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  • June 17, 2017 at 8:02 am #153768
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    Hi Anita,

    I want to share other aspect of my side also. The another reason that he blocked me from all sources is that i have been lying to him from last 7-8 months…and i told him about this..actualy after feeling mental pressure and fear of losing him..i lied him that i am talking to my parents..and sometimes i gave him hope that after talking to them it seems they would get ready..and one time i lied that my parents wants to meet him..and he reached at meeting place..and then again i lied that they could not come..and some days back i told him all the truth..that i didnt talk to my parents and all those were lies which i told you…i know i am wrong in this part…i dont know why i did this…as per him i played with his feelings and emotions..but still he gave me chance and asked me to talk…now he got frustrated with me from this kind of behavior..i dont know why i am doing all this..when he needs explanation for all this..i have only one answer that i didnt want to lose him…so i lied to him…today again he phoned me…and asked the same question whether i had a talk with my parents or not..with the words that please dont lie…he said that once i should talk to them and tell them that he wants to meet them..he is ready to meet them…i know i have never revealed this part of story…i told this today so that u can get better idea of the things…

    June 16, 2017 at 8:28 am #153650
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    Hi Anita,

    You are such a wonderful person..i always feel relaxed after reading your replies..its been two days i and my boyfriend didnt meet and talk to each other..In the last call..he told me if you cannot do anything then dont try to contact me..we should end up all this..but i was expecting that he would do something from his end…i am trying to contact him..but he blocked me from all sources..i messaged him that we should meet, talk and try to find out some solution…but he didnt reply…from last two days..i m continuously trying to contact him but failed to do so..i know that i should not do all this..but i love him..and want everything gets sort out…what should i do…i know he loves me..and he is doing all this so that i can take another chance and talk to my parents…what should i do…

    June 14, 2017 at 8:07 pm #153326
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    Hi Mark,

    Thanks for this valuable suggestion. I met this guy after my breakup and i thought that time that i would live my life fully for myself…After meeting this guy..i enjoyed too..used to hang out with friends..planned some trips together..all was well until my parents got to know that i am again involved with other guy..and when i talked them about marriage..situation get more worse..and my boyfriend taught me to stand for myself..raise your voice in front of my family..but i am weak in front of my parents..circumstances got worse…This is the fact that i love both my family and my boyfriend too..and i want both of them..hope they both will try to understand this…

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    June 14, 2017 at 6:06 am #153128
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    Hi Anita,

    I asked him today to talk to his parents, it could be possible that when he would see that there is no option left..he may talk to his parents..

    But some days back he phoned my dad and that call also left negative impression on my dad..my father clearly denies him that i will never agree due to caste..he insisted him that they should meet…but my father said , ” i am not interested in meeting because i will never give my approval.” My boyfriend replied ok then we both will see what we would do…and my father told me that he could have talked me in requesting manner but he clearly warned me that we both would see how to do it.

    I will wait for some days..it could be possible that he would do something from his end to save our relationship..else i will not have any other option to end all this…because i cant see any other thing which i can do from my end…

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    June 14, 2017 at 12:41 am #153100
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    Hi Anita,

    Thanks a lot for your suggestions..i talked to him about this that he should talk to his parents…i asked him that he should openly tell his parents that why my parents are denying because they are aware of his past…he answered that he has already told his parents few days back that they should call my parents..but his parents are denying..he told me again that why are you not leaving your home…u r not bold enough to take this decision…as per him i am unnecessarily making the situation more compliacted…he asked me to take stand and just say that i wil marry him only…and he also asked if you didnt have the courage to love and accept that love in front of your family that why i did start all this..i am fully stuck in the situation…should i talk to his parents…what do you suggest…please help me…

     

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    June 13, 2017 at 2:15 am #152900
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    Hi Anita;

    I didnt give that letter to my parents..i talked to my elder sister about it..even she is not in favour…as per her..he is not good guy for me..she knows him from his college days so as per her she had so many affairs that time and he would never be loyal for you.she said that he tried on her also.i dont know what is right and wrong..i know he is kind of flirty guy but deep down from heart he would be loyal for me and he is. As per her our parents know about all these stuffs about him so they would never be ready for this…i cant understand what is going on…what should i do…should i leave all things on time or should i try something else…should i talk to his parents that they should talk to my parents….i m so confused….

    June 11, 2017 at 1:45 am #152680
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    Hi Anita,

    Just wanted to tell you that i have decided to talk to my parents once again..and this time i express my thoughts and feelings on paper..i have wriiten four page note..and will give them today’s evening…i have written all things that what my heart wants and also i want that they should be happy with my decision…lets see what happens…i wil be back with their reaction and decision.

    Aks

    June 4, 2017 at 7:57 am #151832
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    Yes..you are right..he is too emotional and he is very much attached to me as well..according to him..whatever your heart wants you should do..and follow whatever your heart says..whenever i say him that it would be very difficult that we would be together; he gets emotional and says me that he cant live without me..i am somewhat different from him..as per me..we have to use both our heart and brain as well…he says i have left him alone in his own house..his parents daily ask him about me..whether i talk to my parents or not..he says..i dont go in front of my parents because he know they wil ask the same question..i feel this mental pressure from both sides..his side and from my parents side as well…i just want to take one decision..but not able to decide what should i do…

    June 4, 2017 at 7:02 am #151822
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    Hi,

    He says that i should talk to them again..one last time..And if they again deny, just make a call to him..And he would come at my home and will take me with him..and according to him..if i will do this in front of my parents..they would get agree…therefore he wants me to talk to them once again.but i dont have that courage that i do this all in front of them..i am emotionally weak..i cant see my parents crying for me and i leave home with him in front of them…i want them to get agree happily…but as per him if i love him i should have that courage too…

     

    June 4, 2017 at 12:13 am #151808
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    I know this very well if i go against their will and marry him..after some years all things would get normal…after some years it would not really matter that how it took place…but the all things again stop at me..i have to take decision..now my concern is if i take decision against my parents then last time..i should tell them about my decision that i am planning to marry him or just get marry then will tell them…this is all what i am thinking..my boyfriend still believes that i should talk them and make them agree…

    June 3, 2017 at 8:12 am #151750
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    They are totally against it…and as per them 99% intercaste marriages fail. They say..Women should remain in their boundaries..and whatever decision their families take for them..there is nothing best than that…I am stucked in this situation..not able to decide where should i move..

     

     

    June 3, 2017 at 7:36 am #151738
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    Hey Anita,

    Is it be right if i ask my boyfrnd that he make his parents agree to talk to my parents..If they talk to my parents about this and try to make my parents understand about it..Is it feasible…or will it worse the situation…??

    June 2, 2017 at 7:53 am #151664
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    Hi Anita,

    Thanks for replying.But my boyfriend is urging me to take a chance and as per him if i love him, I should take a stand for him in fromt of my parents..as he has made his parents agree for me..the same he is expecting from me..he says that i have talked to them only once..and sometimes he gets frustrated that why i am not talking to my parents again and again..he says they will get agree after sometime..but I havent that courage to talk to them again after that day…

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    June 2, 2017 at 7:14 am #151658
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    Hey,

    Yes..i am 28 years old..as per them i need to settle down now..so they are planning for arrange marriage…and looking for another guy of same caste/religion…the boy whom i want to marry is of another caste

     

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