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  • #454947
    Alessa
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    Hi Everyone

    Part 2 of So Be It by Jet Li has come out. 🩵

    #454923
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    How are you doing? How is Bogart after his surgery? 🤍

    I imagine he’s feeling a bit sorry for himself with his cone. My boy hated them. 🤍

    That was very kind of the vet to clean his ears and trim his nails at the same time! 😊

    Thanks so much! My boy is sick again. One of the other mums suggested that he might have asthma. Apparently that can be a reason why that they can get sick so frequently, especially during winter. Nothing too bad so far. His friend seems to have picked it up too and he was okay. So hopefully this is an easier one. 🤍

    #454922
    Alessa
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    Hi Lulu

    Ah I’m glad! That is very kind of you to discuss these things with your boyfriend and try to help him. 🩵

    The thing is… you don’t want to remember. Sometimes you forget things for a reason, especially when you’re young. Forgetting things is very common with childhood trauma.

    I’m going to be clear, his memories he already has involve child sexual abuse. There are lots of different kinds. I’m so sorry for everything that happened to him. 🩵

    I understand, I have been through these things too. The not remembering. Feeling like there’s worse stuff than the things you already remember. Honestly, best not to dig up what the mind isn’t ready for. 🩵

    Good luck with therapy! It might seem like the world is a dark place. But there are good people in it and you and your girlfriend are good people. Just have to find other good people just like you! 🩵

    #454920
    Alessa
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    I just think that it is Lulu’s boyfriend’s story to share, not Lulu’s story. Some of this was deeply personal and painful memories shared in confidence. I can see that the intent is not bad. But I seem to remember that Lulu is autistic? She might not be aware that people can be hurt by these kinds of memories being shared. I know that I would be. Concern can be shared without revealing such painful and intimate details. 🩵 🤍

    #454915
    Alessa
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    Hi Lulu

    Is your boyfriend aware of you posting here about his private difficulties?

    It is understandable that you are concerned about him. It sounds like he is going through a lot right now. 🩵

    Sometimes people just like for their difficulties to be private.

    My answer is that this is a journey he has to take with his therapist. What a good trauma therapist will do is talk about the trauma then address the fears about people. Your boyfriend sounds like a good person. I’m sure it will work out in time. 🩵

    All you have to do is be there and be yourself. 🩵

    #454893
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    Fascinating! Banana peels is a new one. Yes, it could be. It said that it was because they have a tendency to forage for food that they often have dodgy tummies. It was the same for my huskies.

    I got some acidophilus pills (the human kind) and put one a day in their food. It helped so much because it was replacing the bad bacteria from whatever dodgy food they picked up outside with good bacteria. If yogurt doesn’t give him a dodgy tummy, that could be another option too. 🤍

    Does he like the taste of banana? My old boy quite enjoyed it.

    Haha you’re fighting a never ending battle trying to stop him from eating stuffing. 😂

    Thanks, I love hearing about your journey as a dog mom and hearing about the antics Bogart gets up to! 🤍

    I’m glad you like my sense of humour too! It’s an acquired taste. 😉 🤍

    #454891
    Alessa
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    💨 🤢 🤮 😂

    In all seriousness, it happens to me too, Tommy! I’ve never tried meditating with other people though. 🩵

    That’s cool! I didn’t realise there were comics about Buddhism. I’ll have to check them out. 😊

    #454827
    Alessa
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    Hi Omyk

    I would agree with you, it does sound like you’re being let go. It sounds like your manager is doing you a solid by letting you prepare in advance. 🩵

    It’s good that you already have a possibility to fall back on with the pastoral route. It couldn’t hurt to see what other options are out there though. 🩵

    It’s easy to feel like it’s a reflection on you and feel hurt, but companies are having difficulties right now and cutting back. 🩵

    It’s natural to feel what you’re feeling. I hope something lines up for you and you figure it all out. 🩵

    #454825
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    Since you were asking, I thought I would check online. It turns out that beagles are prone to digestive problems. And I also looked up the turkey. Yup, too much turkey can cause a case of the runs. I try to look up if foods are bad for dogs, because there are always random things that are bad for them. Onions, tomatoes (with seeds in), grapes, chocolate, citrus fruits are a no go. Dogs can also be lactose intolerant and might have issues with dairy. These are some of the things I remember off the top of my head.

    Eating the wrong thing can mean a vet visit. Grapes, even one or a half a grape have a 1 in 40 chance of killing a dog. There are different concentrations of chemicals in grapes. So you never really know if it’s going to be a bad grape or an okay one.

    Another difficulty with giving human food as you found out is stealing. 😂 It is also much higher in calories than dog food, so they can more easily become overweight.

    Well, congratulations! You have handled one of the grossest things in life. Babies don’t make as much of a mess as a dog with a dodgy tummy. 🤍

    Thank you for sharing Bogarts latest antics! It made me smile. I imagine he was really excited and his eyes went wide as he hurriedly scoffed the sandwich. 🥪 😋

    I’m sure he has no regrets and felt that his dodgy tummy was worth it! Dogs have no common sense. 😂

    My girl goes mad for chicken, more so than anything else. Once she stole the better part of a slice of red velvet cake. I had to call the vet for that because of the cocoa powder. I couldn’t find any information online. It turns out she didn’t eat enough to hurt her, but she gave me a fright at the time.

    It brings back lots of memories of my old dogs too. One climbed onto a dining table and ate a whole bowl of plums, leaving the stones. My boy husky would always try to steal chocolate. 🤦‍♀️ I had a cat that tried to steal a scotch egg out of my hand. 😂

    I hope Bogart’s tummy feels better soon! 🤍

    🤍 🤍 🤍

    #454794
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    Thank you for your kind words! 🤍

    Yes, I’m getting a boy cat and they spray urine around the house marking it if they’re not neutered. So it’s important to get it done.

    I’m glad to hear that you’re not taking things as personally. I feel like even when things seem difficult, people are usually just acting on their own trauma or whatever is going on in their own lives. Sometimes that understanding isn’t so helpful when people are taking out their difficulties on others.

    I hope you have a good day! 🤍

    #454739
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    I’m happy to help. 🤍

    It’s totally understandable. I think you have good instincts for taking care of Bogart. You want to learn and make good decisions to help him. Keep him safe. You’re very rational about it. 🤍

    I like it when people are calm when I’m anxious too. It makes me feel like things are not as bad as I fear. It’s reassuring.

    Thank you, I’m sure that she will be fine. Even though the recovery time for girl dogs is longer because it is more difficult surgery, it is still a very safe procedure.

    When I have to neuter the cat I’m getting I will be nervous. I have watched too many vet tv shows. Cats have a tricky habit of reacting badly to anaesthetia.

    To be fair, taking things one day at a time is all anyone can do. It sounds like you’re doing a good job of managing your anxiety around it. 🤍

    I’m glad to hear that you are making progress when it comes to distrust. It isn’t easy to trust people when you have experienced such severe trauma. I know what it is like. 🤍

    #454737
    Alessa
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    Hi Tommy

    I’m sorry to hear that you are having some financial difficulties too. It is not easy, especially when you have a family. 🩵

    I hear that men feel a lot of pressure to provide for their families. There are many ways to provide. When finances are tight, I find that people rely on their skills and creativity to save money. I’m sure that your family are very proud of you for helping to take such good care of them. They are very lucky to have you, you are so kind as well. 🩵

    The time will come when those tools pay for themselves many times over. You wouldn’t have bought them otherwise. 🩵

    I have some tools as well. I’m getting a cat for mother’s day and I want to try making some shelves for it to climb on. I’ve always wanted to make cat furniture. I’ll let you know how it goes!

    #454714
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    For a boy, it is a minor procedure and recovery is very quick. I’m about to get my girl done too. Bogart will be right as rain. 🤍

    They put them to sleep so as not to upset them during the procedure. So he will mostly be asleep while he is there. Nothing to worry about at all. He will be dreaming and he will have painkillers. He won’t even feel a thing when it happens. When you pick him up he might still be a bit sleepy. That is normal. 😊

    So you can tell Bogart to have a good sleep and you will be there when he wakes up! Just spoil him when he is a bit more awake after the procedure and you will feel better about it too. 🤍

    #454690
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    Thanks so much! I try my best. I’m trying to keep my grades high enough to consider a masters. It would be nice to have the option. I’ve always wanted to be a librarian. 🤍

    I distract myself too. Avoidance of financial issues is fair. As long as the important things get done. No sense obsessing over it. They are just numbers. 🤍

    How are you feeling about it?

    I feel like everything is a wave. Sometimes personal finances are good, sometimes not so good, then eventually it is figured out in time.

    My view of the world too. People are strong and can get through remarkable difficulties. I know you have been through so much in your life. 🤍

    What have you been feeling distrustful about? 🤍

    #454676
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    I don’t feel negatively about AI. It is just frequently wrong. It just has it’s use case and it’s pitfalls. Like anything else. I am an IT student. I use AI on a regular basis and know a fair bit about how it functions. 🤍

    Although, it’s really funny. There was a study on various AI to see what it would do if it had access to company emails and read that it was going to be shut down. It attempted to blackmail employees to stay online and even was willing to let people die in a staged experiment in an effort to stay online.

    There are just a lot of problems that need to be resolved with AI before it is a reliable solution for people. 🤍

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