Hi Omyk

My thoughts are with you. Do you want to talk about it? ❤️

It is not easy having few people that you are close to. I moved a lot in life and I am similar to you in that way.

It sounds like your friend would miss you if you moved. Sometimes people don’t say directly how they feel and make vague hints about their preferences.

It makes sense to want to be near your brother one of the few people you are close with.

Please guide and protect Omyk and his loved ones safe on their journey. May they be free of dangers, enemies and mental anxieties. Help them to live freely with good bodies and healthy minds. Amen! 🙏

Hi Everyone

Lovely to see you around again Peter! ❤️

Funnily enough, I’ve been thinking about motivation recently too. I haven’t finished working on it yet. I’m still thinking. I don’t have much time to sit and think about things, so it might take me a while.

What even is a good relationship with emotions? 😂

I really like that quote from W H Auden. The Alan Watts quote had me thinking too.

Quite often when I’m afraid it is not because of the present, but the past. I prefer the present, but shadows of the past keep popping up. It is engraved in me deeply. I would prefer to be free of the past as opposed to the present. Although, I suppose what I have difficulty is when the two converge.

I’m largely motivated by necessity. Most of the decisions in my life have been circumstantial. It makes me wonder what my nature actually is.

Ooh now you’ve got me thinking. Little bit of chicken or the egg going on there with the mind being created by experiences. But I understand what is meant. It is a good point that the mind often creates it’s own problems. Sometimes we just need to get out of our own way.

Sometimes the same words can mean different things to different people.

Not fixing, I would think of as self-acceptance. Quite possibly the pinnacle of self-compassion?

It is interesting that people are similar and yet different.

Hi Omyk

I would imagine because you are so busy, it would be difficult to develop new relationships?

Working two jobs and raising a child on your own is not easy. Where is room for following your own desires?

I learned to identify people who are comfortable with sharing more intense feelings. There are also social conventions in regards to sharing feelings. When forming new relationships it is generally preferred to slowly share more as you get to know someone.

I’m sorry to hear that you’re dealing with a lot of rejection from your child at the moment. Sadly, it is a phase they go through as they establish their independence.

I’m sorry to hear that you lost your parents, as well as your wife. That is a lot of loss in a relatively short period. Have you ever seen a grief counsellor? You are welcome to talk as much as you would like to about your grief here.

It seems like you have lost most of the people you were close to? Now, the relationship with your child is changing. It is not an easy thing you are going through at all.

I don’t think you are unpleasant or narcissistic at all. You are actually a really lovely person who is going through a tough time. ❤️

Please feel free to email if you would like to chat. 😊

tbthrowaway64@gmail.com

As for making friends… because of the time limitations. I would recommend patience when meeting new people. A hobby group might be better if you are looking for new friends. It would cast a wider net being around multiple people at once. Personally, I find it much nicer to meet people organically as opposed to dating apps.

It takes time to develop strong relationships with people and no doubt they will have busy lives too.

Hi Yana

I hope your mother recovers well after the surgery. It isn’t an easy process I hear. ❤️

It is beautiful that you have found ways to talk to each other openly.

I can believe that she does love you all very much. The situation for you all was not easy when you were younger. It is good that you can see how much she cares. Not many people get that level of insight without first having children of their own. You have a lot of empathy for others. People make mistakes and there is a saying that a lot of parents often have. By the time you finish raising children, you have learned how to raise a child.

Not very easy for that experience to come as the situation is ending instead of at the beginning.

Hi Anita

Thank you so much as well! ❤️

Yes, spot on about loneliness. I wonder what helps you to accept and value yourself?

To be honest, I don’t have much in the way of an identity. I’m a creature of circumstance.

In a way, having a child has been a gift. I went through similar difficulties no doubt to what my biological mother experienced and I didn’t lose myself in it like she did. I can see now, how different I am from her in the way that I’m raising my son. I am very lucky in that I have had a lot of help over the years, during the newborn stage and even the toddler stage. Without it, I might not have been so lucky.

Wow, that is a shame. I’m sorry to hear that she hated herself to that level. Does your face bear any resemblance to your mother’s face at all? I’m sorry if this is a painful question. You don’t need to answer it.

I’m so sorry that your mother wasn’t able to give you the love that every child deserves from their parents. Instead, she took out her demons on you… a very painful thing to grow up with, for she had many to do the things that she did.

I feel like the love a parent offers can be offered by others and it can be just as valid. It took me a long time to come to this conclusion. It was healing for me, to be able to acknowledge that and allow myself to feel loved by others.

Would it be okay if I say a prayer for your Mother?

I’m glad that expressing expressed and repressed feelings is helping you.

I was wondering, if there are any things that you enjoy or even don’t enjoy in communication with others?

I like to learn about others preferences and try to accommodate them. I would like to accommodate your needs and respect your wishes. ❤️

I know that some of the things I say can be interpreted differently from my intent and sometimes it can even be painful for people. I would not wish to cause you pain, and if I ever do. I hope that you communicate it, so I can apologise. I am trying to be more mindful of how I communicate, because I know that I can be too straightforward sometimes and it can be painful.

Hi Jana

Not to worry, I’m okay. 😊

I think you’re onto something with the expressing of positive emotion and treating yourself as a best friend.

Having a child has really helped with positive self talk because of the amount of positive expression that I am practicing on a daily basis. Practice makes perfect, as they say.

Knowledge isn’t everything. I feel like you have a natural intuition and wisdom on your side. I think this is a really important and valuable perspective. ❤️

I’m glad that you aren’t lonely. It is a shame that there aren’t more people you are compatible with in your home country. My favourite thing to do is walk the dogs. 🐩 🐕 🐕‍🦺 ☀️ 🌳 🏞️ I would love to learn how to identify mushrooms. 🍄 🍄‍🟫

Hi Peter

I really appreciate your thoughts! ❤️

I used to as well, as a child. 😊 Now, I tend to read to solve problems.

I read that it is important to label your feelings and theirs, as well as to link to a cause. I guess it teaches them to understand and express emotions.

Was it complicated growing up, since your parents didn’t express their emotions? Did you have to learn how to manage emotions by yourself?

That is a lovely way to look at things. Thank you! 🙏

Haha well it’s good that the not knowing instinct is finally coming in handy. 😂