fascinating. How we can become better and more compassionate beings while using the science of psychology and teachings of Buddhism should be spread throughout! Looking forward to reading! Thank you!

  • Donnacomire

    Looks like a great book.

  • Caro

    Great interview, the book sounds really interesting!

  • Katie

    this sounds like a wonderful book. I can’t wait to read it, and would love a copy!

  • Vinterkveld

    I love waking up in the mornings to find positive articles such as this to read. The people of Tiny Buddha do such a great job – I thank you all! 

    That book would be a very helpful resource in my quest for meaning 

  • Josephine

    Our mental and emotional experience becomes our physical experience – the ancient wisdom of buddhism lends light and wisdom to inform the choices we have always had but not always known. Really looking forward to reading this book!

  • “Everybody wants to be happy. Happiness is an inside job.” – This book is perfect for the lessons that are coming up in my life now; changing the habits of my mental chatter in a purposeful way…and this reminds me of one of my favorite quotes “We do not see things as they are, we see them as we are.” ~ Anais Nin
    Thank-you for writting this book I look forward to reading it.
    Blessings 😀

  • Sherry

    I look forward to learning more….

  • Ann Hurd

    Very interesting interview!  I look forward to reading this book!  Thanks for sharing.

  • Susie Viera

    I am so interested in reading this book to help journey my way through life with more happiness and less anxiety. I am generally a very upbeat / grateful person but I definitely need and appreciate positive advice (like your blog Lori) to maintain the right attitude through all of the difficulties. Your interview with this author made it clear to me that I should look into more about Buddhism for myself.  I hope your recovery is just about over and that you’re feeling great  :~)  

  • Michelle P.

    Perfect timing, as always!  I would love a copy of this book.  I know just who to pass this on to after reading it myself.  Thanks for the opportunity!

  • Davidilynch

    The book sounds amazing. Like the Buddha’s teachings with the language and ideas being updated to the 21st century. I would love win a copy and dive in head first!

  • I was introduced to meditation two and a half years ago when I met my boyfriend, Michael, who had seen the powerful transformations firsthand himself. I remember being unsure if I was capable of truly being able to focus during a meditation, but I soon learned that my mind created that hurdle all on its own. I had moments of clarity in my very first mindful meditation where I was able to understand how my own mind has created so much of my suffering. To some that may seem like an insignificant piece of information, but to me it has been the strongest, most powerful realization. The insight gained from this knowledge puts the power of change directly in my own hands and that’s the most valuable lesson I’ve learned in life thus far.

    I post this quote as often as I can, as it is a constant reminder that change doesn’t necessarily occur overnight, in a week, or in a month. It was spoken by His Holiness, The 14th Dalai Lama; “There is no getting around these essential ingredients: determination, effort, and time. These are the real secrets to happiness.”

  • auntmeemaw

    Thx for the insight.  I would love to have a copy of the book to read and pass on.

  • I would really love a copy of this book.  Thank you!

  • jr cline

    I like the title and I think I may have suffered from Pervasive Suffering at times.  

  • Elainespellman

    This was very helpful. I am interested in getting a copy of the book. I have already been incorporating some of what I just read into my day and has proved to be helping me w/my struggles!

  • Tink

    I have actually been thinking about that a lot lately so if I don’t win a copy I’m going to go get it asap!! I think it would help me and a few people I know 🙂

  • I’d love to check this book out!  It sounds like it would be very useful to me.

  • Mellij

    Your posts always speak to me. Looking forward to reading this book.

  • I have always found Buddhist thought helpful with clearing my mind. Through my early combat martial arts training early in life and my later lower impact Tai Chi and meditation practices I’ve learned much about focus and proper centering of the mind and body. Unfortunately I don’t always remember to use them in the stressful moments, but that is part of the path isn’t it?

  • People are so unaware of the power that they hold in our daily lives!!  Thank you for your thoughts that, if truly recognized, will change each of us for a much greater good!

  • Kirstiecampbell

    really enjoyed reading this interview – really made me stop and consider what was being said rather than the usual rushing through that I tend to do normally! I would love to read this book as have been reading more and more about this recently and would like to learn more and pass it on . . . . .

  • Thanks for writing this. It would be wonderful to read this book.

  • Marlene

    This book is exactly what I need in my life. I’ve been facing so many fears and darkness and as beautiful a thing as positive thinking is, I need something that travels deeper. I feel like retraining the mind to reach it’s optimal self is that missing piece and I really believe what she said about not letting the mind control you but rather being a master of the mind. Thanks for this Lori! Great interview! 

  • Marina Rosal

    I have learned that we need to be aware of what the universe has for us,
    I have passed good and very bad moments, but anyway  you  can always
     go on…..I will be very glad if I have a copy of this wonderful book!
    meanwhile enjoy  life just the way it is!

  • Gill

    The title of the book is fascinating in and of itself, and leads me to be interested in reading a copy of the book. Thank you for offering the book as a giveaway to your blog readers. 

  • Marina

    Looks like a great book – I’d love to pass this on to my husband.

  • Megan Huber

    Thanks for the great book idea. I would love the free giveaway! 🙂 Thanks tinybuddha for continuing to be awesome!

  • Tessa Douglas

    Looks like a wonderful read. It really is so true that what we think and believe conceptualises itself in the physical world. Thanks for your wisdom!

  • Being self-aware – now that is the challenge and one at the ripe old age of 42 I continue to work on daily – that and finding the balance to be happy. Being truly happy is almost was difficult as savasana!

  • Jo Ann

    Very interesting reading. I would love a copy of the book!
    Jo Ann

  • AZ

    I recently read that the most “successful” (defined in typical Western “get ahead in business” terms) people were emotionally intelligent. They are highly in tune with their own thoughts and emotions as well as the thoughts and emotions of others. I will often have a concern or perspective on a situation but only realize it once someone else articulates it. It was so fleeting on almost another conscious level and I was distracted by my mind, that the thought did not get its due contemplation and acknowledgement. I also struggle with truly knowing how I feel sometimes. I absolutely believe that using meditation to truly hear our inner selves makes us more in tune with our own thoughts, emotions and allow us to then more effectively interact with others.

  • I would love to read this book for free!

  • Kslowikowski

    oh the mind…my favorite perspective changer!

  • Nicky

    As much as I try to help others around me to be happy and inspire them –  to spread all things that revolve around love so hoping they will pass this to others one problem I have realistically is that I am stuck in how to help myself in areas of the mind….where I need help at this moment ready for this knowledge…. the book “The Misleading Mind” would assist me to assist my family, children and those around me from this old  habit I need to grow out of – thanks for the chance to try and I would love it the write up is excellent.

  • I def could use this book!

  • lana

    Great! Thanks!

  • Dawnvmac

    This book resonates with me as I grapple with my nephews issues and want to help him. He is only 16 but beyond his years in other ways from the life that he was brought up in. My own mom became his guardian a year ago when his mother died of a brain tumor after years of living with it. There was three boys she left behind, one just graduated with honors (lives on his own in an apartment with assistance from my mom), the youngest lives with my brother and thriving in his family with 3 other children (they live 5 hours away though). This middle one that I want to help so badly but he is bent on only going towards the drugs and crime and blames it on how his life has turned out. On top of it, we just found out his estranged father has also just died while my nephew awaits court tomorrow and will most likely end up in jail. The list goes on of the support we have tried to give him but we feel we just now have to ride this out with him going to jail. Bottom line is I thought maybe this book  could help him in some way to get back his life… being a bit dramatic I guess but wanted to  share how I feel this book resonated with me and maybe it could assist him on his path.

  • Ph0ebegarcia Pg

    I WANT THIS BOOOK.

  • Phamala

    I grew up in a Buddhist family, but never really retained all the teachings until I got older. I’m slowing grasping the whole concept of this practice and it’s been a rewarding experience. I would definitely learn more from this book. Sounds like an interesting read. I’ve fallen more in love with Buddhist psychology than ever before. Definitely cannot wait to get one!

  • Jo Keogh

    How beautiful it is to know that we can control our thoughts – thankfully there are authors around that help us practise this 🙂

  • OwnedByManyCats

    I’ve always benefited greatly from Buddhist readings but it’s been a while.  This book looks like a perfect way to reboot myself.  Thanks!

  • Ivettgabriella

    Sounds like a very interesting book. I practice meditation regularly and it has helped me understand myself better.

  • Sebove

    I would love this book – sounds right up my alley!

  • I’m planning to do research in storytelling and mental health states for a PhD. It is important to me to bring in Buddhist themes because they have taught me a lot about my circular states of mind and allowed me finally to return as a mature student to study what I’m passionate about. For me it was very much about finding happiness within and how to create it without so that I can be a better person and share a deeper compassion with those around me.

  • Eleanor Taylor

    I’d really love to read this book! I started practising meditation recently and have been reading into Buddhism as well. It’s been really eye-opening so far, so I’d love to learn more about this. 🙂

  • Lois

    Tiny Buddha has given me many insights and understandings and this book sounds like another valuable resource.

  • Wow.This books sounds amazing. Our minds can be our best allies or worst enemy. Watch what you think because it will become your reality.

  • Vicky

    This sounds so much like what I am feeling I need right now. Did you write it for me?

  • Margaret

    Thank you for that informative and fascinating interview, Lori.  It definitely left me with a thirst to want to learn more from a different perspective.  I’ve always been intrigued and puzzled by the workings of the mind and have volumes of journals to show for it, in which I’ve tried to make sense of things.  Thank you for bringing the book to our attention.

  • Evlayne

    I think a lot of people dwell in the state of “Comfortable Uncomfortableness”, which is very limiting & frustrating.  They are uncomfortable in their situation, but not so much they do anything to make it better.  One small change is all that it takes to feel empowered to move forward to the life you can have. :)))

  • Another amazing book! I look forward to reading it 🙂

  • Lola

    Training the mind is a life-long process. Karuna’s book seems to be an excellent antidote to exploration for this journey!
    Thanks, I need to get this for my library and read it (practice it)!
    Lola

  • Nanci

    Thanks so much for a really interesting interview!  I would like to have this book as part of my permanent library. 

  • Susie

    This book sounds like exactly what I need to continue on my path of learning to live an authentic life!

  • sweetborigirl

    Only a few months a I learned that our minds can be “thinking” unnecessary thoughts that make us suffer. I also noticed how my mind have a million thoughts just running through my head from the moment I wake up till I go back to bed. I’ve been trying to research online ways to help calm my mind. I have to say that at this time of my life I find it very hard to calm my mind. Even when doing yoga I can see my mind wandering off quite often. Sometimes counting my breaths helps a little. Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated!

  • Wonderful interview, cannot wait to read the book. Thank you

  • Harmony

    We ARE more powerful than we know… or believe oftentimes. What a beautiful reminder!
    In gratitude, always.
    Harmony

  • Matthew Cassano

    Thank you for the helpful interiew. I will be sure to purchase the book.

  • Sarah A Williams

    I loved the ABCD way of focusing your mind.  And it is easy to remember.  Thanks

  • hernameismel

    I hope I’m not too late?! I would love this book. It seems like a great tool. <3

  • Namaste

  • Colleen

    This looks like a book that is needed and to be enjoyed by many. I myself would really like to have in my hands….thanks for writing it for us!

  • Elisa Black

    Thank you for this interview and giveaway opportunity for the book.  I am really struggling right now with my mindset and automatic negative thoughts/perceptions.  I look forward to my daily Tiny Buddha e-maills because they are like a pearl of wisdom in my day.  

  • Sue

    Glad to have stumbled upon this post by way of another site. Fascinating insights, and I would love to read this book.

  • Yes, everything begins with a thought.  Any information and practice that can help us to mindfully think, rather than think in a reactionary way, is a gift.  Thank you!  I look forward to reading, continue with a more effective practice :), and sharing.

  • Marlenestack

    Thanks.I signed up to get daily quotes not a push to buy book.

  • Das813

    Thank you so much for this insightful article.  Exactly what I needed to hear, I have always been kind and compassionate to just about everyone except the one person who needed it most myself.  I’ve been in a relationship with a man with no concern about the living dead for years and I allowed him to make myself a living dead person in my home with many interactions on the outside that have enriched and filled my life.  I am moving forward to a happier home life that mirrors my out of my home life.  Thanks again.

  • Zeexra

    Yes, trying to connect.  Very much believe in the value of it but everytime it ends up being at best another gloss over.  You invite them over, they nod but don’t come.  You are free all day but they are away. You attend event after event and say you hello’s and try to engage but there is just the nod but no one coming another time.

  • LAOKC

    Fascinating Title ~ I would love to dive in…!

  • Maggie M.

    This is probably an amazing read, I feel like this sometimes, I get distracted really easy and sometimes feel like I’m not in control of my own emotions or actions, yoga and meditation have definitely helped me to get more connected with “myself” 🙂

  • how interesting. I’m so happy there are psychotherapists that are embracing buddhism. 

  • Sarah

    I would love to have a copy of the book.. Happiness is what we all seek in life… 

  • bonniej

    I’d love to read this.

  • I am interested in the book.  This is a year of change for me.  New city (less stressful) , new job ( very less stressful) & new spiritual calmness.  Sometimes lives gives us “a big whoa” to renew our life.  This is my time.  

  • Sallynm9667

    I did really enjoy this post.  I am interested in reading more information about training the mind.  I am having an awful time taming that “Monkey Mind” of mine.  I would love to read this book and develop new paths to inner peace by taming my mind. Thank you for the post!!!

  • Betchawonder

    My mind definitely sabotages my positive thinking at times I really truly need to know how to over come that, and then possibly help others who have the same problem

  • Seems like an amazing book. I’ve been practicing Kundalini Yoga for some years now and meditating every day, it took some time in the beginning and a bit of patience and good will, but I’ve found it helps in many ways, spiritually, mentally, physically  and I find great improvement in my life due to meditation.

  • Dorothyrausa

    Would LOVE to have this book!!!

  • MizzBzvegan

    Thank you for this most wonderful post. The interview, and book which I plan to read soon, epitomize what attracted me to the wisdom of Tiny Buddha. Enjoyable and excellent.

  • Leemom

    I need this book.  Im so in need of retraining and recapturing myself.  I lost myself along the way over the last 10years and hitting a brick wall now.  Very pleased to see someone putting this out there for people such as myself.

  • This sounds like a book I really need to read.  I have been dealing with some health issues and trying to stay positive but I could always use some help.  ^_^!

  • AS

    Would love to read this book ♥

  • AS

    Would love to read this book ♥

  • OOur mind is a great source of our anguish and suffering. Stilling the mind is a wonderful gift to ourselves.

  • When I explain suffering in the buddhistic sense to young people I often explain it with feeling alienated. When we can, for instance, be one with the flow of change it doesn’t affect us with pain, but just with the joy of being.

    Thanks for enabling us to win the book.

    Have a nice day.

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  • Elif Acar

    This is the book which can help me nowadays. Thank you for the chance to win one…

  • The thing I like most about mindfulness is how training one’s own mind ends up being mirrored in more positive thinking in those all around us. I’m sure reading The Misleading Mind will not only influence me but my entire community. Thank you!

  • Wellhedge

    Would love to read! Reminds me of some of Mark Epstein’s work, as well as a book I’m reading right now called THE MYSTERY EXPERIENCE by Tim Freke.

    Off to retweet! Thx!

    @scotthess

  • ErinMae

    Everyone needs some Buddhist psychology in their lives.

  • Andy NU

    “Happiness is an inside job.” What a wonderful pithy phrasing. Mindfulness can be tough, and as social creatures it is easy to get wrapped up in externalities. Thank you for the reminder that it always starts within.

    I look forward to reading the book.

  • Jennifer

    “We go in and out of pain constantly.”

    This is such an obvious observation, but one I’d never really considered. Crazy to think about.

    Sounds like a really thought provoking book. But then again that’s my brain talking, and I can’t control what it thinks ;p

  • Suki996

    I love it Psychology + Buddhism 🙂 … The mind is a powerful thing! Learning to control and quiet your mind takes so much discipline….After becoming self-aware where do you go from there???

  • Linda

    Wow!  That interview really spoke to me.  I feel so out of control of my mind and my life and yet I know that the power to change is within me.  The challenge for me is figuring out how to access it.  Would love to read the entire book.

  • Beeneeboper

    The Misleading Mind, definitely sounds like a good read 🙂

  • Laura

    Thanks for the interview! I am intrigued!

  • I love this quote: “And, anyway, guilt is a useless, self-indulgent emotion anyway. Regret is good because with regret we learn.” It helps me get rid of guilt -why would I want to keep such a useless thought in?- and accept, almost appreciate, my regrets.
    Thank you. This must be a wonderful book.

  • Jeannette

    I couldn’t agree more that finding mental balance through training your mind is key to understanding ans embracing a life where you are in control of your happiness. Balance is crucial in all alreas of life, not Justin our minds but, starting there helps 🙂

  • Kismet12

    i inhale every word i read on tiny buddha,,ijust love it,,,

  • Kismet12

    this book is exatlly what i have been looking for,,i will surelly get a copy of it,,

  • paul duncan

    im 15, realy getting into buddhism, watched documentaries, reading books, i think this book would help me prevent problems, and if i do, how to solve them peacefully and right.

  • Mical

    awesome giveaway