Hello Amy,

You had mentioned that you wanted to learn how to move on from this and get back to being a “normal person.” You have also mentioned numerous times about losing yourself while being in a relationship with this person. In order for you to move on get back to being yourself again would be to probably find yourself again. What did you do before this person? What do you enjoy doing (hobbies/activities/sport)? What new things do you want to try? What things have you put on hold for this relationship? Really think about that and find something that makes you happy outside of this person. I get it, letting go of someone is so hard and I’ve been there. In my own experience, I just kept digging myself into a bigger hole of disappointment, sadness, depression, and anger. I knew that that person was not going to change in the way that I wanted him to and he shouldn’t, so I had to let go because I realized that he wasn’t for me. And in doing that, I asked myself all those questions that I asked you earlier. It’s not going be easy, it’s going to be so hard, but if you really want to be happy you have to give that to yourself. In my case, I saw a therapist to work on myself, I tried sewing and loved it. I hung out with friends that I hadn’t seen in months. I traveled internationally solo. Do you and it will get easier and easier because you will start to slowly find yourself again. I hope this was helpful! Good luck with everything!