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Why I No Longer Need to Be the Best at Everything I Do

“I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live up to what light I have.
” ~Abraham Lincoln

As a child, my father always told me, “At everything you do, you have to be number one.” I tried. In some ways, I succeeded. I got high grades. Sometimes, the highest. Sometimes, I got awards.

I became an expert at figuring out other people’s expectations and meeting them. This got me approval, but it never made me happy. I wasn’t passionate about grades, awards, or approval. I didn’t feel butterflies in my stomach while doing math. I didn’t feel shivers down my spine while conjugating French verbs.

I loved to write, sing, dance. I was the girl who made up song lyrics and got them stuck in her head. I was the girl who stayed up after her parents went to bed to dance around, sing into my pillow, and crawl out onto the roof to dream about flying far, far away. I was that girl who couldn’t understand my thoughts until I wrote them down.

Despite my parents’ wishes for me to pursue an academic, intellectual route, I went to theatre school. There, I thought I would explore the deepest crevices of my desires. I was wrong.

I found the fine art education world to be shallow, and I found myself to be the same. My mind fixated on being the best. I never was. Disappointed with myself as much as the program, I dropped out. I slunk back to logic and facts. Skepticism. Analysis. Things I was good at. I got good grades. I got awards.

But being good at something is never a replacement for loving it. I was addicted to academic achievement because it earned me approval. I could never get enough. Again, I got hungry for art.

After I almost led myself into an early grave, I realized how important it was to make time for the things that made me feel alive. Yet on that journey, I’ve found myself constantly in the intermediate pile. Sometimes, beginner. Never, ever the best.

I run all the time, but I’m not fast. I’ve been doing yoga for ten years, but I still can’t do Crow Pose. I’ve been playing acoustic guitar on and off for years, and I still struggle with barre chords. I’ve been singing since I was a kid, and my performances are inconsistent. I’ve been writing since I could hold a pen and doing it for a living since 2012, but most people have never heard of me.

For years, my father’s voice haunted me, telling me to always be number one. I tried to reject his advice, refuse it, write it off as worthless egotism. But still, it gnawed at me.

One voice in my head said I should accept myself just the way I am. Another part couldn’t help but point out all the room for improvement. Along the way, I’ve realized that one voice doesn’t need to defeat the other. They just need to learn to get along.

Accepting my skill level at something is self-loving. Who would doubt that? But assuming that my skills can’t or won’t ever get better is self-sabotage. To work on improving myself is a kind of self-acceptance too. I accept my ability to learn—however slow and awkward that learning process might be.

Some people say that we should always try to be better than who we were yesterday. I can’t agree with that. Some days, I’m less patient, less energetic, and less kind than I was the day before. And that’s okay.

Because, for me, the goal isn’t to be number one compared to others. And it’s not even to be number one compared to past versions of myself. Instead, I’ve learned to do be the best at just one thing: being my own number one fan, supporter, friend, and mentor.

It’s not an easy job. It’s not easy to unconditionally love someone and motivate them to make changes. It’s not easy to hold someone when they’re breaking down one day and push them to do better the next day. It’s a paradox and a balancing act. It’s hard. But it’s incredibly worthwhile.

I spent all those years competing. Trying to be the best. Trying to be perfect. Trying to get recognized, acknowledged, noticed. Trying. Trying. Trying. Never succeeding.

But now I know that the reward for pursuing the passions that light me on fire isn’t the same as the reward for pursuing status, recognition, or achievement. There are no grades, no awards, no medals that can quantify the way my chest bursts open when I sing something real. There are no numbers to measure the lightness I feel in my body when I write words that make me sob and cry and heal. The reward is the experience.

We live in the age of self-esteem. The school system tells young kids: “You can be anything you want to be! You can do it all!” But the message woven into even the most encouraging words is that the measuring stick of success is achievement, recognition, award.

What if all that those kids want to be is happy? Or angry? Or tortured? Or whatever it is that they feel in that moment.

Self-esteem is nothing but a cheap replacement for self-love. I don’t need to esteem myself. I know I’m an awkward, beautiful, human mess. At most of the things I do, I’m somewhere between mediocre and interesting. At some things, I’m between awful and mediocre. But I love that I do them anyway.

I appreciate myself so much for doing the things I love, even though I’m not “number one” at them. I am grateful for how much time, care, and effort I put into trying to be a good friend to myself.

And that’s what I think life is really about: learning about myself. Trying to be a good friend to my reflection. A best friend, even.

So many of us miss out on the chance to experience self-intimacy because we forget what friendship is all about. It’s about secrets, inside jokes, and adventures. It’s about heartbreak, healing, and presence. We don’t love our friends for how skilled, accomplished, or perfect they are. We love them for being real, for walking beside us on the confusing, chaotic road of life.

And that’s what I seek to be for myself: an intimate friend. A fellow voyager. A curious companion. Maybe it doesn’t sound like much. But to me, it’s an accomplishment that I achieve and celebrate every single day.

**Editor’s Note: Vironika has generously offered to give away ten digital copies of her new book, The Art of Talking to Yourself (preview available here). A different kind of self-help book. Instead of giving you expert advice and magical solutions, this book will help you discover your own expertise and use it to hear, understand, and change your inner conversation. You can learn more and read reviews on Amazon here.

For a chance to win, leave a comment below. You don’t have to write anything specific. “Count me in” is sufficient! You can enter until midnight PST on Sunday, August 13th. 

UPDATE: The winners for this giveaway have been chosen. They are: Aegira, Simona Celarova, Ted Young, Kat Gál, Bernadine, Gregory Dees, Athreyi Raj, Jessica Rodriguez, Gayne Brenneman, and Marty Lesak Sloditski.

Photo by Allef Vinicius

About Vironika Tugaleva

Like every human being, Vironika Tugaleva is an ever-changing mystery. At the time of writing this, she was a life coach, digital nomad, and award-winning author of two books (The Love Mindset and The Art of Talking to Yourself). She spent her days writing, dancing, singing, running, doing yoga, going on adventures, and having long conversations. But that was then. Who knows what she’s doing now? Keep up at www.vironika.org.

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  • Sara

    Thank you Vironika. I read The Love Mindset a while ago and can see how your journey is progressing 🙂 I love your words and thank you for sharing. My own journey is very similar, removing the mind shackles (understanding that other people’s expectations do not belong to me) and loving all of me 🙂

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  • Laura Dix

    This is great- it really helped me think of things differently at a point in my life when I keep feeling like I need to be the best in everything. THankyou xx

  • Thank you so much, Sara! It’s been an amazing journey, and it’s all the better knowing that I’m not alone in it. Sending you love and gratitude! 🙂

  • Siddharth Karunakaran

    Nice article, we should all be our own best friend!

  • Ishmeet

    Great article! Much needed read for me at this point! Thanks for the opportunity!

  • Talya Edwards

    I call my inner voice “Edna”, as in Edna Mode from The Incredibles. Count me in please! Would love to be able to communicate better with Edna.

  • Emily Ulm

    Very generous of you, Vironika! Count me in! Something that I’ve been struggling with for years is to allow myself to embrace my interests and passions when I am so far below mediocre in them. Thank you so much for your article!

  • Ann Boyll

    Thank you so much for discussing this topic. I felt as though you were talking directly to me.

  • John

    Count me in! Love to read the book!

  • Cynthia Maldonado

    this was incredibly inspiring and hopeful. it made me think of the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. If we are open to learning about ourselves, we can arrive at our obstacles with compassion. Would love to read more of your work!

  • Angela

    Thank you Vironika,

    I very much enjoyed your post on Tiny Buddha. I believe, it is very easy to step into the shoes of another by following their leads. Our dreams become diminished in our eyes, as though they are not good enough and we are doing something wrong, so we chase the impossible or the dreams of others.

    I have learnt very slowly and intuitively that self-worth plays an important part in our pursuit of dreams. We are the only one playing a part in our own drama. We direct how it should be and what we should and can achieve. It’s a difficult concept, but a valuable learning curve. Many thanks. Angela x

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  • magoolina

    I’ve been going through a similar journey. Always aiming for the As, and when i got them, it was expected. Anything less was disappointing. How can anyone ever feel happy like that? When being the best is the only thing that suffices? I’m still working on it. I don’t judge myself for not being the best anymore. I’m still trying to figure out how to celebrate my wins though. Thank you for the article.

  • Melissa Beth Trejo

    Thank you for the post and count me in as well!

  • Michelle Ryan

    Thanks for the post I just love the idea of just being the person you need to be messy and real that’s life and I need to be taught how to be more that way for true happiness

  • Marty Lesak Sloditski

    Vironika,
    Your explanation of the two voices in your head – one of self-acceptance and one of self-improvement – is so relevant to me and something I constantly struggle with. It’s a fine line to get these two voices to get along and find a healthy balance. I would love to hear more from you and have the chance to read your book. Thanks for your generous offer!

  • Jann A. Stauffacher

    Thank you Vironika .. your words touched my heart. Would love to read more of them! So, please count me in.

    Self love is a very tall order for many of us… it’s a journey… I want to be better at it so I can be one who helps change not only myself but the world too… make it a better place for all.

  • Really great article, thank you for sharing 🙂

  • Carl Holzwarth

    Fantastic article!! I’m going to print it and secretly give a copy to my 10 yr old granddaughter, who is struggling to find her way. She spends so much energy trying to live up to her father’s expectations, and she never seems to be “good” enough. He always finds fault with everything she does. I feel honored that I’m her confidant, and that I always make the time to help her, listen to her, and praise her when she finishes a project or plays in a soccer game. She is the main reason I get out of bed in the morning, she lights up my life with the sound of her voice!!

  • Lisa Kelly

    I love what you wrote: “I accept my ability to learn—however slow and awkward that learning process might be.” Those are definitely words I can live by, taking each day as it comes. Life is learning about ourself; it’s kind of crazy how the person we know the best can remain such a mystery.

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    This is beautiful!! <3 Count me in for the digital copy give-away!! 🙂

  • thepolycrafter

    Lovely! I identify with a lot of this.

  • Juanita Y. Raul

    It’s my birthday week. I woke up with a song lyric in my head “learn to love again” which led me to a google search….and a guidance that landed me here. I sing with Pink later. 😉

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    Count me in. Great article and approach, btw. Hope to remember your tips!

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    Count me in 🙂
    I really loved this article, & especially the part about having inside jokes with yourself haha, I thought I was the only one!! 😛

  • Margaret Timmins

    Thank you! Every cell in our bodies deserve to hear the truth of how wonderful we all are and they will show us thanks by working happily along their journey . Love and light to every living being x

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    Great article! Count me in!

  • Patricia

    Count me in for the giveaway. I hate the word “perfection.”

  • Haley

    Thanks for posting this Vironika. I am a facilitator for SMART Recovery Family and Friends and I am planning to share this with our group. We are always working on Self Love 🙂

  • nextsteps

    Count me in for the give away draw. Very true article -it’s so great to think it’s not just me that grew up like that.

  • Shawna Salato

    Thank you for a fresh perspective on loving myself no matter what. Please count me in for the book giveaway. I’m intrigued. Many blessings. Shawna

  • Aaron V. Lopez

    Thank you Vironika for your article! I can relate to trying to always measure up to others and often not being the best at what I was attempting. Learning to let go of expectations and learning to love ourselves is so very important towards our journey to peace. Your article was honest and really helps to accept who each of us are in this beautiful mess called life.

  • Gayne Brenneman

    someone once said to me, when i complained about having to move all the time, and leaving all my friends behind, and that i was never going to have as good of friends as the ones i was leaving: “bloom where you are planted”. Saying it to myself, helps alot.

  • Suzi

    Thank you!
    I really appreciate you addressing “self-talk” explicitly!

    Please count me in :-0

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    Great article…Count me in the digital giveaway!

  • Antoinettexx

    I just wanted a nice random read before I went to bed and I chose yours because I liked the picture haha. This ended up really resonating with me. I teared up when you talked about how you tried and tried to be perfect, I was like that for so long and still often revert to my old ways of thinking and trying to be perfect, but I’m also trying in a different way now – I’m trying to be ok with whoever I am right now and as you said just accepting and being there for myself like a best friend would. Thank you for the lovely article 🙂 All the best of luck to you.

  • ZEN

    Thank you Vironika <3. great article. I found myself in it.

  • Gaelle1947

    Last night, out of desperation, I wrote in my journal: “Help! Is there anyone out there…I need a reassuring message….” and today I read your article with exactly the words I needed to hear! The comparison trap have led to major disillusions and an overwhelming sense of failure. Thank you for your words of wisdom. And yes, count me in on your digital give-away!

  • Julie

    Count me in. I’d love to read your book. Also thanks for sharing your article. It’s not always easy to be the best. We should strive to attain the goals we set for ourselves. There’s always someone who will outshine us somewhere. We have to be ok with Our best!

  • Lav

    Thank you for this article and for sharing your own journey into being your own best friend. That’s what it’s all about. Why be perfect and sacrifice all the good stuff that comes from.. just being yourself ?!

  • Susan Stewart

    Thank you for sharing. It’s just what I needed to read today. Would love to read your book, is it in the bookstores yet?

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  • Jessica Rodriguez

    I can relate to this article on so many levels. I too was an academic over-achiever. I have often said that I’m a jack of all trades and master of none. I’m a singer – but not the best out there, and therefore it’s never been good enough for me. I’m an artist, but not at anything that would get me any kind of recognition. I have struggled my whole 33 year years of life at being perfect. Constantly striving for perfection and that has led me to many disappointments. Barely now entering my 30s, I feel myself letting go of perfection. Please count me in for the drawing! I’d love to read more from Vironika.

  • Susan Vossberg

    I will read “I appreciate myself so much for doing the things I love, even though I’m not “number one” at them. I am grateful for how much time, care and effort I put into trying to be a good friend to myself” many times every day and try to adopt it as my mantra. Thanks for sharing!

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    would love love love the ability to talk to my self in a positive way…count me in!

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    Awesome read – count me in!

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    Count me in. Thanks.

  • Athreyi Raj

    Count me in.
    Absolutely loved this thought especially when you point out the reason why we love our friends…I got a new perspective …thank you Veronica.

  • Shirley Dawson

    I really needed to read this right now. Thank you Veronika. Please count me in too. 🙂

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    I’d like to learn more about this approach. Count me in!

  • Danica Clarke

    I would love to read your book. I think your advice in your article is exactly what I needed this morning and I loved your line “Self esteem is a cheap replacement for self love”. I know how hard it is to try to be perfect at everything, so I am going to try your advice to focus instead on being my own number one supporter and work on unconditionally loving myself while still motivating myself to make changes.
    Thank you for such an inspirational way to start my day.

  • JR

    You just described my life….Count me in!

  • Marylaine

    Wow! I feel what you say and what you are : I do so many things, but I don’t feel good enough at anything. Yet, I enjoy them all so much! What a beautiful mindset! Thank you so much! Please count me in!!:)

  • Brian Freund

    Great article and very wise. Would love to check out the book!

  • Prestodots

    What a great post. I recently re-discovered how much I love dancing and have started to take dance classes! As a woman in my mid-thirties I look around and see the majority of my class is younger and they pick up the choreography much faster. Reading this helped me to realize that I don’t have to be the best dancer in the room because I am in such a state of joy and happiness which is what matters more than learning the counts. Thanks for this!

  • Rachel Winters

    Count me in!

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    I can relate to this. Count me in too please 😉

  • Rene Lynn Castle

    I’ve recently come to the conclusion that I don’t need to base my life on seeking the approval of others. Unfortunately, I’m still my own worst critic! I am starting down the path of accepting and loving myself. Your advice to be my own best friend is an interesting way to look at it. Thank you for that! …and count me in! 🙂

  • rt

    Count me in please. Thank you.

  • Jaime Burskey

    A Thought provoking and novel idea to turn our current cultures teachings and thinking on edge… great read!!

  • Ju

    “constantly on the intermediate pile”
    I can relate to this line and it affects me so much. Thank you for this beautiful article.
    Please count me in for the book giveaway!

  • Jenn

    Sounds very familiar to me. Count me in!

  • Gregory Dees

    Yes! Simply yes!!

  • Alyssa Torres

    Love this Vironika. Like yourself, I too was raised in a very similar way. My father always told me and still tells me that I have to be the best, and even in situations where I nearly am (such as grades in college, awards, etc.) there is always something I didn’t do. I appreciate your insight as I seriously am lacking in the self-love department. Oh, and I’m a singer as well. =) Would love to read your book as I believe it may help me.

  • ccrgirl

    Great, count me in 🙂

  • Joanne Shepherd

    Count me in!

    Thank you for your insightful words. I am on a journey of learning to be my own friend, it has been and still is very much a learning process and I’m finding it intriguing, fun, a huge learning curve and a little scary at times, but I decided I am worth the time and effort.

    Thank you again, Jo

  • Tina

    LOVE and very much appreciate this one! Oh, and also — count me in 🙂

  • Brian Kretschmann

    If Australia is within your boundaries, I would love a copy of ‘The Art of Talking To Yourself’.
    Brian

  • Cassandra

    Real tools are what is needed in our world. It is easy to see the negative and discount the joy and ability within. In this world there is a lot of anger, hatred and greed, which are all based on fear. Your words of hope and healing can help to soften the hardness of fearful hearts and allow people to connect with the power of truth within. Thank you.

  • Glenda Landry

    Thank you for your article. So brave of you to share your experiences. Art and music are right up there with oxygen for me although I’m far from top quality. I would love to read your book!

  • Tatiana

    Awesome post!! Count me in for the copy of the book. Thanks.

  • Natalie Lee

    Great post 🙂 Count me in!

  • Bernardine

    Sometimes the right words come into your life at just the right time. “Instead, I’ve learned to do be the best at just one thing: being my own number one fan, supporter, friend, and mentor.” Thank you!

  • Ardy Makarim

    Thank you Vironika for shedding some light on things I’ve been dealing for the past 4 years. I have done so much but achieved so little that people now see as a someone who would always try something new but will never excel. I’m losing people’s trust in me and worse, myself do the same thing too. I tried so hard to be good at things that I love and it’s frustrating to see the light of passion slowly dim each day. I’m trying to accept the way it is, and I find reading all these stories from people who experience the same thing does help, although not much at this moment. Thank you and please help more people by keep on writing:)

  • Nidhi Pandya

    Count me in….Thanks

  • Lei Foster

    Hi Vironika
    When i was a schoolchild, by school years were littered with academic achievements and awards. My parents seemed to hold a lot of store by it, but i can still remember thinking to myself each time i went up to receive an academic achievement award at some ceremony or another, “This is not what i want; i don’t actually want this.” The sound of applause ringing in my ears actually embarrassed me. I hated it.

    As you say, Vironika, the only buzz i really get is from using my own creativity. I agree when you say that ‘assuming that my skills can’t or won’t ever get better is self-sabotage. To work on improving myself is a kind of self-acceptance too. I accept my ability to learn—however slow and awkward that learning process might be.’ I think it is true that allowing oneself the space and the opportunity to learn is self-loving; driving oneself to be the best is to default to the attitude that success defines one. I know that in academic matters i coast, because otherwise i find it stressful. But to create something which spins out of your own soul – how amazing and beautiful and spontaneous that is!

    I love the idea that one can be ‘somewhere between mediocre and interesting’, or even ‘between awful and mediocre’. I like that idea! Especially that of being ‘somewhere between mediocre and interesting’. So perhaps a more reasonable expectation of oneself (one that ensures happiness) is to aspire to being ‘interesting’ – rather than to be academically/intellectually correct or accurate. Thank you for that insight.

    However i don’t necessarily agree with you that ‘Self-esteem is nothing but a cheap replacement for self-love.’ I think they are different; i.e., that one is not a ‘cheap’ version of the other. I think that, from my own experience, self-esteem has led me to self-love. I also think that self-compassion encompasses them both. The thing is that self-esteem taught solely in terms of achievement, recognition and reward IS, as you say, destined to lead many people to unhappiness and dissatisfaction (and hence a ‘happiness gap’ that is promised to be filled by our culture’s emphasis/dependence on Narcissistic Capitalism). However, there are other ways of teaching self-esteem, ways which are not so heavily dependent upon political economy. Suppose self-esteem were instead taught in terms of one’s creativity, and one’s simple value in itself and beautiful weirdness?!

    So i have come to a spirituality of self-compassion through the mechanics of self-esteem and self-love.

  • Chimpanzeenicorn

    Very well said, Vironika. It’s so easy nowadays to seek the approval and praise of others when its masked as our own goals and intentions. While it might make us content for the briefest of moments, it soon fades to a longing. Knowing how to identify this is the first step, I think. Cheers!

  • Kat Gál

    I love this. I can completely relate to trying to measure up to your parents words. My parents raised me to be the best – in particularly in academia. If I sucked at art or gym, it was ok, but they expected me to excel in the academic word. 100% wasn’t enough. 1st place wasn’t enough. There was always better. 100% wasn’t praised, but 99% was looked down upon and 98% was unacceptable. When I said I wanted to be a writer (probably since age 4-5), I was told that first I would need to get a PhD in literature and writing and even then I would never be a writer – afterall if I can’t measure up to the classics, it doesn’t count. Though when I was 12, my parents resorted to emotional neglect and from expected me to thrive on extra credits, extracurricular, winning competitions, and achieving 110% flipped to the complete opposite and stopped giving a shit if I’ve done my homework, passed or failed, attended school or heck, even existed (hence, for a few years I completely stopped studying, and checked out at school), deep inside this expectation to measure up, be the best, excel and put academia in front of all kind of stayed with me. By the end of HS I came back from being “check out” and started studying and excelled at school again, this time without parental force 😉 It took me awhile throughout college to give up on the ‘trying to excel at everything’ attitude, and really embrace learning instead of ‘competing for the best’ and it took me way beyond my college years to finally embrace imperfection and start to love what is and who I am. (Since I have won your book through your EJ post, I am obviously not competing for a new one but I felt compelled to respond. I truly enjoy these shorter, authentic blog posts and articles of yours. I always find something to relate to…though I guess that’s also human nature, we look for the familiar…still, I look forward to these posts from you.)

  • Amy

    Thank you Vironika! Everything you wrote rang true with me. I would love to read your book.

  • Camilo Gómez

    In times of perfect beach-bodies displayed all over Instagram, ever increasing perfect-life stories on facebook and so on, stumbling upon such a beautiful words is really warm and serendipitous . Thanks for sharing.

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  • Ted Young

    Great insight. Even as I write these words I realize that I’m judging how well I write them and how deep or clever they are. This time I can laugh a little at myself and just let it go. Being my own friend. What a concept!

  • James

    Vironika, your words struck a Barre chord in my heart as I read them. Your life mirrored mine in my youth. But now, at 61, I am finally getting free. Thank you for your insights. Namaste’.

  • Simona Celarova

    Count me your sweet friend!

  • “Being my own number one supporter…”

    Thank you for this.

  • etoile

    Thank you for sharing this, Vironika. You write, “Self-esteem is nothing but a cheap replacement for self-love.” It’s so true. Please count me in!

  • Kim Hargrave

    Loved reading this piece. Can relate to embracing those heart-racing,spine-tingling moments especially when the rest of the world seems to be telling you “no, it’s not practical, it’s not perfect.”

  • Aegira

    I love how things we need to see are put in front of us at the right time. For me it is today and this is what I needed to read. For that I thank you =)

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    This was just what I needed

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    Count me in. In need inspiration and you certainly sound like you can help me.

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    Wonderful! Thank you

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    great post Vironika, count me in please!!!!

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    Count me in, Vironika. Thank you for this wonderful article.

  • Danielle Rothstein

    Great article, very inspiring! I’d love to win a free copy of the book!