Overcome the Fear of Success: 6 Ways to Start Thriving

“He is able who thinks he is able.” ~Buddha

How would you answer the question: “Are you successful in life?”

I know many people who would say that they are not successful; at least they have not reached success in the areas that feel important to them. I have been one of those people.

One day I asked myself “What keeps me from being successful?” It took me a while to come up with the answer but I realized that I was holding myself back.

Why? Well, maybe I was afraid that when I started something I would fail. Maybe I was afraid that I was not “one of those people” who get everything they go after. Maybe I felt that I didn’t deserve success in life.

The truth is that I didn’t believe that I was able. I was not able to be successful, able to be happy, or able to fully enjoy my life. Does this scenario sound familiar to you?

If you want to be truly successful in life (and who doesn’t?) then first of all you have to learn to believe in yourself. If you do not think that you can be successful, then who will?

Life success does not mean that you will not fail but it means that your mistakes will teach you something and show you a better way to get what you want.

These are the tips that have helped me get over the fear of being successful and finally believe in myself:

1. Be positive.

Negative thoughts are like MiracleGrow for fear and self-doubt. Stay away from negative people and you will decrease the amount of negativity in your life at least by half.

Practice daily gratitude, write down all the positive events in your life, practice mindfulness and you will notice how your negative attitude will start melting away.

2. Continually remind yourself that you are part of something larger than you.

Fear often has to do with worrying about uncertainty, feeling out of control, and wondering what your life’s purpose is. When you realize you are part of a bigger picture, even if you don’t fully understand what that is, it’s easier to ascertain that you both deserve and need to be successful and happy.

You do the right things, you help people around you, you make being  a good person a priority, and you know that this isn’t just about you—it’s also about the bigger picture that you’re part of. These thoughts always give me the courage to try something new and believe that my life is successful because of the doing, not the outcome.

3. Take time to find your authenticity.

Do you have a lot on you? I’m sure you do, and I know that you are doing your best at doing what you have to do. But do you know who you are? Do you know what makes you happy? Do you know your passions?

Do you take time to reflect on your life and figure out your purpose in this world? Unfortunately, most of us get so caught up in responsibilities and goals that we forget to enjoy our lives.

No matter how busy you are, you must make time for yourself. It can be just 10 minutes a day, but this time must belong to you. If you give yourself the luxury of free time then you will notice that the rest of your responsibilities will get easier.

You will be a better parent. You will be able to come up with creative ideas at work (and finally get that promotion.) You will be able to take better care of your health. You will reduce your stress and experience the joy of living.

4. Create your success library.

Sometimes when we lose trust in ourselves we just need a little bit of inspiration to push us in the right direction. There are plenty of ways to find inspiration, but we forget about them when we need them the most.

Create a library of quotes, save articles and success stories that have inspired you, create a library of inspiring movies and videos, or create an album of your fun and happy memories. Turn to this library whenever you have self doubts.

5. Learn.

People are always scared of what they don’t know. My first job was in a web development company. I was scared to death during my first day at work because I didn’t know anything about web and blogs and the words CSS and PHP seemed like medical terms for lethal diseases. I was forced to learn about everything and now I feel absolutely at ease online.

If you have a fear of something you just have to educate yourself about it. It is like walking into a dark room. At first you feel scared and don’t know what to expect but once you turn the light on, everything gets clear and simple.

6. Live in balance.

No matter how important success might seem to you, it is still important to follow it with balance; otherwise your journey towards success will turn into an obsession that will ruin everything that you truly love in life.

Success is not a destination. It’s a journey, and it’s important that we take each step feeling grounded and balanced. Spend time with your loved ones, enjoy your hobby or follow your passion, take care of your health and grow spiritually. This is the meaning of true success, the one that you can achieve only in balance.

I think that you are able to be successful. It is your right and purpose in life to be successful in whatever you are doing. If you believe in that then nothing will ever stop you from living a balanced and joyous life.

Photo by Bohari Adventures

About Anastasiya Goers

Anastasiya is the founder of Balance In Me – the Life Balance Portal where she helps people find their personal life balance with practical tips, genuine support and everyday inspiration.  Click here to read 100 Ways to Make Your Life More Balanced Today.

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  • Roberts Eric503

    I love how I always seem to stumble upon the perfect post when I need it most. Thank you, thank you for the great post loved every word of it!

  • Kisane

    The perfect post at the perfect time! thank you! xx

  • Dineshkumarjain

    Thanks for the post. It was all I needed today 🙂

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  • j a m

    This is exactly what i need.. Thank you so much!

  • Ericka

    Excellent article! It’s perfect for where I am right now!

  • Srinivas

    Good one ! A perfect start to nice day !

  • SuJ

    Great post! Thank you. I love the use of daily affirmations and spreading positivity.

  • Simple yet amazing insight Anastasiya so easily forgotten or ignored in this fast paced humans racing world. Your advice slows it all down to capture a truer sense of the self beyond all the humdrum noise and false fronted nature of 21st Century life. And that’s it..switch off everything unreal and switch on to who and what’s inside you – real untapped brilliance. Unfold your own gold! Blessings for a bright post in a hazy crazy world.

  • Simple yet amazing insight Anastasiya so easily forgotten or ignored in this fast paced humans racing world. Your advice slows it all down to capture a truer sense of the self beyond all the humdrum noise and false fronted nature of 21st Century life. And that’s it..switch off everything unreal and switch on to who and what’s inside you – real untapped brilliance. Unfold your own gold! Blessings for a bright post in a hazy crazy world.

  • Booya563

    I dont even know where to start when I just got married 6 months ago and now divorce, I lost my job and now I have a gambling debt that I could end up in prison looking for the positive day.

  • Claremosullivan

    Thank you. So many measures of success we beat ourselves up over! When all we need is just to be…

  • mara

    made me write what i’m thankful for today on a postit note :)))), will try to practice it everyday

  • mara

    made me write what i’m thankful for today on a postit note :)))), will try to practice it everyday

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  • I’ve been learning photography and building a “business” over the years but I’m always worried my insecurities will override everything. I’m so afraid sometimes it’s paralyzing. I need to find ways to push past this but there are moments when it’s almost too much.

  • In my life, fear of success had been just as strong as the fear of failure. For me, I tend to start but never finish many projects. It feels so great to start but so much anxiety over finishing. Maybe it’s wanting to look successful without having to put my neck on the line of possibly failing.

    “If I finish, maybe it won’t be right.” The perfectionism can get the best of me sometimes.

    When that happens, I focus on what’s important, why started in the first place. When I’m in that feeling place, I’m am in an emotional state of finishing what I started and feel that what I have and who I am is good enough.
    That even if I fail, it will be ok.

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  • randomperson

    If you live in the US you can declare bankruptcy over a gambling debt. There is no debter’s prison in the US by the way.

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  • Cristy

    I have found that sitting in the fear, asking why it is there and then letting it go with saying “I no longer need you/This” releases the block so you can move forward.  Acknowledgement ans awareness are key in moving past it.

    Thank you for your clear concise wording.  With Grace & Ease, Cristy Nix, The

  • Norah

    okay im gonna make a list about my goals and i think i just need to know who really i am

  • Cordova, r

    thank you thank you   anastasiya. i  love it .  whats that?  u  say the best is yet tocome.?  great

  • The fear of success is something which will sabotage many peoples careers. I think we all have it to some degree but I believe that if we can change the way we think about it by accessing our subconscious through the use of tools like hypnotherapy affirmations & eventually these poaitive affirmations will sink in and have a positive effect on the way we think about success in general.

  • Just Me

    Thank you. I think I will take some time today to write down a list of quotes, movies, music, etc. that inspires me. I don’t feel that I have the support I need around me right now so it’s hard to keep my head up. I think this idea of yours will be the most helpful to me. I just need to remember to read over the lists of inspirations every day and keep happy positive thoughts and actively correct the negative ones.

  • John Allen

    I have always gotten close to or had my hand on the brass ring only to do or say something to cause me to go backwards again. Falling back into the old trap of I’m not good enough or I guess that wasn’t for me.

    Thank you for your great article I will attempt and succeed at following your great advice.

    To Your Continued Success
    John Allen

  • Simple yet needed advice. Thank you, Anastasiya.

  • daisy

    number 5 have helped me, I’m now in the same situation as you were in your job.. My fear of not being good or “perfect” enough stops me from learning.. But when I look at my grades, I know I can do it… It’s anyway very helpful to read a real experience from somebody who succeeded.. I’m gonna start working 🙂

  • wildreign

    i know that I am very talented, but I guess be a perfectionist coupled with the feeling that my talents won’t be enough makes me put things off. Thank for this article— I just need to do it and if I need perfect something I will do it as I go!

  • Ejaz Karim

    Thank you so much for this article. I was feelings fear of success and your article really made me think. Yes I have to find passion and love myself first and then rest of things will happen automatically. 🙂

  • mrsH

    Thank you! I didn’t understand this at first. I realised some time ago that I was the one holding myself back and, regardless of anything else I’ve done, this was still happening, hence my looking for an article like this one. But, it didn’t make sense to me at first. The first five steps are things I am already doing, which have helped me to move forward from the place I was in (housebound and suffering from severe, medicated, depression, panic attacks and socialphobia) to being a medication-free art student with lots of friends, who regularly dines out and goes to the theatre. But, I was still scared of achieving full success and reaching my biggest goals. Step six is the one that really helps me now, it is like an epiphany for me, success is not a destination, it’s a journey….. that makes sense, I get it now, thank you for sharing this, I will come back and add another comment after I have achieved my first “big goal”.

  • I really love the idea of a success library. I keep just such a “thing” but I’ve never given name to it. Doing so somehow galvanizes it as a specific tool and resource. The more artists defend against the specters of doubt and fear, the more great art will enter the world. Thank you!

  • Excellent article. Still valid all these years later. So many people (myself included) hold themselves back from success for so many reasons. This occurs consciously and unconsciously. Many people I have come across do not believe that they really deserve success. Yet we all deserve to achieve whatever we want to achieve. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  • Hi

    If you really want something, and really believe that you will achieve it, the universe will conspire to give it to you. The problem is that when most people want something badly they become afraid that they’ll never get it. Because within the radar of their limited experience it seems impossible that they will achieve it. But you underestimate the power of the universe. There are things outside of your limited radar that you cannot control. You don’t know what miracles can happen. This is why you turn a blind eye when the universe presents you an opportunity. “When your attitude is right, the facts don’t count… because what you think are facts aren’t facts anyway, they’re opinions”.

  • Dulce Darling

    Thank you needed this!

  • Ebony

    For me, my biggest challenge is not pursuing any of my goals. I don’t even try. It’s like I give up before starting.

  • Michy

    We never know how strong we are until being strong is the only thing we have. And as they say, everything will be OK in the end, and if it is not OK it is not the end. It is ok to make mistakes because then you know you finally “did” something. I think it is far more better than not to do anything… I am in the one of the most difficult level of “adulthood” – I am finishing my exchange studies and graduating in my home university. I finished my thesis abroad with not waiting for my supervisor s response – that was thereason for my exchange studies. There were reasons made me act this “independently”… However, was it not the act of my young temerity? Maybe it was the sign of “blindness” to gain more then it is possible to gain my age… I overlapped the simplicity of youth. I started to want more than “A”. However, I never had intention as this. I always prefered to stay in the corner and just slightly pass. This “mistake” makes me see there are other things. The ones I forgot while running for my success. There are especially people who missed me. I want to change and I believe it is not too late for me to change…

  • cgitosh

    Resonates with me a lot

  • Stephanie Leach

    Yes, the Universe will conspire to make it happen – give it to you.. however there must be SOME sort of inspired action on our part. Ask, Believe (Action) & Receive… just sitting waiting and waiting won’t make it happen …

  • I agree with creating a success library. What we feed our minds is what we often will think about ourselves. I only feed my mind health, success purposeful content. I do not allow any negativity into my mind.

  • Nathaniel Botha

    As soon as I succeed even if its just a little then I start getting anxious, I fear that I can’t manage success or that I’m unworthy of it – I actually think its a feeling of unworthiness mostly. I just got off the phone with a prospect and seemed to close them but now I’m apprehensive about continuing with another one – that apprehension and the resulting procrastination leads me to failure whereas if I just continued I could be so successful – I’ve gotten so use to almost or nearly making it or not making it all that it has become my success level. I hate it, I hate myself because of it – why was I made this way, why do I fear, awake o my heart no longer droop in despondency and self-doubt; rage! and Rage! against the dying of my will, against fear, against procrastination. Courage dear heart, courage!