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AlessaParticipantHi James
Yes, like I said. I am familiar with the miracle of breathing. No point being proven. Keep philosophising. You don’t know me at all. So who are you talking to really? 🩵
AlessaParticipantHi James
You can philosophise all you want.
Miracles are not news to me. There is no point being proven. 🩵
AlessaParticipantDear Anita
I’m glad to hear the new cable came quickly and that you’re able to use a computer again! I’m sorry to hear that you’re still ill. I hope it passes quickly and you feel better soon. 🤒 🤍
Sorry I was quiet yesterday. I actually fell asleep. 😴 My son slept through the night for the first time in ages though, so I’m better rested today. Hopefully, this continues. 🤍
I got my medication this evening. Thankfully. 😊
Oh goodness your list of things Bogart chewed on reminded me of even more things that had been eaten. 😂
Bra straps… so many bra straps. Just the straps, making it useless. I ended up changing to sports bras because they have thicker straps. 😂
Not to fear, the chewing will not last forever. Although it might feel like it. 🤍
I can understand why you would feel bad scolding him. Here is what actually helped me understand it. Dogs understand tone more than language. So it is the tone that defines a boundary for them. You are just saying no in their language, a way that they understand. It helps them to know what they are and aren’t allowed to do. Funnily enough, I learned this in a parenting class. As you said, young children are similar. 🤍
AlessaParticipantHi James
I think that people have different perspectives on this.
A lot of people have been through some pretty challenging abuse here.
I understand what you’re trying to get at. But I don’t necessary agree. 🩵
If you have a child, they bite you, they slap you, keep you up all night. Even a teenager shouting and swearing or hitting. Developmentally appropriate. But when we are adults, we are supposed to manage our emotions and behaviour because we understand that these things are harmful to others.
It is sad that adults don’t receive the same unconditional love that children do. But it also serves a purpose. It protects people from harm.
Is intentionally behaving in ways that are triggering to people who have PTSD an expression of love? Or is it causing unnecessary harm?
Calling Anita the devil was harsh and the timing was poor. She was already having a bad day. 🩵
Judging what you think is best for people isn’t necessarily appropriate all the time. It is easy to misjudge things and mistakes. It helpful to try and understand others perspectives. 🩵
Personally, I don’t like to play games or argue.
AlessaParticipantYes! Wishing you and your family a Happy New Year too. May it bring many blessings. 🩵 🎆
AlessaParticipantHi Tommy
Thanks for sharing the story! You are right, it is easy for people to be hurt even when you are trying to be kind. 🩵
I have always struggled with things like that. I’m learning that it helpful to try to understand others perspectives to avoid these faux pas. But even then all we can do is try our best and of course stay calm and try to take care of others if we accidentally hurt their feelings. 🩵
Thinking about how to do this without speech for the story. I guess pay attention to body language? It is said that we mostly communicate through body language and not our words. Where does that leave us writing online? 🩵
AlessaParticipantDear Anita
Oh good! I hope it comes quickly. 🤍
Yes, it is a lot dog proofing, especially since it is a first. You will get there and they will still find new things to chew on! 🤍
To be honest, that is just modern life. Wires exist. My pup chewed the plug off a brand new electric blanket rendering the whole thing useless. Just have to unplug things when you are done with them. It’s all you can do. And scold whenever they go near them. For safety. 🤍
A list of different things that my pups over the years have chewed on. I hope it entertains! A passport, a wallet, glasses, shoes, slippers, a tube of medicine that was literally put down for one minute (required an immediate vet visit), loose flooring, a couch, cushions, my sons toys.
They are like babies exploring the world by putting things in their mouth for a while, but they do get the hang of it in time. 🤍
My son has been sleeping badly for about a month because he has been sick. Therefore, I sleep badly. 😂
I’m trying to get him to settle back into a routine now he’s feeling better. 🤍
AlessaParticipantDear Anita
Oh no! Bogart! I hope that a power cable will be easier to replace? He is lucky that he didn’t get electrocuted if it was plugged in? What bad luck both computers are down at the same time!!!! 🤍 🤍 🤍
AlessaParticipantHi Squiggly Pop
Wow, so you are in limbo not just in dating, but in life? 🩵
Since Covid changed your plans and led you back home, perhaps it might be time for you to dream up some new plans? It sounds like you don’t really want to settle where you are? No wonder you feel lonely. Even with dating, since you don’t really plan on sticking around. It adds an extra layer of tension. If you did find something, you might have to stay or break up, with only a slim chance of success.
It is natural to want to find your person. Not only your person, but build your life in a way that makes you happy. 🩵
At the moment, this escapist memory is the only kind of link to your dream to a life elsewhere. Not to mention, the romantic and exciting nature of a holiday romance. It is free of all of the current pitfalls in your life. A chance of a dream that you long for, which has been closed to you. How frustrating!
I wonder, what it is about your home that you don’t enjoy? 🩵
AlessaParticipantDear Anita
I hear your longing for a mother to love. It is truly a shame. She and you would have been entirely different people if that were the case.🤍
It is good that you place the responsibility squarely where it lies. With your mother and not yourself. I’m sorry that you suffered at her hands, I know you deserved so much more. 🤍
I’m glad to hear that your disassociation and ticks are easing. You deserve peace and to be completely free of her. 🤍
I do honestly think you are making the right decision not to contact her before she dies. I don’t plan on doing that either with my mother.
You spend a lot of your life with her. It is only fair that you experience peace without her. As you say, not everything is about her. It is your time now. Not hers. 🤍
AlessaParticipantDear Anita
Oh gosh! I’m so sorry to hear about your computer. That is so unfortunate. 🤍
You are not having a good time of it at the moment, first a cold and now this. I hope you can figure something out and start to feel better soon. 🤍
Hopefully, tomorrow evening if the doctor and pharmacy are both open. 🙏 I have been trying my best to distract myself and take it easy. Or as easy as you can get with a kid running around. 🤍
AlessaParticipantHi James
Well, most people who want to help people choose to study with the lineages because they feel it helps them to help even more people. But it is okay if you are happy where you are. 🩵
It is hard work and a lifetime of practice and commitment, especially when lineage heads don’t even consider themselves enlightened. Just progressing through various stages. 🩵
AlessaParticipantHi James
I don’t know if you’re interested in actual lineages that pursue spiritual practices?
It might be a sore spot because whilst you have had some insight due to your experiences with drugs and meditation. You wouldn’t be considered enlightened from their perspectives.
At least a foundational level of cultivation would be required, as well as health. With your major surgery which would mean that you have some blockages, you wouldn’t be considered healthy.
These lineages also practice healing and offer these services. I don’t know if you’re interested in going deeper into these things or if you’re happy where you are? But I’m happy to connect you if you’re interested. There is a Daoist-Buddhist lineage and a Muslim one. So you would be free to explore in a way that feels suitable. 🩵
AlessaParticipantHi Tee
Thank you Tee! I was sorry to read that you also experience central sensitisation too. It isn’t a pleasant experience. 🩵
I’m trying to stay very calm. I dare say, that I have no choice than to take it easy. My body has grounded me.
Funnily enough, medication for pain relief these days is turning to neurotransmitters. Not because of mental health, but it turns out neurotransmitters manage a lot of functions in the body. Serotonin apparently blocks pain signals in the spinal cord. And regulates sleep, which is very important for managing pain sensitivity.
I’m trying to learn about other ways to get serotonin. Exercise and sunlight mostly. With some fruits and vegetables being a source that is easy to absorb. I didn’t realise that sunlight helps with serotonin. I’m going to try using my electric bike for some gentle exercise outside. See if that helps. 🩵
AlessaParticipantDear Anita
Thank you, my friend! It is the fibromyalgia. I ran out of medication over the holidays. I will hopefully get some more by the end of tomorrow 🤍
Thank you for checking in. I’m thinking about you too! It is so nice to read your pupventures.🤍
Blue is my favourite colour. 😊
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