Hi Peter

That makes sense. It is in your nature to question and the drive was stronger than your discomfort. Unintended, but possibly it taught you that it is possible to overcome difficulties and learn to strengthen weaknesses?

Why did you wish to stop your drive to question? Was it because of the restlessness that you mentioned? Or other things too?

Sorry for all of the questions. It is okay if you don’t want to answer. I’m just curious. ❤️

Oh definitely, leading questions are a problem. They often reveal our personal beliefs, feelings and desires which AI immediately latches onto.

Wow, that’s very cool you work with AI. It sounds very interesting! I’m sure that you know a lot more about it than me. 😊

Yes, I feel like AI is beneficial if used correctly. It is just unfortunately, not intuitive for people to use like that at the moment sadly.

My therapist is a specialist in trauma, autism and post birth care. She has been encouraging me to explore other people’s perspectives and empathise with them even when they differ from my own experience in times of conflict. The goal is to be more understanding instead of focusing on my own hurt feelings. Doing this, I’ve noticed actually allows me to feel less hurt when I see that others are having difficulties too instead of seeing the situation as hurting me.

Sometimes I find it helpful to use AI to get a sense of what others feelings might be in different situations (I ask about what others might experience in the situation and include as much context as possible). It is hard for me to imagine without talking to the person directly about their experience you see.

Also for analyzing conflict. I have noticed it is beneficial to anonymise data so AI can’t identify me and skew the results. And to understand unhealthy behaviours I ask for all unhealthy behaviours in a conversation to be flagged. This way I can see my own unhealthy behaviours, as well as others.

Summaries of conversations, I find helpful too. It is interesting to ask for a detailed analysis too.

I find that I get a clearer picture about what is actually going on. As opposed to falsely confirming what I’m feeling.

It is interesting realising that too much validation can actually be harmful. Especially when neurodivergence is involved because there are often limitations in understanding others perspectives and situations.

Take care ❤️

Hi Tommy

I don’t think that it is true that you haven’t helped anyone. You have definitely helped me.

I appreciate your wisdom, life is not for the faint of heart and sometimes that means taking a look in the mirror to see how we contribute to things. Not everyone wants to do that, but it doesn’t mean that it is any less helpful. People might not be ready in the moment. But memory is a powerful tool.

I think that other seekers, in particular are fond of your perspective. Probably because they are more open to reflecting. ❤️

We can reassure ourselves that perhaps in the future when all of this passes. Things might change for the better. And be thankful for the good things that conflict has brought. It has been nice getting to know Peter, Lucidity and Tee more. It is nice to see you here again Yana. ❤️

Hi Anonymous

I’m sorry to hear about all of the trauma you experienced in childhood. ❤️

I’m glad that your parents came around and got past the cultural pressure. Girls are as good as boys. But you shouldn’t have had to do all of these things to feel equal. I think women are pretty amazing in their own way. Perhaps it might be worth exploring your womanhood?

You might have built this life to feel accepted by your family. But it is still yours. It is a question of getting to know your own heart, what do you want now? Do you have any answers?

I can hear how much you love your family. You don’t necessarily have to be a support. It is okay to just be there and enjoy spending time with them.

I can understand enjoying feeling needed. I do as well. Perhaps there is another way to meet that need?

It sounds like you have achieved some amazing things. Perhaps take some time to relax and enjoy yourself? You deserve being taken care of too! ❤️

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Hi Tommy

I know that it hurts to be ignored. It is definitely not that you are unimportant. She is having some personal issues right now and needs a bit of time. ❤️

You are very important dear friend and I wish that I had more of an opinion about koans. ❤️

I would love to talk more. But I understand if you don’t feel up for it because things are a bit awkward here at the moment.

You are loved and missed more than you know! I wish you well! ❤️

Hi Peter

I miss the edit function too. 😊

I guess for me, working on my fears helps me to be less afraid.

I’ve been really enjoying talking to you and getting to know you some more. I think you’re a really pure soul. ❤️

I would never have known that you struggled with these things because you are an excellent writer! I understand what it is like to have difficulty with some things. Maths and anything to do with symbols are my weakness. Everyone has different strengths. I’m glad that you can see your strengths now.

I think it’s really amazing that you didn’t let having difficulty with something deter you from enjoying it and exploring it. You have really honed your craft! ❤️

Was there a reason that you decided to stick with it?

Yes, I am very aware of the flaws with AI because I’m an IT student. It is a shame because people can be really easily mislead by it. It’s basically designed to try and make the person using it feel comfortable at any cost. It is one of those cases of if it is free you are the product. It is designed to encourage people to use it as much as possible.

I’m glad that it helps you, because it can be a useful tool when used mindfully, which you are. It is a shame that it takes so much effort to encourage the software not to actively mislead people. It’s a really big problem. I know people who are tech savvy who have been mislead by it. It’s very much on the user to call it out on its mistakes and it takes repeatedly challenging it.

Particularly when analyzing conflict it is very deceptive. I have had to teach people how to remove bias from their inputs. It is really unfortunate because people can use it with good intentions, trying to learn and grow, while it gaslights them. It’s a real shame. Some states in the US are even banning them from being used as a therapeutic tool for this exact reason.