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  • #450864
    Alessa
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    Thanks so much everyone. 🙏 He was a good boy. ❤️

    #450717
    Alessa
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    Hi Tommy

    I am open to any kind of learning. Why? Mmm when I practice I do. But it is like a muscle and I don’t always practice regularly now that I have a child. I wouldn’t claim to be enlightened. I just had a good meditation teacher. 😊

    I did learn to do some things I do in meditation outside of meditation though. ❤️

    Please don’t worry. You are very much welcome here. ❤️

    As a fellow honest person. I appreciate you. 😉

    #450716
    Alessa
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    Very well said Peter! 😊 ❤️

    #450646
    Alessa
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    I’m sorry. My head is still not here. I just wanted everyone to feel included. ❤️

    You had some good insights too Tommy.

    #450645
    Alessa
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    I benefitted from the conversation between you both actually. 😊

    #450644
    Alessa
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    Perhaps it is just me? I benefit from the posts James shares. I am curious and I might not understand immediately. I have faith that things fall into place in time.

    Thinking about these things helped me to step back and manage the grief of losing my dog. ❤️

    My dog, my feelings. My way. We don’t get to decide what happens. Better to stop pretending and accept what is.

    I loved him. He was a good dog. I was lucky to have him whilst I had him. That has to be enough.

    We are in such a hurry to feel better sometimes. But in a rush it is like a flood.

    You are a good person Tommy and a dear friend. You care about people. There is nothing wrong with that. ❤️

    #450643
    Alessa
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    Hi Tommy

    You haven’t done anything wrong. There is nothing wrong with sharing your feelings. ❤️

    James doesn’t seem hurt by it?

    There is truth in all perspectives. ❤️

    James will be James, Tommy will be Tommy. All are welcome here. You are both loved and appreciated. ❤️

    #450639
    Alessa
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    *Buddha

    #450638
    Alessa
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    Hi Everyone

    I have a perspective if it is okay to share?

    Perhaps if we don’t understand something it would be beneficial to ask questions? React with curiosity instead of fear? Or we can just say oh well it is something that I don’t understand right now, that happens sometimes in life. 🤷‍♀️

    This place is not just for trauma, it is also for seekers. It is called TinyBudda.

    Bear in mind that James is on his own thread. He is not going around on other people’s threads saying these ideas. They are only for the people interested in actively seeking them out. If they are not your cup of tea no one has to read them.

    We think of emotions as if they are linked to the mind. But I noticed recently that they are a function of the body.

    Historically, people have searched for threat because we needed to protect ourselves from predators. Like animals we needed to run or fight. The body has functions that help us to do this helping us to run faster, react more quickly or fight harder when we are in danger.

    For people who have sensitive nervous system, say because of trauma stress can easily kick that mechanism into action. We think during these times planning for an emergency worst case scenario. It is what the body demands. But often there is no threat anymore. With C-PTSD, mostly just memories.

    There are lots ways to calm the nervous system when stress triggers it. Breathing exercises. Singing. Walking. Shaking your body. Cold water. Stretching, massaging the head, neck and feet. Managing our basic needs helps us to regulate.

    ❤️

    #450554
    Alessa
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    Hi Tee

    Sorry my old dog died yesterday. I’ll write again soon. ❤️

    #450528
    Alessa
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    Hi Tee

    Always happy to talk to you too! ❤️

    No, not at all. It wasn’t you. I was just reflecting on some of the ways I’m not there for myself as much as I am for others and processing those feelings.

    Yes, I would agree. I do need to work on self-compassion still. I’m trying my best. 😊

    Ah well, I’m sure you’ve heard of the phrase saving face before. I think it’s basically about communicating with people without wounding their ego. There are some great techniques out there for when people disagree.

    It’s basically validating how you can see why they have a perspective. Giving an example about how you or someone you know might have had a similar perspective. And then describe how you or someone you know came to change their perspective.

    I think I’m going to write a post about belonging. ❤️

    Thank you, I’ve found all of the conversations very insightful too. 😊

    #450480
    Alessa
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    Hi Roberta

    Strong and wise even in high school! Love it 🥰

    #450479
    Alessa
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    Hi Everyone

    I really appreciate your thoughtful writing Peter. Beautiful as always. I dare say that you are right. ❤️ ✍️

    It always fascinates me how different perspectives can be.

    To me, the elephant story illustrates how difficult it is to explain ideas to someone. Almost like old paintings where they had never seen exotic creatures. They were drawing them based on stories.

    I feel like sometimes ideas have to be experienced organically. I find that it can be hard to understand concepts without direct experience. Then, after the experience you reflect and go “Oh! So that’s what that meant.”.

    Perhaps, as a mother I interpreted the story about the monk and the baby differently? A monk would be a safe choice to take care of a baby for a desperate person. Some of good character who might take care of a child purely because it needs help. I would like to think that the monk knowingly took care of the child knowing that he wasn’t the father purely because he was asked in desperation for help. Shouldering the difficulties of potentially being excommunicated from the monastery. Only to be approached by the mother with a guilty conscience, ashamed by the weight of everything the monk gave up for her child. Nothing to forgive because he already knew and made the choice willingly. Perhaps too humble and caring to admit it? Maybe that is just my wishful thinking turning it into a heartwarming story. 😊

    #450478
    Alessa
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    Hi M

    I’m sorry to hear about everything you’ve been through. No wonder you are exhausted! Please rest and take care of yourself. You deserve it. ❤️

    Do you want to talk more about these feelings of having trouble moving forward or not knowing who you are? ❤️

    Mmm I’ve had trouble with not knowing who I was a couple of times in life. I feel like often we base our identities on our circumstances. It is understandable that when circumstances change our sense of identity shifts. It can take some time to adapt. Trauma doesn’t make things easy either. I didn’t know who I was because of that as well.

    I do hope that you can take some time to focus on you. ❤️

    #450477
    Alessa
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    Hi Miss Duchess

    Cool! Do you have any plans for your birthday?

    You are right, it can feel harder to connect with people when there is nothing in common.

    I’m sorry you feel excluded. ❤️

    I’m glad that despite the pain of the past, you can see the silver lining in that it helps you to appreciate the good people you met in life. I feel like sometimes that is the way of life. Contrasting experiences help us to cherish the good experiences we do have.

    That sounds understandable to still feel a bit awkward with it being your second session. How was the choir experience itself? Do you like singing?

    I think you’re doing really well putting yourself out there! Already you have done a lot. You are determined. Keep at it! You deserve to find people that you connect with. ❤️

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