Hi ScottyDye

I hear how tough and frustrating it is. Your situation is not easy. Caring for loved ones with dementia is harrowing even without dealing with other difficult family members. 🩵

It sounds like you are the responsible one. I’d suggest, that you don’t have a responsibility to chip in for other able bodied adults when things are tight. If they skip a meal, they will be okay. You are providing quality care for your grandma of extraordinary worth. Put the money instead towards the electricity and turn on a light.

I understand the desire to leave. But what do you think would happen to your grandma without you there? If you really feel like you can’t continue, maybe test it first for a short period to see what happens.

You will not forgive yourself if her care is compromised. You are a good person, clearly and you’re aware that she cannot fend for herself.

Life is difficult sometimes. There is a cost for doing the right thing. Other family members being butts the cost. And as difficult as they are they did try to look out for you by giving you a place to stay when your mental health was worse.

So I would say do your best to ignore their behaviour. It is nothing to do with you or your worth. 🩵

Does your grandma have a wheelchair? Is it possible to take her for a walk or is she too unstable? 🩵

How was your relationship with your grandmother before her dementia?

Hi ScottyDye

Wow, thanks for sharing your story. You’ve been through so much. 🩵 Well done on pulling yourself through it, it’s not an easy thing to do. Entirely down to your drive and strength of character. I like the excellent advice you shared on the other thread too. 😊

I think it’s a shame that the difficulties of weed use are not more widely known, because a lot of people think weed is harmless.

Looking forward to hearing more from you! 🩵

Hi everyone

I notice more and more that my thoughts are dictated by my body. Low on neurotransmitters = negativity. Higher amounts = positivity. The mind claims ownership of thoughts, as if it created them, instead of reacting to changes in the body and environment. 🩵

My friend has a non-verbal autistic son in his teens. All of a sudden he started becoming extremely moody and misbehaving. It took a while to get to the source of the problem because he couldn’t tell anyone. He was in pain.

I also wanted to share a new gratitude technique I learned. It’s about acknowledging privilege whilst suffering. Actively looking for the silver lining. ☀️

Having a tough time that is temporary? At least I get to learn from it. A sick child. At least he is still here. It will not last forever. A rough time financially? It forces you to be creative and consider what you value. And be thankful for what you do have. Some people have even less. Some children die. Some people might not have a family to advocate hard for them. 🙏

Maybe you could ask some members of your church to set you up with someone for a date?

Hi Kris

I guess it depends on what country you’re from. I was talking about western places like Europe and the US.

Ah, I see! You’re very traditional and have strong morals. That makes dating difficult these days. Have you tried religious it dating websites? I don’t know if you’d have any better luck there?

Hmm well you wouldn’t technically have to wait if you looked for a partner who was older. A lot of people are settling down in their 30s and 40s these days.

I’m sorry that the dating scene is so tough. I really don’t like it myself. I don’t think it’s very fair to women. In my experience, it’s a lot of women looking for long term partners. Or men who are more desperate. But if you can find someone who has good traditional values that would be amazing. Just not the easiest thing to find. Considering partners who are a bit further away can give you some more options if you’re willing to travel.

I wish you good luck with everything! 🩵

Hi Everyone

I guess being a parent has taught me that suffering is just a part of human nature. A child will just cry over the smallest things. Even a baby will do that. The back light of a tv is shining against a wall. Waaa! I’m not being held! Waaaa! I don’t want to potty waaaa! I don’t want to go in the pram! Waaa! Give me some of your hot dog even though I just ate my own! Waa!

We communicate and are social creatures. Feelings help us to do that. They drive us to communicate our needs. But not everything is going to happen that we wish. Disappointment. Oh well, time to move onto something else. Might as well go have some fun doing something else. Such is life. Ups and downs. It is difficult for people though who have been through extensive adverse experiences because their nervous systems get stuck on the base line level of trauma. Takes a lot of work and time to heal. 🩵

Hi Roberta & Everyone

Sorry I haven’t caught your previous recommended video yet. Just been quite busy. I should be able to watch it this week. 😊

How are you doing? Thinking of you and your family! 🩵

This has a grim title, but this lady’s attitude is so inspiring, the way she managed so much! 🙏

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=r4SZ1MrUA_o&pp=ugUHEgVlbi1HQtIHCQk_CwGHKiGM7w%3D%3D&ra=m