Hi Confused

What happened near the end of the 9 month relationship that made it go bad? How did it end? 🩵

I hear how much you want to have a healthy relationship that works out! That’s a really important dream. 🩵

Hope is not a bad thing. To have a successful relationship you are going to need that.

Dear Anita

Little Alessa says that she doesn’t mind sharing. 🤍

I’m glad to hear that you are feeling better. 😊

My son is ill again. Cold type symptoms, vomiting and a fever. I hope he feels better tomorrow.

Good thinking! Yes, he has a sound machine, he just has very good hearing. He hears planes and trains go by quite a long way in the distance. Maybe the downside of him liking cars and stuff.

Oh my goodness Bogart made a run for it! Well it is a very good sign that he came back. He might be ready to practice recall and walk off lead sometimes soon. It sounds like he’s bonded with you really well. 🤍

Hi Miss Duchess

Lovely to see you again! 🩵

I don’t think that anyone could ever call you terrible. 😁

How is choir going? 🩵

Hi Everyone

I am straightforward as ever. If love is not open? Is it really love? 🩵

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts! 🙏 🩵

Dear Anita

Sorry I have been quiet. Thank you for thinking of me. 🤍

How are you doing? I’m glad to hear your cold is away. I hope that the bladder infection quickly follows. 🙏

Our holidays were ok, but busy. It has been very busy recently and my son has not been sleeping well. He seems to have very good hearing and wakes up at any noises.

Also, my ill neighbour’s boiler broke, so I was helping to find her a new heater.

Great work on your exercises. You’re doing a really good job taking care of little Anita. 🤍

Hi Confused

Thanks so much! 😊 🩵

That’s understandable to not be up to much during the holidays. It’s important to take care of yourself when you are feeling rough. 🩵

It’s good that you let yourself grieve. It’s still not easy though. I can see the weight of what you’ve been through in the numbness. 🩵

Family is supposed to be this tremendous pillar of support and strength for people. Being without that is hard. 🩵

It’s good to hear that you have some friends. Are you close with them? 🩵

I don’t have a family. I think that put a lot of pressure on romantic relationships. It’s putting a whole onto one person to be your everything. Other relationships are important too and also your biggest cheerleader has to be yourself.

When I was a kid, I experienced emotional numbing. It helped me to cope with my trauma. A therapist taught me to connect deeply with my feelings and overcome the numbness. I still have habits of it today particularly with stress. Oh gosh, I had just under 10 years of therapy.

A good therapist will treat you with care and show you what a truly healthy relationship is like. 🩵

I don’t think you messed things up. Long distance relationships often fail. Very rarely do they succeed to the point of someone settling in the others country. It is inherently stressful by its nature. It’s a lot of blind hope.

Things will unfold the way they are supposed to and it is neither of your faults. 🩵

Perhaps you haven’t cut her off? But are just noticing the nature of long distance for the first time? I think if you had cut her off you wouldn’t care so much or be in as much pain over it. 🩵

You are definitely not a bad person. Please don’t talk about yourself that way! 🩵

Hi Renn

Well it sounds like the main thing that was attractive about your partner was his appearance since he didn’t flirt very much.

This other guy has both. Are you really happy in your current relationship if you are entertaining this? 🩵

It is respectful to your partner to shut down flirtatious behaviour. If I find others attractive whilst I’m in a relationship, I tend to just avoid them. Saves any hassle. 🩵

Dear Anita

Thanks for thinking of me. 🤍

Sorry, I have just been busy with the holidays. 😊

First a cold and now a bladder infection. You are under the mill a bit at the moment. What a way to start the new year. I suppose you are hopefully getting all of the bad luck out of the way early. You deserve a good long run of good luck next. 🤍

I agree with equality and I’m glad that you stand up for yourself. I think it’s great that you see that you no longer blame yourself for your mother’s misery and can see her lies for what they are. Cherish your goodness! 🤍