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  • in reply to: Parent Life #454265
    Alessa
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    Hi Anita, Tee and Tommy

    Thank you all for the well wishes. 🩡 🀍

    He’s definitely feeling better today. He walked around the house and played with his toys. It made me so happy to see him more like his usual self. He’s definitely out of the woods now. 🩡 🀍

    Haha I’m not brave enough to try that one Tommy! πŸ˜‚

    Yes, Anita that was what the doctor said he had!

    Yes, Tee it was all very frightening. Apparently kids his age can go for 2 weeks without eating much just fine according to the doctor. I didn’t realize.

    I have a migraine, so I’m going to keep this one short. Speak soon! 🩡 🀍

    in reply to: A Personal Reckoning #454255
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    You are doing a really good job taking care of little Anita. 🀍

    Yes, an important realisation. How does it feel knowing that none of it was your fault? Has it started to sink into understanding from logic to belief or emotion yet? Whatever you are experiencing is okay. I find that these things evolve over time. 🀍

    Well, the job of beagles on hunts is to go off lead and hunt rabbits. Of course bring the rabbit back. So it’s possible to train them to go off lead and recall even though they are a harder breed to train.

    I wasn’t trying to suggest letting him off the lead now. Recall training starts on the lead. You pick the word you want to use. In the beginning, I usually start with just standing and waiting for some interest in me, saying the word then praising. Just pairing it. Later on you can give the lead attached to his collar a quick, firm, but gentle tug and say the word. It is like saying paying attention. Then you can just use the word without the tug. And when he recalls reliably on the regular lead some people get a very long training lead. So they can go further away and practice coming back from a larger distance safely.

    Some people use treats. I don’t like to. I trained huskies before with treats and in my opinion it makes recall unreliable. It takes more time to do it without treats. I hear that beagles can be the same way. Difficult like huskies.

    I read that for beagles they should practice self control exercises to help with training. Maybe co-pilot would have some suggestions?

    I really like teaching another command in addition. Looking at you. This is another one you can teach on lead too or even in the house. When he looks at you naturally pair the command and praise. Once okay with recall on a lead you can practice in the house too. 😊

    It makes your life a lot easier for recall if your dog is currently paying attention to you. Having them look at you makes them move a little closer to you and pay attention. It’s less threatening because they are not being told to come back on lead all the time.

    Sorry for the information dump. I hope it’s helpful. 🀍 🀍 🀍

    in reply to: Parent Life #454231
    Alessa
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    Hi Anita and Tommy

    Well he didn’t have a fever yesterday, but he did have one today. I was at the hospital yesterday for hours. He wasn’t peeing and had low blood sugar. At first they tried to send me home with him without doing anything before he was a bit more stable. I refused to leave. After he puked in the cafeteria they gave him some anti-nausea medicine and actually helped me to learn how to take care of him when he is this weak.

    He’s still weak, but keeping some food down now. And now I know how to handle the low blood sugar in the mornings when they haven’t eaten much. Since he wouldn’t drink this morning. I had to syringe juice with electrolytes into his mouth for hours. If he’s not being sick, I think I can do it a bit faster tomorrow since he’s keeping things down today.

    Thank you both for keeping me company and for your kindness, whilst I was worrying about him. 🩡 🀍

    I still hope that maybe he will feel better tomorrow. 🀍 🩡

    in reply to: Parent Life #454196
    Alessa
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    Hi Anita and Tommy

    My son got worse again. Stopped keeping milk down. Stopped keeping food down and he’s very weak. Has barely moved all day. Took half of the day but he’s keeping juice down now.

    Thanks so much for thinking of him. It means a lot to me. 🀍 🩡

    I’m well enough now, just a bit tired. It has been days of not eating much, not sleeping well for both of us.

    I hope he feels a bit better tomorrow. If not back to the doctor or the hospital again.

    It was scary seeing him not moving all day for the first time since he was a newborn. He’s such an active boy usually. A newborn doesn’t move very much in the first place. It’s not a massive shock to see them like that. But with him being so active. It’s scary to see him sleeping all the time. Even during the days he had a fever he was still walking around at home and playing with toys.

    It’s hard that I don’t have a mother to turn to when he is sick because he is my first and I don’t really know what I’m doing. I only know how to deal with the stuff I’ve dealt with so far. Every now and again something new crops up and I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m failing him.

    Thanks so much for the advice Tommy. 🩡

    in reply to: Parent Life #454135
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    Thanks so much for thinking of us! It’s very kind of you. 🀍

    He had quite a high fever but it broke last night. Now I have it. I’m afraid that I’ve not been up to much. 🀍

    Thinking of you too! And Bogart!

    Recall is where you train the dog to come to you when you call them. I don’t know what the leash laws are like in your area but in the UK if your dog listens to your commands well you can walk it without being on a leash.

    Obviously near busy roads it is still important to be on a leash for its own safety.

    And I was just referring to the story. 😊

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #454058
    Alessa
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    Hi Confused

    What happened near the end of the 9 month relationship that made it go bad? How did it end? 🩡

    I hear how much you want to have a healthy relationship that works out! That’s a really important dream. 🩡

    Hope is not a bad thing. To have a successful relationship you are going to need that.

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #454046
    Alessa
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    Hi Confused

    I wonder how past relationships with other women have been for you? How is it for you usually when things get a bit stressful in the relationship? 🩡

    I think it’s normal to feel bad after an argument and I don’t worry about the length of the trip. For a LDR all of the time spent online together counts. What is important is if the person acts the same way online as in person.

    Well, you were very honest and able to be yourself with her. That is a good thing. 🩡

    The difficulty I think is that if things are rough from early on in the relationship, that is when things are supposed to be peaceful. I don’t know how things move on from there.

    in reply to: A Personal Reckoning #454037
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    Little Alessa says that she doesn’t mind sharing. 🀍

    I’m glad to hear that you are feeling better. 😊

    My son is ill again. Cold type symptoms, vomiting and a fever. I hope he feels better tomorrow.

    Good thinking! Yes, he has a sound machine, he just has very good hearing. He hears planes and trains go by quite a long way in the distance. Maybe the downside of him liking cars and stuff.

    Oh my goodness Bogart made a run for it! Well it is a very good sign that he came back. He might be ready to practice recall and walk off lead sometimes soon. It sounds like he’s bonded with you really well. 🀍

    in reply to: Zen Story #454036
    Alessa
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    Hi Everyone

    A lot of good points! I’ve been thinking about it some more.

    Everyone is different. Has different needs, priorities, beliefs and values.

    I guess similar to the other koan.

    Who is to say what is right and wrong? 🩡

    Maybe a monk might love her, but also love Buddha. Maybe there would be enough satisfaction in a chaste life with the nun around? It is easy to guess, but only the monk could answer the question of why he hid his love. 🩡

    in reply to: Quarter-life Crisis on Steroids #454015
    Alessa
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    Hi Miss Duchess

    Lovely to see you again! 🩡

    I don’t think that anyone could ever call you terrible. 😁

    How is choir going? 🩡

    in reply to: New Start; Finally ‘Okay’ #454014
    Alessa
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    Hi Kane

    I’m glad to hear that you are feeling better. 🩡

    I look forward to reading more of your thoughts. Of course, you are welcome to write on other members threads. I’m sure that you can share some unique insights. 😊

    I agree with what Tommy is touching on. I find it challenging to try to understand some of the unhealthy habits people have. But things that are hard are often worth doing. 🩡

    in reply to: Zen Story #453992
    Alessa
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    Hi Everyone

    I am straightforward as ever. If love is not open? Is it really love? 🩡

    Thank you all for sharing your thoughts! πŸ™ 🩡

    in reply to: A Personal Reckoning #453972
    Alessa
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    Little Alessa doesn’t talk very much. She would sit near little Anita, but not to close and offer her a piece of chocolate and say β€œSorry” (for everything you have been through). 🀍

    in reply to: A Personal Reckoning #453971
    Alessa
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    Dear Anita

    Sorry I have been quiet. Thank you for thinking of me. 🀍

    How are you doing? I’m glad to hear your cold is away. I hope that the bladder infection quickly follows. πŸ™

    Our holidays were ok, but busy. It has been very busy recently and my son has not been sleeping well. He seems to have very good hearing and wakes up at any noises.

    Also, my ill neighbour’s boiler broke, so I was helping to find her a new heater.

    Great work on your exercises. You’re doing a really good job taking care of little Anita. 🀍

    in reply to: Parent Life #453929
    Alessa
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    Hi Tee

    True! It is hard to overcome something that you don’t understand. I find that understanding things helps me too. 😊

    I suppose a lot of things can be hard, but you never know when you might surprise yourself. I wish you luck! 🩡

    I found a quote about courage. I looked at a few and settled on sharing this one. I appreciate the simplicity of it.

    β€œThe only courage that matters is the kind that gets you from one moment to the next.” by
    Mignon McLaughlin.

    That’s reassuring. Thank you for sharing. 🩡

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