Anita,
We both care deeply about the band, but it wasn’t more important than the relationship. There were many reasons why things didn’t work out. If I honest with myself, I feel like my partner wanted to break up with me for a long time, but was afraid to hurt my feelings.
His reason for breaking with me was that he was tired of hurting me and me hurting him. He also has much going on in his own personal life that he needs to “figure out”.