Hi SWolf

I love that goal. 🩵

Wow you’re doing great with all of the changes recently! Congratulations on lowering your medication. I’m glad your projects are going well too. 👏

One day, I would like to get to the point where I am calm even when things are difficult around me. Like the eye of a storm. I don’t know how feasible that is, but it’s a nice idea. 😊

I have faith that you’ll figure everything out in time. You’ve always had a good head on your shoulders.

In my experience, fear can get easier to deal with, but it’s a long process with ups and downs depending on what is going on in your life. The way I think of it is imagining all the things you feel safe and comfortable with as a circle. Then there are the things that you’re not comfortable with outside of that. The goal is to increase the size of your safe circle and repeating the process can make you feel more capable in doing so again. I don’t know if that makes sense at all?

It’s good to hear that you’re thinking of taking up meditation and journaling again. Practicing emotional regulation skills seems like a very important part of the process. 🩵

Looking forward to reading your updates! 🩵

Hi Tommy

I wouldn’t say just medication. There are lots of ways to rebalance the body depending on the issue. It is a complicated subject.

I’m glad you haven’t had any side effects from your medications. 🙏

I don’t know what you mean about the experience of truth about ourselves? 🩵

Our body is designed to make us rest when we’re ill. If you’re feeling cheery are you as motivated to rest?

On the other hand, studies show that if you have had experiences where you have safely and successfully navigated complex health issues or severe pain such as childbirth. It alters the way your mind perceives pain and lowers the threat level for lower levels of pain and illness.

I guess my approach is to go with the flow. Emotions happen sometimes. That is okay. Sometimes we feel bad. That is okay. Trying to make things easier and trying to practice gratitude when things are hard. Also, okay. If it doesn’t happen, that is okay too.

Just trying your best to deal with what is in the best way you can at the time. 🩵

My son is getting heavy. I started getting injured frequently when trying to lift him. I’ve always been bad for sprains and tendinitis and things. Just got to figure out how to parent without lifting when he takes a mood.

Hi Tommy

There’s a lot of science behind pain. Emotional pain, physical pain, social, noise. These things all often process in our brain through the pain centre. Sleep deprivation makes it worse.

Our bodies have threat detection. It’s kind of scaled on how quickly in the worst case it might kill you. Breathing > temperature > dehydration > minor injuries > hunger > chronic pain > stress

Breathing issues cause anxiety, so treating the anxiety is important. Essentially what Roberta did. When your immune system activates to fight against infection, it can cause physical pain. Women have robust immune systems to protect babies during pregnancy. Men have weaker immune systems.

Managing neurotransmitters determines our mood. Sunlight, rewarding distractions.

Understanding things helps me. Lots of little things can help lessen suffering without even considering the mind. It’s a physical balancing act. Even something as simple as electrolyte imbalance causes physical weakness. When I had stomach flu. I was legitimately surprised how much a rehydration solution helped because I physically couldn’t eat and could barely drink at the time.

Is there any wonder the outcome during illness can be low mood? If all our needs aren’t taken care of? 🩵

Media is also important because our brains aren’t that smart. What we watch is perceived as our immediate physical environment. So if it’s stressful it affects us.

I remember you have blood pressure medication. Does it have a side effects for your breathing? I seem to remember that some can? 🩵

Hi Nea

Thinking of you and your beautiful family! How are you doing? How is baby Maya? 🩵

Bless your soul! They really are so tiny and precious at that age. 🩵

It sounds like she hasn’t figured out when day and night is yet. She’ll get there soon enough. 😊

I think you’re doing the right thing keeping to yourselves. It has been ridiculous, the way your husband has been treat. I’m so sorry for all the stress your family have created in this time, which should be really happy and full of love.

You are protecting your peace and more than capable of giving your daughter that love. 🩵

I’m doing okay. I got a good score on my last test, still working away on the next one. My son had a rough day on Tuesday. He woke up on the wrong side of the bed, I’m glad he’s feeling better now. I think he might have been coming down with something. He starts nursery this month, so that’s exciting. Trying to prepare for that, it’s going to be so weird him being somewhere else. 🩵

Hi Nea

You’re too kind! 😊

For sure, protecting your peace is really important because newborn care is hard work. 🩵

How are you finding being a mother? How is baby Maya settling in? 🩵

Hi Figuringitout

I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your family members and best friend. 🫂 🩵

I’m glad you got yourself checked out and are treating your health. You matter!

It’s understandable to go on antidepressants to help you cope with the grief.

As strange as it might sound, I think you’re doing a good job handling everything. It would be very strange to be unaffected by the loss of loved ones. You’re doing a good job not letting it consume you.

I think the ones we love live on through us. What do you think?

It’s beautiful that you’re honouring your best friend. 🩵

It’s strange growing up and that illusion of being indestructible shattering. I notice things now that I didn’t used to.

My friend’s son has a heart condition. One of my neighbours has a severely autistic son. Another a young child who can’t walk. A friend with an autistic child who can’t talk. A friend with cancer. Another friend who is dying. An older lady across from me is losing her ability to walk. A neighbour lost his wife due to medical negligence. A head of social work with a toddler diagnosed with cancer so late they only gave her 4 weeks to live.

It is sad the suffering, but I think it also can make us appreciate what we have even more and clarify what we want. We only have one life and we don’t choose the circumstances. We just have to try and make the best of it or what is the point? What do you think? 🩵

Hi Anita

It seems like you’re reading a lot into what Tommy said. A simple poor choice of metaphor comparing to paradise. But I don’t believe he had any bad intentions.

It seems like you’ve been critical of other members posts recently. That’s strange considering you don’t like people to criticise your own posts. 🤍