Hi Tee

I know you’ll get through it, you’re a very resilient and resourceful woman. I hope it gets easier for you soon. 🩵

Yes, you are right catastrophsing would only make things worse. 🩵

What are your favourite techniques for emotionally regulating? I was curious about your mention of somatic techniques earlier. I’m always keen to try new things. 🩵

That is a shame it doesn’t copy and paste. It must be because I’m on a mobile.

Thank you for your kindness Tee and for not judging me! It means more than you know. You’re an angel 😇 🩵

I’ll try and keep it short and sweet, because I read that you’re stepping back from tb a bit and working on a project. Please take as much time as you need to reply. No rush. 🩵

I’m actually a quiet person with a soft voice. It is a challenge for me to sound more serious. 😊

Fortunately, it never got to the stage of needing to prevent myself from acting on them. 🩵

Yes, it was all very frightening. I guess they need to do these things because they have to rule out psychosis which could lead to a baby being harmed.

Therapy for post partum depression is not really recommended. They tend to rely on medication, but I was breastfeeding couldn’t take medication until I stopped.

I had a short course of therapy for the intrusive thoughts because I started having panic attacks. Now, I have a good albeit expensive therapist who specialises in postpartum, neurodivergence and trauma. All is well that ends well. 😊

Yes, she did blame us and didn’t want to admit her mistakes. I think admitting mistakes is important because it is not healthy to gloss over abuse. The gaslighting is so harmful of course. In a way, I was lucky that my abuse was so cut and dry. The attempts at gaslighting were rather transparent.

With the blaming and gaslighting along with the physical needs being taken care of, as well as the abuse. I imagine it would be rather confusing for a child and hard to understand clearly what is going on. 🩵

She tried to get help by the time I was in my tweens. She was taking medication for a while before, but the doctor she had was not helpful and just brushed her off as depressed. She needed a lot more than antidepressants.

It wasn’t until we moved to a bigger town and her doctor changed that she started getting more help and she was taken more seriously. We got a social worker who was terrible. We did family therapy briefly which was useless. Then she let me go to therapy on my own. Eventually she started seeing her own psychologist or psychiatrist and was institutionalised.

Yes, I agree. When I was in school we didn’t have psychologists at all. Schools here do have them now though, I hear, which is an upgrade.

That is a shame your school psychologist didn’t bother with other kids only the troublesome ones. I agree, all children should be supported to the fullest extent. You deserved help and care as much as any other child. 🩵

It is a shame that your school’s psychologist was viewed as problematic by children. That must have discouraged children from actively seeking help?

I feel like teachers are in the best position to pick up on difficulties that children have, since they spend the most time with them. It would be great if they had some trauma informed training to spot signs of difficulties and I agree with you about mental health support. It is such a shame that they are so overworked. 🩵

Thinking of you, take care 🩵