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The 4 Happiness Archetypes and How to Get Out of the Rat Race

“When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It’s to enjoy each step along the way.” ~Wayne Dyer

One day, I was complaining about not having enough days off to escape work and treat myself to a vacation. I was feeling stressed and tired. I can recall my stepfather looking into my eyes with a deep sense of peace and compassion.

“I hear you,” he said. “I know you work hard. Sometimes, I imagine myself jumping out of bed and going for a walk, whenever I want to.”

His words came like thunder. It was a wake-up call to remind me how blessed I was and how much I was taking it for granted, as if nothing was ever enough. And there he was, my stepfather, trapped in a wheelchair by a severe form of multiple sclerosis, dreaming of a nice walk in nature. That day, he was my teacher.

For too many years, I spent a lot of my precious time complaining. I thought I never had enough time, money, or love.

Many of us get stuck in the habit of projecting our happiness into an imaginary future instead of living in the only reality that is, the present moment. We often think thoughts like:

The day I get married, I will be happy.

The day I can afford a bigger house, I will be happy.

The day I make x amount of money, I will be happy.

Looking back on my life, I came to realize that I didn’t know how to be happy. I continuously kept myself busy, always running somewhere so I could achieve more or better. Turning my happiness into a project and waiting for “the big things” to happen so I could finally feel joyful and satisfied.

I didn’t know it at the time, but I was a rat racer. Here’s what I mean by that:

In his book Happier, Tal Ben-Shahar (a Harvard professor, leading researcher, and author) defines four different happiness archetypes:

Nihilism

Nihilists have lost their joy in life, both present and future. They find no pleasure in their work or private life and expect no future benefits or rewards. They’ve given up and resigned to their fate.

Hedonism

Hedonists live for the moment and give little or no thought to future consequences and plans. Because they feel unchallenged by future goals or a purpose, they are often unfulfilled.

Rat Racing

The rat race archetype often sacrifices current pleasures and benefits in anticipation of some future rewards. This is likely the most familiar archetype to many of us (continuously setting new goals, never pleased, always busy).

It doesn’t mean that setting clear goals for the future is a bad practice. We all need a purpose and a clear vision. If we don’t even know what we want, how could we ever get that? The problem occurs when we attach our happiness to future outcomes without being able to see and appreciate what’s already good in our lives.

Rat racing is all about hunting for happiness, chasing an illusion, and never feeling content. The more we achieve, the more we want: another house, another car, another job, or more money.

Happiness 

True happiness comes from keeping a healthy balance between the present and the future. It’s when we are capable of enjoying both the journey and the destination, focusing on today’s gifts, as well as our dreams, goals, and desires.

“Happiness is not about making it to the peak of the mountain nor is it about climbing aimlessly around the mountain; happiness is the experience of climbing toward the peak.” ~Tal Ben-Shahar

The day I shifted my perception from stressed to blessed, everything changed. Here’s what I have learned and what worked well for me:

1. Happiness is a verb. 

Research has shown that happiness is 50 percent connected to our genes, only 10 percent attributed to life circumstances, and 40 perfect correlated with our thoughts and behaviors. That’s why happiness is not a noun; it’s a verb. For those of us who are mentally healthy, it’s an attitude, a continuous inside job.

Many people are afraid to be happy, since they could lose it one day, and they let their worries ruin their joy.

I cultivate optimism and trust the flow of life. I shift my focus from what could go wrong to what could go right. Whatever I fear, it hasn’t happened yet. I embrace my future with the genuine curiosity of a child, and I choose to believe that something wonderful is waiting around the corner—that we live in a supportive Universe where everything unfolds perfectly, and things happen for my highest good.

If I see life with negativity, fearing that bad things could happen to me, my actions will likely attract the very things I’m trying to avoid. I’ve stopped letting my mind play with me and stress me with unnecessary fears, worries, and concerns about things that haven’t happen yet.

I nourish my mind with healthy thoughts, like this one:

“Life loves me. All is well in my world, and I am safe.” ~Louise Hay

2. I sweeten my life, every day.

I have seen that many beautiful moments and small pleasures come at a low cost or even for free.

If I don’t have time for my hobbies, I make it. I read a good book or watch a fun movie that brings me the joy and laughter.

I gather with non-judgmental people who love me just the way I am. The mere act of having a good conversation over a cup of coffee charges me with a high dose of positive energy.

I go for nice walks in the park and connect with nature.

I play with my dog.

I sometimes light a candle or some nice smelling incense. (Jasmine is my favorite.) It stimulates my creativity and makes me feel good.

I’ve stopped waiting for the VIP moments of the year (like my birthday) to embellish my house with fresh flowers.

I have created the habit of drinking water from a wine glass with a slice of lemon in it.

I enjoy my morning coffee from a beautiful cup with a red heart on it, to remind myself that love is all around.

I use the beautiful bed sheets and the nice towels instead of saving them for the guests, just because I’m worth it.

“Yesterday is history; tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift; that’s why we call it present.” ~Unknown

3. I grow dreams, not regrets.

The need for stability and security (including on a financial level) is a basic human need. No wonder we start rat racing if we don’t have enough money! But what is “enough”? Isn’t that a subjective qualifier, based on our individual needs and expectations?

I have met many wealthy people who were unhappy because their ego always wanted to get more or better. It’s like when we think, “Okay, I’ve got this house now, but when I can move my family into a bigger one, I will finally be happy.”

Another reason we project happiness into the future pertains to limiting (often culturally inherited) beliefs around money that keep us stuck in a survival mode.

Take my example: Years ago, I used to work in China. I lived in a beautiful compound in downtown Shanghai, all paid for by my company, and I was single, with no loans, debt, or financial commitments. It all looked wonderful, but deep inside, I was so unhappy!

I knew I always wanted to travel the world and meet people from different cultures. I had enough money to afford that, and still, I was so afraid of spending! Even today I am thankful to the good friend who insisted on me following her on a trip, because that’s how I finally managed to break that wall.

You see, I was raised in an Eastern-European middle-class family. As a child, I often saw my parents saving money for the “black days” of their pension years (the time when one would not earn a salary and could potentially “start starving.”) As a result, I followed the same behavior once I started to make my own money.

So here’s what I’ve learned: I won’t spend my precious younger years saving everything for my retirement. Saving money is a form of self-care, and something I currently do. However, I know I won’t die with my savings account, and I won’t look back on my life with regrets once I’m older. I invest in myself and in my learning, and I spend part of my money on experiences, making sure I gather more precious memories than material things.

“You will never regret what you do in life. You will only regret what you don’t do.” ~Wayne Dyer

4. I do what I love and love what I do. 

We spend the majority of our lives at work. So if we’re not happy with our jobs, we’re not happy with most of life—another reason some of us start rat racing and hoping for something different.

Too many people live their precious lives in survival mode, like robots. Frustrated or drained on Monday mornings and looking forward to the weekends so that they can feel alive. When we’re happy with our work, there’s nothing wrong with Monday mornings.

If you find yourself stuck in a job you don’t like, know that you always have a choice to step outside your comfort zone and work toward something new. It may not be easy to change careers, especially if you have limited education and people depending on you. But it’s possible to do something you believe in, something that brings you genuine joy and fulfillment.

The key is to work toward that something new while also cultivating joy in your daily life so you don’t fall into the trap of waiting for the future to be happy; and also, to remind yourself that no matter what happens, even if your circumstances are never ideal, you can still be happy.

“The most important two days in your life are the day you were born and the day you find out why.” ~Mark Twain

5. I stay away from perfection.

To me, being a rat racer felt exhausting. I didn’t know how to have fun and relax. I was too busy trying to be perfect and do everything perfectly. It was tiring, and it made me feel like I was never good enough or worthy of the best things life had to offer.

Even when I transitioned into the job of my dreams, I was still unhappy. I kept thinking:

“The day I get to make that much money a month, I will be happy.”

“The day I know everything about this job, I will be happy.”

You see, even people who love what they do can be rat racers, if they are struggling with the need for perfection.

Today, I aim for progress instead of perfection, and I enjoy each step of my professional journey, celebrating every new lesson and every kind of achievement, no matter how big or small.

“If you look for perfection, you’ll never feel content.” ~Lev Tolstoi

6. I mind my own journey. 

Another thing that keeps us trapped in rat racing is the behavior of comparing ourselves to others—the money we’re making, the status at work, the house we live in, and so on.

I now know everyone is on their own journey, and each time I dedicate moments of my life comparing, I find myself in someone else’s territory, not mine. It’s like trying to live in their story and life experience instead of my own.

I’ve come to understand that when I shift my focus and attention from other people to myself, I suddenly have more time and energy to create good things in my own life. So many people complain about not having enough time for themselves. If you want more time for yourself, mind your own business and see what happens.

“Comparing yourself to others is an act of violence against your authentic self.” ~ Iyanla Vanzant

7. I am grateful.

In the past, I rarely said thank you or counted my blessings. Today, I practice gratitude as a morning ritual. I focus on what I have, rather than on what’s missing.

I make sure I start every day being thankful for my health; for having a loving family, a wonderful life partner, and a great job I love; for the creativity flow that helps me write such posts and the opportunity to share my insights and experiences with the world; and for the air I breathe and the sun that caresses my face.

If the only prayer you ever say is Thank you, that will be enough.” ~Eckhart Tolle

I might not always get what I want, but I know I always get what I need. I see every day as a fresh start, a new opportunity for me to taste more of this juicy experience called living. Life is a precious gift and I intend to spend as much of it happy as possible.

And now, I would like to hear from you. What is your happiness archetype? What makes you truly happy?

About Sara Fabian

Sara Fabian is a women’s career and empowerment coach and inspirational speaker, on a mission to help professional women to discover their unique strengths, gifts and talents, boost their confidence, find their calling and live a meaningful life of purpose. For weekly inspiration, subscribe to her free newsletter at sarafabiancoaching.com or follow her on Facebook.

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  • ShaunTheCHB

    I’d say I’m a mix between nihilism and hedonism, but only in certain aspects. I do feel resigned to my fate of not achieving all I wanted to do in my life, but I am not satisfied with what my life actually is. Not because of lack of challenge, but more a lack of success with goals, I’m frustrated more or less. I would not say I live in the moment and am carefree. I find little joy in the present and dread the future when I ponder on it. So yeah, an odd mix of both those things.

  • Great post…full of wisdoms…and I like the quote from Louise Hay, about feeling safe. That has kinda been my nemesis throughout the years. I think mindfulness helps with my happiness levels, as well as stop comparing myself to other people, not that this has been easy. It is my opinion that once you stop comparing yourself, a good chunk of your suffering will stop.

    Thanks for sharing

  • James V

    Probably a bit of hedonism. I wouldn’t say I love my job, but I view it as a challenge that let’s my brain solve problems. In that respect I am content. I can enjoy being present, but don’t do anything for my future that will fulfill me. It’s like being an indoor dog; I’m safe and in my comfort zone but I’m missing out on what the outside world has to offer. That’s what I have to work on, trying to bring my dreams and goals to fruition.

  • Rich c

    Exactly what I needed this morning. What makes me happy is 1.connecting with nature 2. having vulnerable conversations with others, and spreading love 3. Self compassion. which is where I struggle the most, letting go of perfectionism has been tough, always been my own worst critic though others tell me I’m talented and a warm person, my ego does its best to deflect love and compliments from others.

  • James V

    I resonate with number 2, having vulnerable conversations with others, and spreading love. Having that human connection brings me out of my head and puts life into perspective.

  • mathildamoon15

    Good article. I have a problem I need to work through, however. Every time I read an article like this, I get irritated when I get to the part that says “Do what you love” and magically support your family doing it. My brain automatically says: “Easy for you to say, Author. You get paid to write articles about happiness!” LOL. 🙂 I get the whole Law of Attraction thing, I do. Perhaps I would benefit from re-examining what it is I’m attracting. Thanks for the energy lift and the insight!

  • Stephen Spodek

    Simply Awesome! So many amazing lessons in your blog, and all so relevant and meaningful. Thank you! Thank you!

  • I felt like this for a very long time. But you can do “what you love” doing without it being your means of money. In my opinion the advice to “find your purpose and the money will come” is bad advice. I hated my job for the longest time and spent so much effort trying to figure out what i could do that I loved. And by longest time I mean years. I couldn’t figure it out. Then I decided instead to change my mindset. Now I am happy at work because I don’t complain about everything, I work to my strengths and I look for the positives in it. I was led into hating my job by the people around me constantly complaining. It rubbed off onto me & I changed that.
    Now I focus on adding things I enjoy into my life WITHOUT the expectation that it might one day support me financially. I still look for other jobs daily but still haven’t seen anything that has drawn me in & that’s okay. Maybe one day I will be able to make money off something I love doing or maybe I won’t. But I don’t hate my job and my life is filled with things I enjoy doing. Therefore I am happy. Hope this helps.

  • LossExperiment

    “Happiness” is very much not a verb. You can argue that it’s a state of action rather than being, but to call it a verb is just poor expression.

  • Sara Fabian

    Thank you for sharing your insights, Rich. I think you’ve already made a big step by being aware of the things to work on (the need for perfection, self-criticism and self-compassion). I can only change what we accept to be true about ourselves. I agree, we can be our own best friends or worst enemies by the way we talk to ourselves. Getting mindful of our self-talk is one of the best forms of self-care. Blessings!

  • Sara Fabian

    Hello and thank you for your insights! I am convinced the Law of attraction works when the mind is clear. The heart knows the truth. Always. Meanwhile, our minds are keeping us busy with all kind of assumptions that doesn’t serve us well. Here’s one example: I do not get paid to write any articles on this particular blog or anywhere else. I do what I do because I truly love it and I believe in the power of my messages. They might not resonate with everyone (which is understandable), but for some, they do. In other words, this is my own way to make the world a better place. I am not writing to explain myself or judge in anyway, we’re only brainstorming from a place of love. Looking back on my life, I was a master of making assumptions. What worked for me beautifully was to ask myself this question: What do I know about this though? Is that true? The moment I realized I couldn’t know if that was true or false, I set myself free. Blessings!

  • Sara Fabian

    Hi, Melanie! You’re bringing a good point for discussion in here, thank you for that. Every single situation involves a matter of self-perception. Sometimes, looking at the full part of the glass instead of focusing on what’s empty can shift us to a much better place. I have met many people (privately and also in my coaching practice) who were looking for a job change because of outside factors (“I don’t like my new boss” or “There’s too much routine in my job and I’m getting bored’). After a short talk, they came to realize there where so many solutions they could find at their current job to be happy: Change the department, ask for a development talk to discuss new assignments, Talk openly with their boss about the things they wanted to change etc.). What I mean in this post is different: many people do not do what they were truly born to do in the world because of these 2 main reasons: 1. They don’t know what that is (as you mention, you couldn’t figure out what that was for years) or 2. They are holding the limiting belief that people can’t make good money from doing what they love. I’ve heard that a lot in my practice, I thought that was true but not for all. Labelling situations and generalizing experiences, as if they were valid for all, it’s a trap. I am here to say that it IS possible to make a decent living while doing what we love, once we know what that is. If we are not clear on what we want, how could we ever get that? Take care!

  • Sara Fabian

    Hello and thank you for your comment. As everything in life, it is a matter of personal interpretation and self-perception. None of us holds the absolute truth. Blessings!

  • Sara Fabian

    Thank you, Stephen. I’m glad it resonates. Have a nice weekend!

  • Sara Fabian

    Thank you for your insights, James. Knowing where there’s some work for you to do is already a big step. Having clarity is power. Have a nice weekend!

  • Sara Fabian

    Hi Julian, thank you for your comment. I agree. We would have so much more time for ourselves if we could only focus on our own journey. Mind our own business more:) and stop using others as an instrument for self-validation. Blessings!

  • Sara Fabian

    Hi Shaun, thank you for sharing your insights. In a world that values human worth through how well we do things in life, it has become difficult not to attach our happiness to fulfilling our goals and desires. I’ve been there. I used to be extremely disappointed when I wasn’t successful in everything I wanted to achieve. And, guess what, sometimes not getting what I wanted was even better because life had a much better plan for me. A plan I wasn’t aware of at the time. I’ve learned to trust more in the flow of life. Believe that I live in an intelligent Universe that supports me. “Sometimes not getting what we want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” (Dalai Lama) Blessings!

  • Barry

    Hi Sara,

    Thanks for writing another great article! (I loved “10 Things I’ve Let Go and How This Has Set Me Free”).

    I’d say I used to be a Rat Racer, then Nihilism, and I think I’ve made it to the Happiness club, although that doesn’t mean I’m always “happy”.

    What makes me truly happy?

    1) Believing that…
    A) “Everything will be ok in the end; if it’s not ok then it’s not the end.”
    B) “If you realize that you have enough, you are truly rich.”
    C) “Whatever you are doing right now, do it whole-heartedly.”

    2) Letting go of…
    A) My need to control the world around me, because I’m not in control of it.
    B) My need to control “me”, and instead just experience “me”.
    (which actually leads to greater self-control)

    Much love xx

  • Sara Fabian

    Beautiful insights, Barry. I love the “experiencing me” instead of controlling me. Thank you for this. Blessings!

  • Black Bart

    This is beautiful Sara. Bravo. I agree with every last point you make and have seen the effects of rat-racing in my own life. I’m from an upper-middle class family so I was programed to achieve from birth. While that programming got me some wonderful things, when I hit 30, I was empty inside. I had achieved all the milestones that we are “supposed to” achieve. I lived in an existential crisis from age 30 to 35, scrambling to be a “big time businessman”. Now I’m 40. I dont scramble anymore. I amble. I left the rat race, opened a small private practice, got married 5 years ago, and live a quiet and peaceful life in a small town with a beautiful brilliant woman. The Rolling Stones were right… sometimes you just might find that you get what you need.

  • Sarah

    I think I have read this before … and I am so very happy to read it again! What a great reminder … to be here now, in joy and happiness! Thank you!

  • Sara Fabian

    Thank you, Sarah. Blessings!

  • Sara Fabian

    Thank you for sharing your experience! I can hear you. Your story makes me think of the difference between success and fulfillment. I’ve got to meet many people who reached success (as defined by most society standards: good money, professional status etc) and felt very unhappy inside. What they were missing was that deep sense of fulfillment, inner peace and stop running. Glad to hear that you’ve found that!

  • Black Bart

    That fulfillment is worth eleven million trillion billion dollars. It’s a lesson I’ll never forget and no matter what happens from here on out, it’s a lesson that no cynic, complainer, politician, cheat, liar or fool can ever take from me. I’m the luckiest man on Earth. Peace.

  • Joy

    I love this article, and I love what you’ve said here, Melanie! SO much can change when we change our thoughts! 🙂

  • Oh it’s certainly possible. I was replying to the persons comment because it resonated with me. I loved this article. I guess I just disagree that people are “called” to do something in particular. Its my belief that we are just born. The meaning we create in our lives is created by us and only us. Therefor we can find happiness and meaning in many many things and cultivate a love for anything we want too. I think people stress a lot about finding there one purpose and worrying they will choose wrong. For me looking at things from the persective that my purpose is created by me and it’s not some magical calling i need to find is what has helped me stress less.
    That doesn’t mean i think its impossible to make a living from something you love. I just think go and do the things you love without that intention. Don’t stress about it if its not happening for you right now.

  • Sara Fabian

    I can hear you, Melanie. I think our ultimate purpose in the world is to be happy:) have a good week!

  • Sara Fabian

    Hi, Mathilda. Thank you for your comment. I am not getting paid to write articles:) The reason I am doing it because I just love it. It is my way to send a message and make it a better place. Blessings!

  • Glynis Knight

    my dog makes me happy

  • Sara Fabian

    Beautiful! I have a dog, as well:)

  • Dave B.

    Thanks for the article. I really needed it this morning. I was a Rat Racer for the longest time until I met my soul mate. Now that the fourth anniversary of my wife’s death is approaching (April 6th) I find that I have moved into a Nihilist mind set. However, you reminded me that happiness is often a metacognitive process. We often go on autopilot just to get from day to the next out of habit or necessity. It is when we become mindful and stop for a brief moment to realize we are alive and doing things we have chosen, that happiness is more apparent. When I think, “Am I happy?”, I realize that despite the sadness and, yes, depression at times, that I am happy in most aspects of my life and am very lucky to have wonderful memories of my wife and know that she is still with me every time I see her in the faces of my children! I try to live in the moment for I know that the next one is not promised to us. So, happiness for me is (1) walking in nature, (2) listening to my favorite music, and (3) above all, seeing and talking to my children – connecting to all the people I love and the things I hold dear.

  • Aanchal

    Sara, this is just so beautiful. Every word of this article resonates with me. I practice Buddhism and in a recent guidance my leader told me that the right side of our brain loves the word “Thank you” and whether you mean it or not is inconsequential. Most of us don’t even dare to speak it out, let alone attach any feeling to it. Gratitude is the right attitude and its indeed imperative for our well being. Given the transience of our being, it is in fact critical that we feed our soul with happy and positive thoughts, thanking it every moment and in the now. Love and light to you 🙂

  • aanchal

    Sara, this is just so beautiful. Every word of this article resonates with me. I practice Buddhism and in a recent guidance my leader told me that the right side of our brain loves the word “Thank you” and whether you mean it or not is inconsequential. Most of us don’t even dare to speak it out, let alone attach any feeling to it. Gratitude is the right attitude and its indeed imperative for our well being. Given the transience of our being, it is in fact critical that we feed our soul with happy and positive thoughts, thanking it every moment and in the now.

    Also, the one thing that makes me truly happy is music…..I am a singer and listening to artists across the world…their voices….their emotions…..just unravels a tiny part of me each time…..its therapeutic…..sometimes eerily….akin to a long lost shred of hope…..just brightens and sparkles my moment….

    Love and light to you 🙂

  • Beautiful post Sara.

    I love the breakdown of archetypes and certainly recognise them around me. Deferred living and happiness never really works.

  • Millen Livis

    Beautiful article, Sara, thank you! You hit the nerve! 🙂 I am still a bit of a rat racer but with awareness of it… I experienced and achieved a lot in my life and feel grateful and blessed for my journey to now, yet I am still driven by some unseen inner drive/power/force of nature that wants me to live my FULL potential. Does it mean I am still in the rat racers archetype? 🙂

  • Sara Fabian

    Thank you, Carl. I agree. Blessings!

  • Sara Fabian

    Thank you for sharing your insights, Millen. I am in the same situation as you right now. I have achieved a lot and still want to do more. I think there’s nothing wrong with it and the future truly belongs to those who can see it coming. Having a vision is what differentiates us from robots. However, I have seen that always looking for my Full potential has been working against me for a long time. Always trying to reach my Best Self felt tiring and frustrating. As if I was not enough here and now. So I stopped chasing for the best version of myself and decided to perceive myself as the best version of Me in this very moment. I know making mistakes is human and failure is a much needed opportunity for growth. I know I might not always get where I want and that is fine. No rush. Blessings!

  • Sara Fabian

    Thank you for your comment, I’m glad it resonates. I am a singer as well:) Music is such a divine gift, it makes our heart sing. Light and blessings!

  • Sara Fabian

    Thank you for sharing our experience, Dave. I am very sorry for your loss. It must be hard. I can hear your love for your children. One thing I’ve learned from a buddhist monk a few years ago was to stop identifying myself with my emotions. Embrace the entire repertoire of feelings and emotions with compassion, as part of being beautifully human. Knowing that I have the right to feel sad in the same way I can be joyful. However, emotions are only transitory; they come and go, exactly as our thoughts. So instead of saying “I am sad”, I now say “There is sadness in me.” Instead of saying “I am angry”, I say “There is anger in me.” I am not what I feel. To me, that was empowering and uplifting. I hope it helps. Blessings!

  • Trish Ratzlaff

    I can relate to so much of what you wrote in here. This past year I have really found my happiness and feel so at peace with my journey along with a boost of self confidence that I can achieve anything I want as long as I’m willing to stay consistent everyday with moving forward. Such an uplifting read, thank you!

  • Sara Fabian

    Thank you for sharing, Trish. Glad to hear!

  • Hi Sara,

    I am very interested in reading the research you mentioned when you said, “Research has shown that happiness is 50 percent connected to our genes, only 10 percent attributed to life circumstances, and 40 perfect correlated with our thoughts and behaviors”

    Can you kindly point me to it? I am looking to author an article/book on happiness and would love to have read this research.

    Thank you so much,

    Joel

  • Frazer McLeod

    I’ve just written down these to put in my wallet. Many thanks! 🙂

  • Frazer McLeod

    Great article Sara, many thanks for sharing. I’ve been reading it over a few lunch times at work and it’s been really enjoyable and helpful. I also resonate very much with almost all of the below comments and your responses to these so thanks for those as well! Have a lovely day 🙂

  • Really amazing post. Thank you so much Sara for sharing it here. Stop expecting too much from people, hang around with positive people, follow your passion, love what you do, stop comparing you with others and you are out of rat race!!

  • Sara Fabian

    Thank you, Shalini. All the best!

  • Sara Fabian

    Thank you, Frazer. I’m glad it helped. Take care!

  • Great article. I like number 4 and 7 the most. Love what you do and have a happy family is always makes my life meaningful. Be grateful with what you have and life will gives you more.

  • silverstars

    This article is literally a wake up call for me. Without knowing, I’ve been a rat racer for all these years. Even now. I’ve graduated but I don’t really have a job outside. I help my family at home. It’s been about 2 years? I’ve always felt insecure and feel that people will judge me cause I haven’t gone out and worked before. It made me suffer and I was always unhappy. It was only recently that I’ve finally let that thought go and told myself that I was good enough. For myself. I didn’t need to think about what others thought or if I should be at their “level” in life. I could be different. It’s funny how I was also born in the year of the rat. XD I’ve always thought that, if I could get a job, maybe I will be happy. But I doubt so. Thank you for the amazing article. 🙂