Hi Confused

Happy new year! 🥳 Did you get up to much over the holidays? 🩵

I was wondering how much time you spend with friends or family socialising in person?

Did you say that your mom died 15 years ago? So you would be very young for that to happen. It’s a massive trauma. I know another guy who lost his mom when he was a kid and he suffers from depression too. It seems to really leave a mark on people.

Another person lost their brother and father and it was very hard for them too. Particularly because of the way it happened.

Hmm well for a long distance relationship, in my experience when you meet in person it is nice. But the distance part is hard. I found it especially sad after a trip ends.

All you can really do is try to connect with each other regularly online. But if you meet the right person it can be worth it.

I think considering everything you’ve been through in life the way you feel is understandable. You have been through a lot, lot more than most for your age.

Trying to outrun how you feel… well it wouldn’t really make sense or be human for you to not have difficulties. Feeling the difficulties, talking about them. Letting them be without trying to escape them. Whilst it is painful, leads to healing. If you didn’t like the therapist it might be worth trying a different one? They vary a lot in quality.

You really do have a lot of trauma to process. 🩵

I suffered a lot when I was young too. It is not easy going through all of the pain but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. 🩵

Dear Anita

I’m so glad! I think he’s definitely starting to settle in then. The drooling is normal. He does seem to enjoy the tap room. He’s always having nice experiences there. 🤍

It definitely wasn’t me! It’s all down to the bond you are building with Bogart. Your hard work is paying off. 🤍

Happy New Year! 🎇 🎆

Roberta, Tee, James and everyone else as well. 🩵 🩵 🩵

Hi Peter

Happy New Year! 🎆 🎇 🩵

Loving your poetry as always. 😊

Hmm a letter to myself this year. All I can do is try my best and try to take it easy. A conundrum! Spend more time meditating when I can.

By this time next year, my son will be in a new stage of life with a nursery. I hope that he enjoys it and makes some friends.

I guess, it seems like there might be some new health issues for me. I’m hoping for stupid, easy or mid tier.

I’ll be in the final year of my bachelor’s. Try to keep my grades up, so I can do a masters, if I want to later on.

It is just the stage of my life. 🩵

Hi Everyone

Confucius was sad near the end of his life. A disciple came by to cheer him up, singing and playing music. “Why are you so happy?” Confucius said.

“You showed me that there are miracles everywhere. What is not to be happy about?” Explained the disciple.

“Yes, I did say that in the past. Here is what I know to be true now. There is also suffering everywhere in the world and I cannot change it. Should the good be abandoned because of the suffering? What would be the point in that?” Replied Confucius.

So they played music and sang together. 🩵 🙏

Hi James

Yes, like I said. I am familiar with the miracle of breathing. No point being proven. Keep philosophising. You don’t know me at all. So who are you talking to really? 🩵

Dear Anita

I’m glad to hear the new cable came quickly and that you’re able to use a computer again! I’m sorry to hear that you’re still ill. I hope it passes quickly and you feel better soon. 🤒 🤍

Sorry I was quiet yesterday. I actually fell asleep. 😴 My son slept through the night for the first time in ages though, so I’m better rested today. Hopefully, this continues. 🤍

I got my medication this evening. Thankfully. 😊

Oh goodness your list of things Bogart chewed on reminded me of even more things that had been eaten. 😂

Bra straps… so many bra straps. Just the straps, making it useless. I ended up changing to sports bras because they have thicker straps. 😂

Not to fear, the chewing will not last forever. Although it might feel like it. 🤍

I can understand why you would feel bad scolding him. Here is what actually helped me understand it. Dogs understand tone more than language. So it is the tone that defines a boundary for them. You are just saying no in their language, a way that they understand. It helps them to know what they are and aren’t allowed to do. Funnily enough, I learned this in a parenting class. As you said, young children are similar. 🤍