“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift. That’s why we call it the present.” ~Alice Morse Earle
Did you make a mistake yesterday? Or did something bad happen to you a few weeks ago? Are you still dwelling on it, doing all you can to move on? Then this post is for you.
Why? Because I want you to know that you’re not alone.
Just like you, my past wasn’t all rainbows and unicorns. No one in this world has a past that is sparkling clean and error-free. We've all made mistakes. That's life. And that’s what makes us human.
About eight weeks ago I received an offer to study for my diploma in fitness in Melbourne. Having lived in Sydney for ten years, receiving the offer was a dream come true, but not because I got accepted for the course. It’s because I’ve always wanted to live in Melbourne ever since I was a teenager.
I accepted the offer thinking it was a great opportunity. I did not consult anyone; I merely did it for myself. I didn’t even have the slightest clue of what the course was about, where I was going to stay, and if it made sense financially.
This turned out to be one of the biggest mistakes of my life.
A day after I accepted the offer, I told my parents. They’ve never tried to talk me out of doing anything I wanted to, but this time Mum was a little hesitant.
She wondered why it was last minute and stressed how I hadn’t even arranged anything. I, on the other hand, justified my decisions by telling her and everyone else around me that it was a good opportunity, although I knew I probably couldn’t afford the move.
A week later, with a few hundred dollars in savings and slight credit card debt, I made the trip down to Melbourne with my selfless parents, who decided to help me find an apartment and settle in.
Things went well. I found a nice place and generally liked Melbourne, but something felt off. As hours turned to days, I felt more and more restless and knew something wasn’t right. My finances backfired on me and soon enough, everything went down.
After living a few days in denial, I allowed myself to let go of anger about what I’d done and replace it with self-compassion.
I then did something I should’ve done even before I decided to move—I spoke to my mother and told her I wasn’t in a great financial position and it wasn’t the right decision for me at that point in time.
A day after, I turned the apartment down, rejected the offer, and drove 540 miles home, with an added financial stress that was completely unnecessary.
You may have experienced something similar. Perhaps you were as silly as I was to do things without thinking. Or perhaps things were worse for you. We make mistakes. Everyone does, and I want you to know that it is okay.
The clock ticks forward, and soon enough the mistake that you made a second ago is history. It might take days, months, or years to learn and address the consequences of the mistake, but every day forward is an opportunity to make things right.
Worrying about it does not get you anywhere. Thinking about how to learn from the experience and make things better is a good start. But actually doing things to learn from the mistake is the fundamental part of really moving forward.
If you’re having a hard time letting go of yesterday and seizing today, remember:
Yesterday is History
Yesterday is history.
It's done. Record it into your history book and close it.
Yesterday could have been the best day of your life.
Your long-term partner proposed, or you landed a raise at work. Maybe you met someone who you feel is good for you. Remember it fondly but don't live in the past. Instead, let your happy memories push you forward when times get tough.
Yesterday could have been the worst day of your life.
You might’ve lost your savings or someone you held close to your heart. Although it might take some time to move on from any tragedies you faced yesterday, every day forward will get better.
Yesterday you made decisions; they may now seem good, they may seem bad.
But that was yesterday. If you stay positive, you can choose to make the best of your decision today.
Yesterday cannot be changed.
It is indeed too late to change the things you did in the past, but it's not too late to change the things you're planning to do today. Learn from your mistakes and act on what you’ve learned.
Tomorrow is a Mystery
Tomorrow is a mystery.
It hasn't happened yet, so don't sweat the small things. Be kind to yourself; it has the power to make you happy.
Tomorrow depends on the choices you make today.
Dream and start doing things to work toward that dream right now.
Tomorrow is not certain.
Life can make a 180-degree change in less than a day, and we cannot control them. We can make plans, but plans change. Anticipate and remember that.
Tomorrow is an opportunity.
If you did something great today, you have the opportunity tomorrow to create something better. If you did something that seems bad, you have the opportunity tomorrow to make it good. It’s your choice.
Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed.
So don’t waste today worrying about what will happen then. Life’s too short to dwell on things that are uncertain.
Today is a Gift
Today is a certain opportunity.
You can use it to decide where you want to go in life. If you don't love what you’re doing, use this opportunity to change something.
Today can be the first day of the rest of your life.
Create new habits, surprise yourself, and put a smile on your own face by doing things you love.
Today you can be better than you were yesterday.
And you know you can be better than you were yesterday.
Today you have the power to make great choices for your health, body and mind.
You are strong enough today to say no to that can of soda. You are strong enough today to remove yourself from negative people. You are strong enough, period.
Today is your only chance to experience this present moment.
It will never come again
Don’t beat yourself up for what has happened in the past. We’ve all made mistakes; failure is imperative to leading a successful life. Learn from yesterday by doing things today that have the power to make tomorrow great. I know you can.
What are you doing today to make full use of the gift given to you?
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